Dear Daddy Response

A Voice for Men ^ | December 28, 2015 | AVfM Video Source

[Utilizer]

An excellent must view response...

[Utilizer]

A topic that is rarely discussed in any of the mainstream media outlets today: the topic of fathers who have had their children taken away from them. In this case, one of those children narrates a vid relating what happens too often to the offspring involved.

This strikes a personal chord, and I though some of you FReepers might wish to chime in.

I think the video at the website is well worth spending a few minutes of your time viewing...

[SaraJohnson]

I know this is true for males on a grand scale and it breaks my heart. It gets worse with each generation.

The males I have known closely have been wonderful. I love the nature of males. God made no mistakes.

Females who use and abuse males don’t know any better. They have been socialized by our society to act like this just as the Islamist males have been socialized to abuse women. Men and women have also been socialized to have a false sense of “normal” long term relationships which guarantees failure in true love fulfilled.

There is no freedom nor beauty in disrespect, unkindness and injustice. Either way. Abusing one another is like cutting off one’s own legs.

Thanks, femi-nazis. The left fixed relationships between men and women the same as they fixed relations between blacks and whites. And they are still at us.

[Rebelbase]

I lost my kids via a poor choice of an attorney on my part. The ex hired a divorce pitbull.

Every other weekend and two weeks vacation was the decree.

It was devastating for a few months. The only choice I had was to suck up to the ex and offer to take the kids to school so they wouldn’t have to ride the bus which turned into my also picking them up from school. It was tough juggling the work schedule but through it I was able to see the kids every day.

Gradually she allowed me to host them for dinner once a week, which turned into over-nights. Once she started dating again I was offered the kids more frequently which eventually turned into twice a weekday over-nights which made for 3 day weekends.

This routine went on for a full year. I waited until the right time and filed for a new visitation ruling. Due to some bad behavior on her part, she didn’t want to have to talk to a judge and granted me half time with the kids.

As the years rolled on I spent every bit of free time possible with both sons and was only a phone call away for any problems they were having with their mother (there were plenty, quite the hell more often than not).

It’s been 20 years since it all started. Both kids are grown. I moved away from the hometown and they followed me. We see each other more now than back home.

Their mother is now the one in the doghouse by their choice and they handle that relationship on their own terms, not hers.

I have a friend who married the daughter of an uber rich family. They got divorced when the kids were little and she took them (he lost) and moved back to Miami, 800 miles away. He had had a business and chose not to leave it and only saw the kids on holidays and two weeks in the summer.

He made every one of those trips count. The family was filthy rich and the kids were raised as Sidney Sweetbush and Polly Princess—except for when he showed up.

He’d take them hunting and return the kids to the mansion dressed in cammo. And he’d take them fishing, hiking, snorkeling, camping, target practice etc—anything and everything that was the opposite of they way they were being raised.

Those kids are grown now and they have a close relationship with their father by their own choice.

Show the kids love and let know you understand they are in a difficult position, keep in contact with them and the payoff will be favorable down the road.

[Utilizer]

Thank you for your kind understanding. I try very hard not to think about it, especially at this time of year, but having experienced this (the legal removal of the child I fathered) and having to endure no attempt to reconnect with Me for so many years, the fact that this vid shows that at least this individual has the clarity of thought not to blame his father for what has occurred in their lives is a very powerful source of emotions at this time.

I would love to be a part of My child’s life, but circumstances, the courts, and the mother have all worked out to the point where I have no hope of effecting any change upon the situation as it stands for any aspect of the forseeable future.

When I think of all the “deadbeat dads” that could not care less about all the “babyz” they have with more than one “babymommas” it just grates upon Me to no end when I know that I would give anything to be able to be there for My offspring if at all possible.

This vid brought Me to tears, and I wish so many other fathers were not undergoing and understanding what is portrayed here, but I fear that this is just the tip of the iceberg that no one really wishes to address.

[Utilizer]

Thank you for your kind words of support, but that did not work out in My case. I am happy that you managed to find a way to see your children as much as you could.

My case, the -ex accused Me of everything and anything, and of course The Courts were extremely worried and did not wish to place any children in any chance of danger. Add to the fact that the Family Court Services “Councilor” was a far-leftist, anti-gun, pro-LGBT proponent who disliked strong male individuals and their beliefs, and needless to say I did not come out on the ‘balanced’ end of the scales when all was said and done.

Then, a few years after the mother realized that there was going to be more visitation allowd in the coming years since the small amount of visitation I had managed to achieve had worked out so well, she somehow decided that she should take drastic action to terminate the work required of her to provide for visitation. She swore out an accusation that in the past I had done some unspeakable things that made it imperative that I never be allowed near My offspring again.

Then she swore the same thing to My offspring. I will leave you to guess what the accusation was, but suffice to say that the police were unwilling to help Me clear My name, her family threatened to take extreme action at the earliest possible opportunity, and not only was I not able to see My offspring any more but every official I contacted stated that there was no interest other than My own concerning continuing contact, in any way shape or form.

My own offspring will not listen when I am attempting to tell the truth, and two decades later I still do not know if I will ever see that situation change.

I try not to get depressed, but realistically there is nothing I can do. I can not force anyone to see Me, and no one is willing to give Me the benefit of a doubt. Innocent until proven guilty is not an accepted position in certain families, it would appear, and so My brainwashed offspring believe it is better that I never again be spoken to.

This vid expresses what I had always hoped: that someone might recognize that it is not their father’s fault that they are not in their lives.

God knows I have tried so many times and for over two decades just to change this situation that I find Myself in.

I hope that soon others may wake up to the fact that simply because one is a man, does not immediately make him a danger to his family or the children around him.

I can only pray...

[Twink]

My oldest brother is still pretty much estranged from his two adult sons but they do see each other occasionally. On Christmas Eve, I asked my oldest nephew if everything was ok, if he was mad at my brother/that I thought my brother thought he was mad at him...and shockingly, he said no. He said he had no problem with his dad and realized just how much his dad had to endure with his mother (my brother’s ex). This has been an ongoing thing but I hope they will eventually get closer. Same with his younger brother and his relationship with my brother.

That divorce (way back in the early 80s)ripped our family apart in some ways and I’m glad to have a relationship with those nephews and their families. Now I just have to set up a dinner or lunch ;) Start another tradition.

What my ex sil did to the relationship between my brother and his sons is awful but worse is what happened afterward.They threw away numerous opportunities with each other. Over stupid crap.

The video is what happens in numerous families. It’s heartbreaking.

[Twink]

OMG just watched the other video.

Propaganda at it’s finest.

[SaraJohnson]

I’m really sorry you are going through all this. It hurts to love so deeply in a situation like this.

You could write notes/cards to you child(ren) every birthday and holiday and put them in a folder. Add birthday and Christmas money for the toys you could not get for them. Then, when they are adults, give them the folder so they know you loved and missed them.

There could be a group of men in your shoes who combine efforts to do public service announcements to fatherless children like the video you put up, billboards on buses, etc. It’s about time men and boys come out about being abused in the family court system and in general. A lot of women would support these men and boys, too.

[reviled downesdad]

Thanks, femi-nazis. The left fixed relationships between men and women the same as they fixed relations between blacks and whites. And they are still at us. Well said.

[rfreedom4u]

I’ve never understood how a dad can give up so easily on seeing their kids. I realize the courts/ex can be a real pain but kids are worth the fight.

Kids need a male figure in their lives. My youngest grandson’s father is in rehab and he almost never sees him. Anytime I am around he gravitates to me and we rough house a bit and he eats it up. If you aren’t going to be there for your kids someone else will. And in too many cases that someone is someone you don’t want around the kids!