My GMIL lives in a 60’s mobile home that is behind hope. We’ve tried to get her to move out.. The park called me the other day to warn us that the home is way past its replacement date and they have been letting that slide for 15 years but now people are starting to complain.
It’s likely the ONLY way we’ll get her out of that house.
now the fight is, do we replace it or move her some place else.
For now, I’ll let her fight with park management.
My MIL lives in a shack in the mountains. We visited her once. We slept in the car. The shack was on stilts and very unstable. No plumbing, no electricity.
She lives there with her husband. They love the place.
We tried to talk her out of it.
Failed.
Oh well. Both are happy in their current situations. We pray every day that their housing continues to stand and provide the needed shelter.
So far, our prayers have been answered.
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Old men don't wantr to leave their home no matter WHAT it's condition.
Home is where the heart is.
We will not lay on the operating table willingly for open heart surgery just because someone whom claims to be a heart specialist (but has no credentials to show to validate that claim) says it is necessary.
My dad is 93 and refuses to move out of his house and into some senior citizens home. My older brother sees him every day and makes sure my dad’s house is cleaned and he is fed, but at some point my brother says he’ll have to move my father into a home. The old guy is pretty stubborn.
Exactly where in the Detroit area does he live?
I actually fear my mom will want to sell her house. It’s immaculate, but there’s real estate involved and it’s probably more than she will be able to handle.
My Dad wouldn’t leave his home, and wouldn’t let Mom leave, even though she had Alzheimer’s. I provided in-home care with an exorbitant cost and spent my retirement savings and borrowed money.
Near the end, he was falling almost every other day and the caregivers could not pick him up. After one of those falls he went into rehab and I left him in the nursing home. Mom fell for a third time and broke her other hip. (She already broke one hip and cracked a pelvis on two other falls.) So, she went into the same nursing home. They were put in a room together and stayed there for one year and nine months. They both died with 20 days of each other.
I honored my Dad’s wishes until it was physically impossible. He did not see me as putting him in the nursing home either. He wanted to get out of the nursing home and never reallly liked it there. Because Mom was there, however, he tolerated it. All this occurred with me living 400 miles from my parents.
For several years after my husband’s passing I did not want to leave our home either. Then one day I realized that I was too isolated and lonely and that memories did not live inside walls, but were quite portable. I sold the house, had another, more maintainable for me home built and am building a fuller life.
Life really does go on but it is up to us to make it fulfilling by not living in the bygone days, in homes too difficult to keep up or so isolated that we are quite alone the majority of the time.
I hope your father will come to as satisfactory conclusion for himself.
There are 4 of you?
Get together and make sure the repairs are done for your dad.
There are 4 of you?
Get together and make sure the repairs are done for your dad.
So get together with your siblings and hire some contractors. Find out if your Dad can help with the finances. Where is your Dad supposed to go to a government-financed old folks home?
So get together with your siblings and hire some contractors. Find out if your Dad can help with the finances. Where is your Dad supposed to go — to a government-financed old folks home?
The writer and any siblings should combine to make necessary repairs to maintain the home’s value. No need for dad to move out, even if it makes more sense to them for him to do so.
Same thing happened with my grandmother. Widowed, staying in her house, increasingly not capable of really keeping it up, all of her kids begging her to move out. For years. Finally they succeeded in doing so, and within three months she was dead. Let him stay there as long as he wants, focus your energies in helping with repairs, cleaning, etc.
Mom will be 80 in April. We lost Dad three years ago. She is getting frailer and less able to handle things in what she calls “Daddy’s house.”
We had a small scare with her after Christmas and she and I talked. I told her what I feared about her being alone and she assured me that she would start being more careful and allow us to help her more. (She’s an independent gal!) She knows that I respect her independence and that she never had to worry about her desires being overridden.
We agreed on her telling us when it is getting to be too much and we’d discuss options.
There’s a company in Connecticut that is called Palsbuilt that installs modular units to a “host Home”. They are small assisted living units and allow a senior/s to live with their family; but in their own space and with their own entrance. Looks neat if a family can do it.