Posted on 08/20/2012 10:49:36 AM PDT by a fool in paradise
An “unforgiving, puritan Anglo-Saxon” attitude to adultery is damaging married life in Britain, driving couples to divorce rather than strengthening the family, according to an outspoken French academic.
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Dr Catherine Hakim, a sociologist and bestselling author, argues that a “sour and rigid English view” of infidelity is condemning millions of people to live frustrated “celibate” lives with their spouses.
In a book bound to provoke controversy, she likens faithful husbands and wives to “caged animals” and argues that they should be free to explore their “wild side” with lovers without the threat of divorce.
Meeting a secret lover for a casual encounter should be as routine as dining out at a restaurant instead of eating at home, she claims.
British couples should take their cue from French, who she claims are happier and have more stable home lives because of a permissive and “philosophical” approach to adultery...
Dr Hakim, a former London School of Economics social scientist who is now based at the think-tank the Centre for Policy Studies, provoked controversy last year with a book urging women to exploit their “erotic capital” to get on life.
In her latest book, The New Rules, she renames adulterous trysts as “parallel relationships” and “playfairs” while rebranding secret lovers as “playmates”.
She claims that there is such a thing as a “successful affair” in which both parties are happier but no one gets hurt...
“Sex is no more a moral issue than eating a good meal,” she writes...
She attacks traditional morality which has underpinned the family unit for centuries but also accuses relationship counsellors and therapists of trying to "pedal a secret agenda of enforced exclusive monogamy”...
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
Someone needs to clue this stupid woman in on the fact that she’s at least 40 years late with her message.
They keep pushing religion out of the culture and this feminist/socialist crud into academia and medicine.
Their goal is to smash monogamy and end the institution of marriage. Same sex marriage, group marriage, open marriage, whatever it takes to eradicate support for the institution.
British national, born in Britain, resident in Britain, educated in Britain, employed in Britain.
IMO France has never recovered from the wholesale destruction of the Huguenots which comprised the middle class of French society and economy. No country which loses its middle class will prosper.
Sloppy seconds, thirds, fourth, fifth, etc..., with your spouse, no thanks.
Interesting read, thank you.
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