Posted on 07/23/2013 7:51:36 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Noting the comeback campaigns of Eliot Spitzer and Anthony Weiner in New York, feminist author Hanna Rosin wonders why 50 years into the sexual revolution women politicians lag so far behind men in the sex-scandal tally. She notes biological and evolutionary explanations only to reject them in favor of the idea that women are just too unused to power to abuse it in that way. Shes cheered, though, by surveys showing that younger women are cheating on their spouses almost as much as men, and confidently looks forward to the not-too-distant day when well find ourselves willing to look past the indiscretions of women philanderers too.
Welcome to the feminist paradise, where the ideal is for women to model themselves not just on men, but on the worst men.
Fifty years ago, Betty Friedan, a restless Marxist, published The Feminine Mystique. Its premise was that women were miserable in the comfortable concentration camp of domestic life but were too brainwashed to know it. The job of feminism was to raise the consciousness of these benighted dupes. Friedans timing was felicitous. The U.S. economy was expanding dramatically, labor-saving devices had made housework much less time-consuming, and technological progress was making brain work more valuable than physical strength in the marketplace. Friedan and her many acolytes were pushing on an open door.
But they pushed in the wrong direction. Not satisfied with encouraging women to pursue careers and correcting legal barriers to womens equality, feminists sought nothing less than the obliteration of family life and traditional sexual mores. The double standard in matters of sex, they taught, favored men. The solution was promiscuity for everyone (enabled by unrestricted abortion).
It was a foolish and self-defeating wrong turn.
Fifty years on, we have this dispatch from the University of Pennsylvania: Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too, a New York Times account of the way women at one Ivy League school are supposedly hooking up in preference to having relationships. Its not that the sexual revolution actually favored men, the Times reassures its readers, its just that women are too focused on careers to make time for men. They pursue sex with hookup buddies without a flicker of regret.
This is the new brainwashing. Women have been sold (and sold and sold) on the notion that happiness and fulfillment are to be found in careers. Marriage and children are items to be calendared after the M.B.A., J.D., or Ph.D. Sex is recreation. Getting attached to the human being behind the sex organ can limit your internship options.
Cheerleading articles like Hanna Rosins 2012 Atlantic piece Boys on the Side argue that, far from enduring the hookup culture, women are enjoying their promiscuous freedom. The New York Times piece is in that mold.
I dont believe it for a second. Neither article bothers to deny what all of the research shows namely, that women get themselves sloppy drunk before they engage in hookups. If casual, anonymous sex is so enjoyable for women, why the need to anesthetize themselves first? And if women are calling the shots, why do men get oral sex in hookups far more often than women do?
The Times piece notes that the hookup culture isnt as widespread as media treatment would suggest. According to a recent survey, 40 percent of college seniors either are virgins or have had sex with only one person. Some student groups, like the Love and Fidelity Network, are self-consciously countercultural. Still, most students must deal with the sexual degradation that is a feature of most campuses. Several women students confessed to the Times that they engaged in hookups only after concluding that waiting for a relationship was unrealistic. Here is one students account of a typical freshman fraternity party:
You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement, Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. Theres girls dancing in the middle, and theres guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.
Charming. Another girl explained why her encounters in her first two years of college usually ended with fellatio. Early in the evening, shed get very drunk.
By the time she got back to a guys room, she was starting to sober up and didnt want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.
It takes a lot of spin to call that liberation.
Mona Charen is a nationally syndicated columnist.
That is because, in reality, one night stands goes against a woman's nature to nurture.
A woman's role is to bring out the better side of the man she falls in love with and when she is talked into letting a man have his way with her when she is not ready it goes against everything she knows deep down to be true.
I do believe that the push to make women just like horny men begins in middle school sex ed where a girl is taught to let down her natural sense of modesty which was put there by God to protect her. When she has lost that and she is drunk at a party when she is 19, she will act just like a drunk frat guy, thereby fulfilling the wet dreams of "liberated" men-hating women.
the punks from the sixties completely changed our culture....................................... You got that right, and we can thank Hollywood for the intensity of the sexual propaganda. Now they have their own award show for the Porn Industry. Deep Throat was the turning point, it was down hill from there. Sex is has been cheapened, it once meant love, now its just game we play for the thrill. BTW, I’m still 20 yrs old, but I’m wrapped inside this old man’s body and can’t get out of it. :(
Very concise and insightful comment.
I refer to the new culture as an old culture, paganism. The proponents are the neo-pagans. Combine this pattern of sexual behavior with weakening health care services and promoting stress and you will see a reduction in quality of life and possibly life expectancy.
On a lighter note, genealogy research will be almost impossible to do.
It's been said "Men give love to get sex; women give sex to get love".
American society is not healthy, and has not been for a very long time.
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Promiscuity is as pro-sex as the clap.
They want to be gay guys in women's bodies.
They're all in the nursing homes now....check that out. ;-)
I agree 100%. I am the consummate gentleman around the womenfolk in my family, and when it’s just the guys, we can get crass.
I don’t agree with the idea of a woman being “one of the boys,” but my wife fits that bill well enough. I don’t bother to try to understand the crudity of femininity.
I see nothing wrong with any woman having a zest for living
6 posted on 7/23/2013 10:58:05 AM by al baby (Hi Mom)
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Were you intending that to appear as if you were coming on to your mother? ;-)
My wife, who passed away May 30, was a genealogist. Twice each year I had to go work in Utah and she always went with me to do genealogical research.
Poor Germaine. She was always all over the map. She'd say something like "I seek freedom to be a person, with dignity, integrity, nobility, passion, and pride that constitute personhood" --- and then start acting like a pomiscuous moron and moral midget (like a male homosexual) -- and then wonder why she had lifelong problems with deperession and substance abuse.
Sad and disappointing.
I believe it was Bill Clinton and Monica that made Fellatio the way to go.
Right after Bill it started in Middle school.
Of course it’s been around a long time, it’s just that few “good” girl admitted to it.Once sex was mostly just the missionary position during dating and experimenting later on , after marriage. Now anything goes including anal sex, watching girls perform on each other, and multiple partners.
And the follies of youth will lead to the loneliness of later life.
Enjoy it while you can, as “ hookups” are what life is really all about..
The big problem with that is that it means men are incapable of love. When a person views another person as a service utility, that is not love, no matter how he tries to dress it up.
I'm not sure why men would want women to believe them incapable of love, nor why men would want to believe that about themselves. Maybe a man can explain.
And the follies of youth will lead to the loneliness of later life.
Enjoy it while you can, as hookups aren’t what life is really all about..
Fingers typed too fast.... Meant to say aren’t not are.... :) :)
As the article points out, women ought to not only become like men, but the worst kind of men. Only then can they be equal.
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