Posted on 07/23/2013 7:51:36 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Noting the comeback campaigns of Eliot Spitzer and Anthony Weiner in New York, feminist author Hanna Rosin wonders why 50 years into the sexual revolution women politicians lag so far behind men in the sex-scandal tally. She notes biological and evolutionary explanations only to reject them in favor of the idea that women are just too unused to power to abuse it in that way. Shes cheered, though, by surveys showing that younger women are cheating on their spouses almost as much as men, and confidently looks forward to the not-too-distant day when well find ourselves willing to look past the indiscretions of women philanderers too.
Welcome to the feminist paradise, where the ideal is for women to model themselves not just on men, but on the worst men.
Fifty years ago, Betty Friedan, a restless Marxist, published The Feminine Mystique. Its premise was that women were miserable in the comfortable concentration camp of domestic life but were too brainwashed to know it. The job of feminism was to raise the consciousness of these benighted dupes. Friedans timing was felicitous. The U.S. economy was expanding dramatically, labor-saving devices had made housework much less time-consuming, and technological progress was making brain work more valuable than physical strength in the marketplace. Friedan and her many acolytes were pushing on an open door.
But they pushed in the wrong direction. Not satisfied with encouraging women to pursue careers and correcting legal barriers to womens equality, feminists sought nothing less than the obliteration of family life and traditional sexual mores. The double standard in matters of sex, they taught, favored men. The solution was promiscuity for everyone (enabled by unrestricted abortion).
It was a foolish and self-defeating wrong turn.
Fifty years on, we have this dispatch from the University of Pennsylvania: Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too, a New York Times account of the way women at one Ivy League school are supposedly hooking up in preference to having relationships. Its not that the sexual revolution actually favored men, the Times reassures its readers, its just that women are too focused on careers to make time for men. They pursue sex with hookup buddies without a flicker of regret.
This is the new brainwashing. Women have been sold (and sold and sold) on the notion that happiness and fulfillment are to be found in careers. Marriage and children are items to be calendared after the M.B.A., J.D., or Ph.D. Sex is recreation. Getting attached to the human being behind the sex organ can limit your internship options.
Cheerleading articles like Hanna Rosins 2012 Atlantic piece Boys on the Side argue that, far from enduring the hookup culture, women are enjoying their promiscuous freedom. The New York Times piece is in that mold.
I dont believe it for a second. Neither article bothers to deny what all of the research shows namely, that women get themselves sloppy drunk before they engage in hookups. If casual, anonymous sex is so enjoyable for women, why the need to anesthetize themselves first? And if women are calling the shots, why do men get oral sex in hookups far more often than women do?
The Times piece notes that the hookup culture isnt as widespread as media treatment would suggest. According to a recent survey, 40 percent of college seniors either are virgins or have had sex with only one person. Some student groups, like the Love and Fidelity Network, are self-consciously countercultural. Still, most students must deal with the sexual degradation that is a feature of most campuses. Several women students confessed to the Times that they engaged in hookups only after concluding that waiting for a relationship was unrealistic. Here is one students account of a typical freshman fraternity party:
You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement, Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. Theres girls dancing in the middle, and theres guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.
Charming. Another girl explained why her encounters in her first two years of college usually ended with fellatio. Early in the evening, shed get very drunk.
By the time she got back to a guys room, she was starting to sober up and didnt want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.
It takes a lot of spin to call that liberation.
Mona Charen is a nationally syndicated columnist.
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Secular humanism, with its denial of ethical and moral absolutes, leads to calls for ethical subjectivism and relativism, and the psychology of self actualization, which leads to moral permissiveness, and experimental lifestyles.Sexual permissiveness and destruction of the traditional family and marriage are the result.
Times change. Usually not for the better it seems.
Those who ascribe to Humanism not only define morality for themselves, but use the Laws of God and traditional morality based on same
as a “counter guideline” as to what should be valued and disdained.
Not true. The old pagans had respect for life, for family, for courage and for decency. Thus C.S. Lewis:
Cliche Came Out of its Cage
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You said 'The world is going back to Paganism'.
Oh bright Vision! I saw our dynasty in the bar of the House
Spill from their tumblers a libation to the Erinyes,
And Leavis with Lord Russell wreathed in flowers, heralded with flutes,
Leading white bulls to the cathedral of the solemn Muses
To pay where due the glory of their latest theorem.
Hestia's fire in every flat, rekindled, burned before
The Lardergods. Unmarried daughters with obedient hands
Tended it. By the hearth the white-armd venerable mother
Domum servabat, lanam faciebat. At the hour
Of sacrifice their brothers came, silent, corrected, grave
Before their elders; on their downy cheeks easily the blush
Arose (it is the mark of freemen's children) as they trooped,
Gleaming with oil, demurely home from the palaestra or the dance.
