Posted on 04/18/2019 9:34:05 AM PDT by rickmichaels
When the media “reports” that men are “afraid” of commitment, it’s a continuation of a 50 year trend to mock and disparage men for their reproductive choices.
Men aren’t “afraid” of commitment. When men walk away from “commitment” and marriage, they are making intelligent choices. Fear doesn’t enter into men’s minds when they walk away from women in our “modern” culture.
There was once a time when marriage was an honorable institution. It was not that long ago.
As mankind rose from primitive savagery, to civilizing the world, men were able to bring art, beauty, truth and goodness to the human condition. Marriage was vital to the stability that permitted these advances in humanity.
Marriage was a balanced set of cultural traditions and values in which men and women supported each other, assumed gendered roles that encouraged them to support each other, and, provided a means for men and women to enhance their lives through the synergy of mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge for and about each other.
Those days are long gone.
Marriage is no longer an honorable institution. It is simply a device of the neo-Marxist state to exploit men.
Do you think that is an exaggeration?
Let’s ask some straight questions.
What benefits does marriage offer a man?
The answer is that marriage offers nothing to men. At one time, men could enjoy trusting a woman with his love and sexual feelings. Current government regulation, however, has, virtually demonized and criminalized every aspect of men’s feelings and sexuality in, and outside of marriage.
At one time, Men could count on marriages lasting a lifetime. This gave him, his wife and his children stability and the incentive to work together, as a family, for long term benefits and gains.
Now, women file 80% of divorces, within about 8 years of marriage, use the biased and oppressive family courts to strip a man of his children, his life savings, and leave him to twist in the wind without a support network of any kind. Our laws and family court judges are designed to encourage women to get a divorce, alienate the children from their Father’s protection, and, exploit men for the convenience and enrichment of the neo-marxist state . . .
Men are dying from suicide at six times the rate of women in some age categories. We know that one of the reasons is the man-hating (misandry) that saturates our institutions (law, education, military, religion, etc.), and, that the other is that a man loses everything in most marriages. To meet draconian government regulation of marriage, a man must abandon his personal support network of friends, and, when he is divorced, and impressed into the service of the state to pay child support, he no longer has the time or energy to form personal support networks of friends.
Men walk away from marriage and commitment with women out of intellect and common sense choice. “Fear” has nothing to do with it.
Tingles uber alles...
If they expressed themselves in cogent and polite fashion, I’d say yes, you make a good point. But they don’t - read through the comments. Constant insults on the entire sex expressed in amazingly vulgar ways despite this supposedly being a conservative site. And it is not just today, it is almost everyday here.
Counts on fingers...
You must have gotten married awfully young the first time.
Was he considerably older than you? How did your parents feel about him?
Yep. Like I said, I learned from stupid.
It helped that all my shop tools were gone so I needed a new career quickly. I became a police officer. Opens your eyes to a side of life one might never have seen before.
Alpha sex, beta checks.
Alpha sex, beta checks.
Mr. “Right” (beta) vs. Mr.”Right NOW!” (alpha)
Oh sounds like the "Eat, Pray, Love" message of tossing it all away for hypergamy gina tingles.
Did a sixth grader right this?
“article explains how a woman’s emotional attachment works...”
This is part of the problem. I don’t care about “emotional attachment”. I want an actual commitment, agreed upon rationally by both parties, made before God, and enforcable by law, even if one party decides they are not “emotionally attached” anymore. That doesn’t actually exist anymore in our society, and I am not willing to accept the pale imitation that they still call “marriage” as a substitute.
Understood. A lot of hurt out there, I suspect. $20k+ every year to the one that walked out (note — allowing them to be a stay-at-home mom, her wish, adds to the alimony cuz it reduces her resume). Told for decades that “women need men like fish need bicycles” (except at divorce judgement time). Speak simple, known (but unwelcome) truth and get harshly demonized. Seeing men widely portrayed as idiots on sitcoms. Now told that authentic manhood is “toxic”...
All adds up. Expect it to get worse.
My boss suspected that his wife was cheating on him with her personal trainer. He set up a hidden camera in their house and voila, caught her on tape (this was a while ago).
He immediately contacted a lawyer and got everything protected financially.
Thursday was their “Blockbuster” night when they watched a rental and ate pizza. He swapped the rental out for a VHS of his wife and the trainer doing the nasty.
She bolted back to her parents. He gave her a one time, take it or leave it offer of half the value of their house and a one time payment of $50K. She agreed, they signed the papers, it was all over in less than a month.
I went with him to the courthouse as moral support. He couldn’t stop crying.
Took him 5 years to find another wife. They had twin boys. The company he owned got into financial trouble and the day after he sold it and filed for bankruptcy, she served him with divorce papers.
Last I heard he was sleeping on his mother’s couch.
Both of his exes remarried rich men and, if Facebook is to be believed, are very happy. Once in a while his second wife posts a picture of my friend visiting their sons.
Sad, really.
Do you try to reach out to other younger women, to give them the benefit of your counsel?
...do they listen? (Most youngsters don’t...)
Only half? That’s a big joke try 99.9%.
We need to get her story.
Nice post.
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Men and their”MissFortunes”,,,
Rough.
Crikes break out the hankies and have a good cry.
Men blaming women because they are a crying azz weak willed wimp. Who knew women had so much power. LOL!
My cousin’s son had a destination wedding.
The bride and groom were from Long Island, and got married on the beach on Anna Marie Island (not sure of the spelling), off the coast of Sarasota, Florida. They now live in Oregon with their daughters, and a baby boy is on the way.
A friend of theirs got married some years ago. The bride and groom to be were also from Long Island, NY. The groom’s bachelor party was in Las Vegas; the bride’s bachelorette party was in New Orleans; the wedding was in The Bahamas and the honeymoon was in Hawaii!
Because in most cases with modern feminist women they don’t get a helpmate
With the modern feminist they get a parasite
Who wants to make a commitment to a parasite
Feminism ultimately teaches all women are victims of men and men are supposed to grovel before them and kiss their butts
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