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A friend’s party falls on the anniversary of 9/11. It feels so wrong to me (Advice column advice = ultra barf alert)
Boston Globe via MSN ^ | September 8, 2021 | Robin Abrahams

Posted on 09/08/2021 10:25:59 AM PDT by DoodleBob

The 20th anniversary of 9/11 is a solemn event for me. A friend invited me to his birthday celebration on that day. It would be nice to see him and raise a glass, but I think about that day and the devastating loss and I’m in tears. ...I’m shocked that anyone would celebrate anything on this day and I fear my attitude would be construed as self-righteous.

Anonymous / Boston

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Speaking of happy news — there isn’t much these days, is there? I’m trying to grasp the death toll of COVID-19, currently more than 200 times that of 9/11. Flight attendants still put their lives on the line, and images of bodies falling from planes in Kabul are fresh in my mind. No terrorist plane hit the Surfside condominium — that building’s residents were crushed to death due to alleged neglect, incompetence, and denial. This is why I, writing this before the anniversary, expect to be in tears on 9/11, reflecting less on the events of that day than about everything that has transpired since.

If I observe it as a day of mourning, that is. There are so many such days now, global and national and personal. Everyone is experiencing some form of trauma, everyone is grieving something, and grief is freaky like a tornado. It shows up unexpectedly and puts things in very weird places. Sometimes grief allows joy into a place joy doesn’t normally go, a butterfly in the morgue.

So let’s not judge what other people need to do and when they need to do it, only seek your own level. If you need to mourn, find the mourners or call them to you. If you need to rejoice, do the same. And let’s all take this reminder into the holiday season.

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This may be one of the most disgusting pieces of advice ever printed.
1 posted on 09/08/2021 10:25:59 AM PDT by DoodleBob
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To: DoodleBob

It’s wrong to equate 9/11 to those things the writer listed. But under it all, there is a valid point. The idea that we shouldn’t celebrate an otherwise happy occasion because it is also the anniversary of something like 9/11 seems like a lot of navel-gazing to me.


2 posted on 09/08/2021 10:29:29 AM PDT by Bruce Campbells Chin
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To: DoodleBob

I think that God decided when her friend would be born. Yes, it is self-righteous.

It was a horrible day for everyone. Not just her. Try asking the family members, lady.

(Obviously not directed at you, Bob)

Julie


3 posted on 09/08/2021 10:32:28 AM PDT by proud American in Canada ("Fear is a reaction; Courage is a decision." Winston Churchill)
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To: Bruce Campbells Chin

Does he feel the same about Pearl Harbor.


4 posted on 09/08/2021 10:33:18 AM PDT by DaiHuy (May God save the country, for it is evident the people will not! Millard Fillmore)
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To: DoodleBob

have a drink/toast in their Honor, and get on with it


5 posted on 09/08/2021 10:33:27 AM PDT by Chode (there is no fall back position, there's no rally point, there is no LZ... we're on our own. P144:1)
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To: DoodleBob
The 20th anniversary of 9/11 is a solemn event for me. A friend invited me to his birthday celebration on that day. It would be nice to see him and raise a glass, but I think about that day and the devastating loss and I’m in tears. ...I’m shocked that anyone would celebrate anything on this day and I fear my attitude would be construed as self-righteous.

It is.

Get over yourself and go to the party and be glad that someone can still find joy in life.

Otherwise, the muslims will have won yet again.

Rise above it.

6 posted on 09/08/2021 10:34:17 AM PDT by metmom (...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith…)
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To: DoodleBob

Ted Olsen’s birthday is September 11th: also the date his previous wife, Barbara, (a Freeper) died.


7 posted on 09/08/2021 10:36:14 AM PDT by PghBaldy (12/14 - 930am -rampage begins... 12/15 - 1030am - Obama's advance team scouts photo-op locations.)
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“ .I’m shocked that anyone would celebrate anything on this day”

Yeah, that inconsiderate guy should have picked a different day to be born…

How do people like this survive?


8 posted on 09/08/2021 10:36:57 AM PDT by Stravinsky
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To: metmom

THIS 100%.


9 posted on 09/08/2021 10:37:04 AM PDT by mrmeyer (You can't conquer a free man; the most you can do is kill him. Robert Heinlein)
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To: DoodleBob

Life must go on, AND we can never forget.


10 posted on 09/08/2021 10:37:58 AM PDT by 1Old Pro (Let's make crime illegal again!)
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To: Stravinsky

Say a prayer. Move on go on with your life, and vote out democRATS.


11 posted on 09/08/2021 10:39:40 AM PDT by kenmcg (tHE WHOLE )
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To: DoodleBob

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Kc35sGjEKQ


12 posted on 09/08/2021 10:40:30 AM PDT by Hillarys Gate Cult (`)
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To: DoodleBob

Another take,

Should not mourning the wound be acknowledged, because it is easily forgotten if people cannot mourn?

is 9/11 an event that should be forgotten? I understand how overcoming an event is important, but you can’t say it was a serious attack and not take it seriously.


13 posted on 09/08/2021 10:41:04 AM PDT by Bayard
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To: DoodleBob

Look up “this day in history”. There will be some tragedy listed for every day.


14 posted on 09/08/2021 10:41:41 AM PDT by rdl6989 ( )
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To: Stravinsky

What about someone born on February 29th?

They can only Celebrate their Birthday every four Years and it also marks the very last day of Black History Month.

So sad...


15 posted on 09/08/2021 10:42:30 AM PDT by Kickass Conservative (Trump - Make America Great Again / Xiden - Make America Grovel Again...)
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To: DoodleBob

Please, my daughter was born on 9/11, are you suggesting her birthday not be celebrated because of decades of political incompetence that lead to a horrific attack?

I highly doubt people were not having birthday party’s on 12/7 1961.

If you don’t want to go to a party, don’t go, but to think other folks have to behave the way you want them to, that’s the same mindset that drives these murderers.

If the world stopped doing things on the anniversary of every horrific event that has transpired in human history, we would have no day to do anything.

There isn’t a date that exists, where you won’t find some horrific event occurred on that date in human history, not a one. Do you refuse to do something on 12/7? 8/6? 8/9? 4/24? 6/1? etc etc etc.


16 posted on 09/08/2021 10:44:26 AM PDT by HamiltonJay
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To: DoodleBob

My Uncle died of a massive Heart Attack while dancing at his Daughter’s Wedding Reception.

I have no idea how his Daughter and her Husband have celebrated that day all these years.


17 posted on 09/08/2021 10:44:55 AM PDT by Kickass Conservative (Trump - Make America Great Again / Xiden - Make America Grovel Again...)
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To: DoodleBob

Sounds like this person loves to wallow in misery.

It’s best she avoid that party on Saturday so that she doesn’t “Debbie Downer” the other guests.

I understand respecting a sad anniversary, especially one such as 9/11, but it shouldn’t be used as a tool for virtue signaling or criticizing those who might treat it a little differently.


18 posted on 09/08/2021 10:46:34 AM PDT by Allegra
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To: mrmeyer

+1

Celebrate the living while remembering all things.

I was invited to a baby shower on Saturday the 11th(9/11).
I would be going to celebrate the new life that day. Except sadly, it must be rescheduled due to the grandmother hostess still in the hospital (seizures and vaccinated).


19 posted on 09/08/2021 10:46:43 AM PDT by TianaHighrider (God bless President Trump. Prayers for PDJT and his loyal supporters.)
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To: DoodleBob
I guess it depends on one's perspective.


20 posted on 09/08/2021 10:46:59 AM PDT by plain talk
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