How to handle unruly children -- spank or don't spank?

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[freepatriot32]

(a psychological conundrum)

Most of America's populace think it improper to spank children, so I have tried other methods to control my kids when they have one of "those moments."

One that I found effective is for me to just take the child for a car ride and talk.

They usually calm down and stop misbehaving after our car ride together.

I've included a photo below of one of my sessions with my son, in case you would like to use the technique.

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[freepatriot32]

warning dont try this at home :-)

[Texas Eagle]

Spank.

[Horatio Gates]

LOL!

I've been lucky with my nine year old son. Haven't had to spank him. He learned from his older brother's mistakes. Smart kid

[Humidston]

PRICELESS!

And.....spank.

[freepatriot32]

one for your ping lists perhaps :-)

[CyberAnt]

But .. does it change the child's behavior ..?? I mean is the issue resolved, or just appeased until the next time ..??

[KoRn]

Bust their asses. If they don't listen bust their asses some more. It works great here!

[NZerFromHK]

The example of typical parenting in 107-s/80s East Asia will send shudders to many American parents and chills down many American kids' minds: ;-) (Don't do this at home)

Mum: You bad boy, got into this mess?

Son: No, it was like this...Arrghhh! [Mum speanking her son]

Mum: Is this your fault?

Son: But...Arrrghhh! [Mum spanking her son even harder]

Mum: Dare to refute me? [Mum then smacks her son]

Son: No,...Arrrghhh! (muffied) arrrghhh! [Mum smacks her son even harder, 4 times in a row]

[fatymcfarlin]

U see the reason that teen pregnacy is high, chinese kids are beating ours in school, and the fact that our girls look like sluts, and boys look like pimps, is because we haven't spanked them. Even the bible says "Spare the rod spoil the child"

[singfreedom]

I once had an educational psychology professor who informed the entire class that when psychology fails, apply the psychology textbook, firmly, to the child's backside. And, yes, he was the father of five children.

[jamaly]

Spare the rod and spoil the child.

[Alouette]

Neck pinching also works. It shows that you are the Alpha animal.

[Let's Roll]

Spank.

[NZerFromHK]

It is not necessarily the ethnic Chinese youths are so much more disciplined on a whole. It is just that those with good behaviours have a chance of going to the West for more studies. Each year when I look at my former primary school classmates in HK, none of the "bad boys/girls" ended up studying overseas.

[fatymcfarlin]

Exactly, exactly, you put my words into a more refined state.

[Txsleuth]

LOL...I wouldn't go as far as that....but, there is nothing wrong with spanking...so long as it doesn't turn into beating a child.

[CzarNicky]

Someday they will wonder why they avoided spankings as a child when they find out how much it will cost to have a middle aged woman spank them.

[latina4dubya]

hahahahahaha! so far, tone of voice seems to work with our kids... and our dogs...

[wardaddy]

where's that submariner freeper that used to hit these threads and call spanking child abuse

anyone doesn't spank has never had a strong willed manchild or likes the kids running the home.

I had one daughter I think I only spanked like once...maybe twice.

Second daughter...a few times

First son....daily ...hourly ....lol...it's a test of wills...just kidding but he has gotten paddled a lot...he is the work of a half dozen well behaved young daughters....my wife has relinquished the hammer over him to me. If I believed in dosing kids ....he would be dosed. I worry about him sometimes....he could talk coherently and carry on conversations at 18 months. One on One he is fine....beyond that...wow. I wish I was younger with him

Second son....pretty easy...rarely needs a spanking

Next (and last) to come in November....I hope it is an easy going little girl but will take what God grants.

I was spanked a lot...for the record. Hell everyone was when I was little in the 60s.

First time I saw kids over indulged and allowed to control their parents was in NYC amongst some liberal Jewish friends in the early 80s. I remember once in Bergen New Jersey, we all went to eat somewhere and the 3 year old spoiled brat had a fit and we actually went home without even going in the restaurant so brat could get what she wanted. Children were allowed to interrupt a lot too...all new to me. Little did I know my own future..lol. I vowed never to do anything like that but of course I had not yet had children..lol. Now....I see that same parenting all over the place amongst GenX and GenY soccer moms and metrodaddies...not a liberal Northern thing anymore. I'm in Nashville in "Goyland"

I feel outta place sometimes.

[LaineyDee]

Sounds like the parents need to be disciplined first!