Posted on 10/08/2011 3:52:52 PM PDT by NYer
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When we were dating he told me he wanted kids then after we were married he backed off. Should I have divorced him after he backed out?????????
Didn’t you discuss this before you were married? I would never tell somebody to get a divorce, that’s their personal decision, but if I had wanted to have children and my spouse did not, I would. If you are fine not having children and don’t think you will later regret it than that’s good.
Being told you can’t have children, when you truly want them, would be a really sad thing.
Grown up septuplets all with the same marital problem - what are the odds?
It is not the breast feeding so much that protects against cancer; it is the completion of the pregnancy itself.
Breast cancer originates in immature undifferetiated breast cells - tissues that have not matured and specialized yet. These cells proliferate in the first trimester of pregnancy, stimulated by the increase in estrogen that occurs. These young growing cells are especially vulnerable to malgnancy, but the second half of pregnancy takes care of this:
In the second half of pregnancy the estrogen levels recede and the immature cells now differentiate into mature milk-producing tissue in response to the lowered estrogen. These more stable mature cells do not have the tendency toward malignancy.
Even if the woman does not breastfeed, the breast cells have specialized and matured and are less likely to turn cancerous.
I hope this helps - I got the info off a website pregnantpause.org
Lifesitenews also covers this topic
If somebody that supposedly loved me lied to me about something so important, you’re darn right I’d divorce him.
Like I said though, if you’re okay with it, it’s your life and your marriage so nobody can tell you what to do.
sorry - meant undifferentiated and malignancy - I thought I had proofread but missed a couple
I support women’s breasts
I'd caution people to buy into anyone’s assertion that mammograms are unnecessary for women under a certain age. I don't fall into any of the risk categories this article mentioned, yet I have had an annual mammogram and sonogram since I turned 35 and I'll do so for the rest of my life.
He said he wanted kids when we were going out but BACKED OUT after we were married. In fact after we were married I found the sabotaged prophylactics...
I’ve always wondered about the lower risks for developing breast cancer since most people don’t have a lot of kids. I recently had my sixth and have been either pregnant or breastfeeding since I was twenty.
Look, you don’t sound happy to me. I don’t know how old you are or how long you’ve been married, or even if it’s too late for you to have children, but maybe you need to talk to somebody about this.
Like I said, if you want to have children and he does not, it’s a big deal. You did not change your mind, he did.
I do hope I’m wrong and that you are happy and okay with the decision.
Got married in 1980. Been married to him for d@mm near 31 years. I do NOT break vows given before God and man. My word is my bond, tho it may be to my detriment....
FYI
My mother and her sister both got it... both had kids after 30...Auntie died a horrible death from it... Mom lived till almost 80 and beat it ...
YMMV
54. Nothing I can do about it now.
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