“Do not think that I came to bring peace on Earth; I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I came to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and a man’s enemies will be the members of his household.”
Have mercy on the feebleminded. Do right. I also have a cousin who is a bit retarded and votes “Dimocrat” every time. . blows her welfare check pretty much every month. I’ve helped her in the past anyway.
He’s one of the few Obama voters who has an excuse. Those who are not mentally handicapped are evil. Those who are handicapped should be forgiven.
Sounds lucid enough to me if he complains when you’re late.
Cut the payment to $15, and when he complains, tell him the other $15 is his “fair share” demanded by President Obama. We all gotta have some skin in the game, Gramps!
$30 can’t cause a life or death situation anymore
these days its one trip to McDonlalds.
You are going to teach him a much better lesson if you say “Thanks to Obama I know have $4000 less per year and everything costs twice as much so I can’t afford it anymore”
add “Go Ask Obama for it”
I would NOT feel one bit of guilt over it
You know what the right thing to do is, or you wouldn’t be asking.
Since you will have much less money available because of tax increases, go ahead and explain that to him.
You'll probably be giving the Gov. way more than the $30/mth you were sending your uncle.
It's basic math.
It's not your fault...your fellow Americans decided “others” needed the money more than your Uncle did.
You have no choice.
Obama voters didn't give you one.
Teach him a lesson. NO MERCY!
Keep helping out. Your generosity towards him wasn’t based on politics anyway. JMHO
My wife and I have been having similar type conversations here. Here's what we've decided going forward. We have a relative who is a liberal nun who runs an inner city charity. She obviously helps her clients through a mix of government and private charity. We've always been generous with her specific requests in the past. We'll probably give her whatever she wants before the tax increases are enacted. But once those increases come we're just going to tell her we are unable to give due to the massive tax increase we're enduring. It'll happen.
As far as specific relatives who go on and off "the payroll" we're going to see what happens next time they ask. Surgery for the cat? Nope - tax increases too burdensome to spare money for that. Large cash gift at Christmas? No way. Help paying the rent? That's the tough one - we'll cross that bridge when (not if) we come to it.
If you can’t depend on your own heart to decide what’s right then a forum full of people can’t help you.
Is he elderly? If something happened to him, would you feel guilty about cutting him off?
Just me, but you said you’re doing this to honor your grandmother. I wouldn’t let his lack of appreciation become an issue.
If $30 is not a burden, continue sending. But if it happens to become a burden one month, send him a letter and explain it at that time.
On the other hand, if you were to find out he’s using it for booze or for subsidizing someone else, I’d send $30 in his name to a children’s hospital and let him know you did this.
Just stop mailing him checks altogether. That'll really teach him a lesson and you'll feel so much better.....
You will have time to think this over before Jan.but it would help if you made up your mind now.In honor of your Grandmother I would continue to send it until you can’t afford to.
Well, if anything your vanity has shown us that the majority of FReepers really are gentle and caring people. There’s a few maladjusted misandrists in every bunch, and we’re no exception. Just ignore the ignorant calls to spite a blood relative over an election. Obviously some of FR’s more petty members are seriously butt hurt and would kick kittens if they stepped off a Democrats lawn.
As long as you can afford it, continue sending the checks.
Are you religious at all?
What do you think God thinks about stopping a meager monthly check?
What do you think The Adversary thinks about this situation?
I admit it is speculation, but I’d wager God wouldn’t be too keen on it, and The Adversary would be grinning.
Find who took him to vote or help vote and kick their butt.
He likes big government and central planning SO rather than just give him the money and let him do as he pleases with it make him qualify for it THEN add strings attached. Tell him there are others poorer than him, more diverse than him that may better qualify. IF he qualifies THEN tell him what he must spend it on...