Skip to comments.Puritan view of adultery turns Brits into 'caged animals' says academic
Posted on 08/20/2012 10:49:36 AM PDT by a fool in paradise
An unforgiving, puritan Anglo-Saxon attitude to adultery is damaging married life in Britain, driving couples to divorce rather than strengthening the family, according to an outspoken French academic.
Dr Catherine Hakim, a sociologist and bestselling author, argues that a sour and rigid English view of infidelity is condemning millions of people to live frustrated celibate lives with their spouses.
In a book bound to provoke controversy, she likens faithful husbands and wives to caged animals and argues that they should be free to explore their wild side with lovers without the threat of divorce.
Meeting a secret lover for a casual encounter should be as routine as dining out at a restaurant instead of eating at home, she claims.
British couples should take their cue from French, who she claims are happier and have more stable home lives because of a permissive and philosophical approach to adultery...
Dr Hakim, a former London School of Economics social scientist who is now based at the think-tank the Centre for Policy Studies, provoked controversy last year with a book urging women to exploit their erotic capital to get on life.
In her latest book, The New Rules, she renames adulterous trysts as parallel relationships and playfairs while rebranding secret lovers as playmates.
She claims that there is such a thing as a successful affair in which both parties are happier but no one gets hurt...
Sex is no more a moral issue than eating a good meal, she writes...
She attacks traditional morality which has underpinned the family unit for centuries but also accuses relationship counsellors and therapists of trying to "pedal a secret agenda of enforced exclusive monogamy...
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
Moral Absolutes ping.
I’ve said it repeatedly, the goal of the sex positive agenda is to smash monogamy and end ALL moral judgments over ALL sexual pairings regardless of sex, age, relation, marital status, number, or species of partner(s).
The homosexual agenda is merely the battering ram for the whole hog.
I am senior citizen. Throughout my entire life, I have only seen infidelity cause pain, divorce, and complete unhappiness. This woman is pathetic and should have enough sense to keep her opinions to herself.
At least the Brits can win wars.
The average French intellectual is as worthless as the average French soldier.
Education with no wisdom. A successful marriage must ALWAYS be based on love, trust, integrity and commitment. Hanky panky, even with written permission, inevitably leads to insecurity, jealousy, hurt feelings, conflict and the loss of trust. Dr. Hakim is either a stooge or she is evil. . . nothing is in between in this case.
Wonder how Dr. Catherine Hakam would feel if her husband (big assumption there) was banging her sister, her neighbor’s wife, the PTA secretary, and some disease riddled crack Ho just for good measure?
Wonder how Dr. Catherine would feel if her children (2nd big assumption) wondered why they saw Dad out with another woman, kissing her? Or that Dad has fathered other kids from another woman?
Lastly, wonder how Dr. Cathering would feel at Church (3rd and largest assumption) if everyone knew she had an open marriage? That she and/or her husband were swingers, or at least advocated that others do so? Would she be proud of herself? How would her Pastor feel about it? How would her GOD feel about it?
Take your Madame Bovary attitude and shove it.
If true, then rape should be no more traumatic than being forced to eat a meal with a stranger.
“Hakim”...hmmmm, doesn’t sound like a typical British name, does it?
Free love isn’t free.
I wonder how she’d feel if her husband gave her HIV, genital warts, Herpes, or a whole slew of other STDs, and there are a lot of them.
I don't know what the solution is.
I do know that without family and children society is doomed and the future is a miserable place.
>> If true, then rape should be no more traumatic than being forced to eat a meal with a stranger.
What a disgusting fatbody. UNSAT!!! He needs P.T.
Vegans insist that meat is murder.
Greenie Weenies insist that the beef industry is killing the planet.
Michelle Obama and Nanny Bloomberg insist that fatty foods are a criminal enterprise.
Chick-Fil-A is called "hate chicken".
In this day and age, it safer to make moral arguments against foods than sexual perversions.
Good luck explaining this point of view to the Living God.
I guess the concepts of a wholesome family life and the welfare of children are incidental.
Because it is all about me, me, me. Screw (no pun intended, maybe) the rest of you. I have my feelings to think about.
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