Walk carefully, do not wake the envy of the happy gods,
Shun Hubris. The middle of the road, the middle sort of men,
Are best. Aidos surpasses gold. Reverence for the aged
Is wholesome as seasonable rain, and for a man to die
Defending the city in battle is a harmonious thing.
Thus with magistral hand the Puritan Sophrosyne
Cooled and schooled and tempered our uneasy motions;
Heathendom came again, the circumspection and the holy fears ...
You said it. Did you mean it? Oh inordinate liar, stop.
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Or did you mean another kind of heathenry?
Think, then, that under heaven-roof the little disc of the earth,
Fortified Midgard, lies encircled by the ravening Worm.
Over its icy bastions faces of giant and troll
Look in, ready to invade it. The Wolf, admittedly, is bound;
But the bond wil1 break, the Beast run free. The weary gods,
Scarred with old wounds the one-eyed Odin, Tyr who has lost a hand,
Will limp to their stations for the last defence. Make it your hope
To be counted worthy on that day to stand beside them;
For the end of man is to partake of their defeat and die
His second, final death in good company. The stupid, strong
Unteachable monsters are certain to be victorious at last,
And every man of decent blood is on the losing side.
Take as your model the tall women with yellow hair in plaits
Who walked back into burning houses to die with men,
Or him who as the death spear entered into his vitals
Made critical comments on its workmanship and aim.
Are these the Pagans you spoke of? Know your betters and crouch, dogs;
You that have Vichy water in your veins and worship the event
Your goddess History (whom your fathers called the strumpet Fortune).
Makes you just want to go and put a ring on her finger. Right, guys?
For most guys in college, it's still not like that. The "liberated" women are pursuing hookups with a relatively small contingent of desirable males. I would guess 20% of the guys are getting 80% of the interest.
The "alpha males" will readily accept women for sex and a little intimacy, but will be FAR more picky when asked for commitment. I knew such a guy in college: handsome, athletic, smart, later became a successful professional. I talked to him last year, and he was in his 50's and never married.
Meanwhile, the hookup girls spend their 20's chasing the alpha males, wind up hitting 30 and decide to "settle" for some regular guy. They are then disappointed and bitter when the guys are uninterested in their high-mileage selves. (My wife was smart and got me in my 20's).
Agreed.
As they say about incest, casual meaningless sex is better than no sex al all. lol
Personally, I find that type of woman disgusting and hardly worthy of any respect whatsoever.
My solution is to ignore them. However, couple this style of behavior with a demographic of fatherless urban 'yutes' who have no respect for these females either...and who these females seem to idolize...and you get an exponential increase in domestic abuse and outright violence against women.
It's more like "a man will tend to bond with a woman who gives him sex and affection". Meanwhile, a woman will experience desire for a man if she sees him as being very high quality, in an effort to bond him to her.
so the point of the left is that females are there to serve the physical whims of males.
Incest is relative. :-)
Why not? I've read there's plenty of young lasses looking for a sugar daddy>
This article made me think of a potential pick-up line:
"Are you liberated?"
If the answer is 'yes", the next line is "Let's f---!"
Young guys do NOT have that mindset. Women are kidding themselves if they think they can have the guy mindset just because they physically act like guys.
Princess riverdawg confirms this from observing her friends at college, who are all chasing after the same three or four “hotties.”
“Meanwhile, the hookup girls spend their 20’s chasing the alpha males, wind up hitting 30 and decide to “settle” for some regular guy. They are then disappointed and bitter when the guys are uninterested in their high-mileage selves.”
I know at least a half dozen single women in their mid-to-late 30s who fit this description perfectly.
I do wonder sometimes if women are being asked to become men.
“On a lighter note, genealogy research will be almost impossible to do.”
Yes, it will be all about the individual. Not where someone came from or who they came from. Of course asking who conceived someone will be difficult to ascertain when there are two mommies and two daddies, each of whom want to take credit for the birth, perhaps even the conception, that may be biologically related to one of them or to neither of them. Yet why tell Jr. where Jr.’s roots lay or is it lie?
“And the follies of youth will lead to the loneliness of later life.”
The girls I knew when young who were well known for their casual hookups were pretty popular back in the day. Today, they are lonely, unhappy women. Obviously a small test pool, but there are no exceptions. Facebook is brutal that way.
>>I’m not sure why men would want women to believe them incapable of love, nor why men would want to believe that about themselves. Maybe a man can explain.
Personally, I love my wife and we’ve been together for 10 years. The gateway into any relationship for MOST men is sexual attractiveness. The keeper is a loving relationship with (you guessed it) continual sex. We’re on our third kid now thanks to it.
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