Posted on 10/16/2023 3:25:32 PM PDT by Albion Wilde
KEY POINTS
• Childhood verbal abuse (CVA) is currently categorized under the broad umbrella of “emotional abuse.”
• Along with four other child maltreatment subtypes, CVA should be a stand-alone child maltreatment subtype.
• Recognizing and defining specific types of CVA is a starting point for preventing it.
• A recent systematic review and meta-analysis identifies at least 22 unique types of childhood verbal abuse.
In my opinion, the list of unique types of verbal abuse omitted one important one: lying, or malicious untruthfulness to children. I'm thinking here of the spiteful ex-wives who destroy the father's reputation in the kids' eyes, and not just stuff like saying there's an Easter bunny.
(Excerpt) Read more at psychologytoday.com ...
This article is arguing for therapists to pay more attention to this particular type of emotional abuse.
Ping
It’s a trade off. Do you want to mollycoddle children into being total brats and snowflakes when they are grown? Or do you want them to be functioning human beings. Pure psychobabble. Who paid for this piece of tripe research?
“Wake up, it’s 9:00”, and “When are you going to clean up your room?” should be recognized as murder-death-kill level offenses.
So now we’re saying raising your voice is defined as a form of abuse?
Some children are easier to discipline than others. Some children’s bad behavior can drive an adult to drink. If we’re now going to castigate parents who have Ever Raised their voice to a child, or have lashed out in anger for some reason, then I think just about all parents are guilty.
23) Good parenting
Hell, they would have you treat your children like delicate glass figurines.
It's a matter of degree, I would think. Everybody raises their voices at their kids from time to time.
But people who scream so as to intimidate or terrorize their kids often have other problems, such as low self esteem or alcohol abuse; this passes on disfunction to the kids.
Sounds alot like the garbage they’re pushing here in Commiefornia - Prevent Toxic Stress in children
daddy government knows better how to raise their good little future comrades
See post 8.
Guess I’m guilty…..on a number of occasions I told the kids of a negative consequence that would come their way if they didn’t listen to me.
The first step toward finding it where it doesn’t exist.
As you probably know, I loved my Dad to the Moon and back. Still do, though he’s gone.
I did not know until I was an adult that he was raised in a VERY abusive household, though my Grandpa, his father, never raised his voice to me or was anything but loving, kind and instructive to me and my sister. Maybe he’d yell if we weren’t moving fast enough for him, but he never struck us or was cruel in any way I can remember.
That said, my Dad was VERY sarcastic, which I think is how he handled things for himself. He was also funny as heck. We laughed a lot in our household, and no one was the butt of any of his jokes; he was never cruel.
And guess what? I handle stressful situations with sarcasm and/or humor!
Gee, YA THINK? ;)
The term “leather belt” was never mentioned in the article.
Hahahahahahaha...Murder-Death-Kill...:)
I get the reference!
They are gearing up to put Christian parents in a re-education camp.
Oh, and my Mom was raised by alcoholics and was an only child until she was 14 and they had three more and she pretty much raised those babies by herself. She never drinks anything other than Communion wine and I have never seen her even ‘tipsy’ while growing up. She wasn’t a ‘secret drinker’ either.
(Though would I know? Yes, I would. She’s in excellent health at 86; I call her ‘The Energizer Bunny.’)
With all these strikes against me, I should be a nutcase myself according to this lady!
A parents job is to nurture their children. This includes helping them to achieve a healthy level of self-confidence, self-respect, compassion for others, and to help them grow as unique independent individuals.
There are parental behaviors that are entirely contrary to those things. Constant criticism, belittling, humiliation, and competing with your child are among these things. Some parents can be sadistic, and they can scar their children such that they are constantly fighting internal demons.
Watching your sibling go out on the roof to possibly jump because they are so distraught, only to see one of your parents in the yard, looking up, telling them to go ahead and jump because they are ‘mental’, is one personal experience. There are many others. They motivated me to never ever put up with that s**t. Conversely they essentially destroyed the spirit of my sibling. I got lucky, and I thank God for what I strongly know was divine intervention in my life.
How do you use the three seashells?
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