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Posted on 06/13/2012 4:57:30 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative

As many of you know I have been dealing with a lot of health issues recently. I left home for about a month to get inpatient therapy for my knees and shoulders (R.A.). Also dealing with other things (bowels are a huge issue for me now)

I mentioned this to a person whom I thought was a "friend" on Facebook and she called me disgusting and stopped messaging me. I understand it is an unpleasant issue, but it doesnt make someone a gross person ? I also understand that people don't like to hear other people moan and go on and on about their health problems when we all have challenges in our lives of various types. I understand this and im usually a very private person...but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ? Is it a matter of maturity ?

i don't know who to trust as far as explaining these problems. and..honest to goodness.. I don't think anyone in my situation could avoid being worried/somewhat obsessed about it. I think thats just the truth...


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1 posted on 06/13/2012 4:57:34 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

First, that was no friend. Second, I don’t know if I’d get that personal on facebook, but some people do say private things and that’s a personal choice about how comfortable an individual feels about sharing. A good friend would have told you they would pray for you. One of the nice things about facebook is you often really do find out about the character of some people pretty quickly. Consider it a blessing.


2 posted on 06/13/2012 5:01:36 PM PDT by Paved Paradise
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To: Paved Paradise

I agree with you, but on the other hand, maybe a little less sharing would work as well.


3 posted on 06/13/2012 5:04:37 PM PDT by MrShoop
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
(bowels are a huge issue for me now)

Well there's something you don't read every day. LOL
4 posted on 06/13/2012 5:05:01 PM PDT by cripplecreek (What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his soul?)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Well you learned your lesson about facebook. You are sick, and sick people present a special challenge to their friends. Will they ignore or embrace you? This is a rare and blessed opportunity: you get to find out who your REAL friends are! In you have none, no matter: you clear the slate. If you have one, great! And you do have one: me.


5 posted on 06/13/2012 5:05:18 PM PDT by golux
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

I’m sorry for your health problems, esp. if they are particularly serious. My prayers are with you.

I don’t know how close a relationship you have with this female Facebook friend. I know people who have 800+ “friends” in their social networking lives and I can imagine that a very, very small fraction of them want to hear about bowel problems. Maybe you should rely on your wife as a confidant, for now.


6 posted on 06/13/2012 5:05:48 PM PDT by workerbee (We're not scared, Maobama -- we're pissed off!)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

“..but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ?”

poop


7 posted on 06/13/2012 5:08:00 PM PDT by APatientMan (Pick a side)
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To: cripplecreek; se_ohio_young_conservative

Might I add you are AWESOME for being so honest about your health problems. In a minute we peacocks are dead and in the ground, and here you are talking about the stuff that affects us all.


8 posted on 06/13/2012 5:10:54 PM PDT by golux
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

I’m in my mid-fifties and still learning new ways to offend people. Reckon that skill will go the way of all bowels only when I die.


9 posted on 06/13/2012 5:14:49 PM PDT by Fester Chugabrew (let establishment heads explode)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Sitting around your living room talking about your bowels, is way different than on a public forum.
Beyond that, why are you discussing your health on FaceBook at all?


10 posted on 06/13/2012 5:18:32 PM PDT by svcw (If one living cell on another planet is life, why isn't it life in the womb?)
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To: workerbee

well the person asked me how I was doing. I told her and then she got offended...

it was NOT out of context


11 posted on 06/13/2012 5:20:46 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: workerbee

she asked about my health problems I mean


12 posted on 06/13/2012 5:21:31 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: svcw

see above. It is not something I would ever bring up out of context. The person asked about my health. I would lie if I said the situation didnt hurt my feelings a bit


13 posted on 06/13/2012 5:23:28 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: golux

That is so true. Being ill for any length of time and seeing the reaction of those you know is an “eye opener”.

I am a cancer survivor and I learned a wealth of information about “friends” and family during my two year battle.

Those you feel should be there for you during your illness and treatment sometimes are not. (”What did you do to cause this?”) Other folks that you hardly know, are calling every day to see how your chemotherapy is going and do you need any help.

When I would get upset sometimes about various family or friends’ lack of caring as I related my experience via Facebook, my wise daughter would say to me “Mom, remember Facebook is like High School sometimes!”. She is right.

But when you do have someone supportive, family or friend who communicates with you through Facebook or other ways, who sticks with you and is not fazed by whatever specific health problems you are encountering - THEY are someone to value.


14 posted on 06/13/2012 5:27:39 PM PDT by bunches (Irish people enjoy whimsical humor)
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To: cripplecreek

LMAO!


15 posted on 06/13/2012 5:27:52 PM PDT by carriage_hill (All libs & most dems think that life is just a sponge bath, with a happy ending.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Medical problems are no reason to break a friendship. Might make them weird for awhile but not ending it. Maybe terminology makes some people uncomfortable. Generally their hang up though.

Bowels may be a queasy term for some. Gastric or gastrointestinal, or gi tract may be another way to phrase it, but it would not have stopped your “friend” from leaving.


16 posted on 06/13/2012 5:28:42 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
Put it under the heading "too much information."
17 posted on 06/13/2012 5:30:31 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Government is the religion of the sociopath.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Hey darling! Listen to some “Mom” advice. First, someone who refers to a medical condition that you are dealing with as “disgusting” is NO friend. He or she is an immature child. Secondly, medical conditions are simply failures of our bodies. Perhaps it was how I was raised (Mom was a R.N. and GG was a midwife) but bodies are simply bodies. Most people see conditions rather clinically. That is, we all have medical issues from time to time (even some unpleasant ones). Chin up and don’t let other people “define” yourself. Take comfort that you are a great person, good friend, fantastic husband and Daddy. Hugs, Mom


18 posted on 06/13/2012 5:31:56 PM PDT by momtothree
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To: E. Pluribus Unum

put it under the heading of why human beings are so weird about these issues ?


19 posted on 06/13/2012 5:35:02 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Try Dr. Schultz products for bowel problems. His Formula #1 is outstanding for constipation https://www.herbdoc.com/index.php?option=com_oscommerce&osMod=product_infoNew&Itemid=42&products_id=10&osCsid= and you can take it for life if need be.

He’s got a 5-day bowel detox that is also outstanding. All his products are super good.


20 posted on 06/13/2012 5:35:07 PM PDT by Auntie Mame (Fear not tomorrow. God is already there.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

There is someone I love deeply (a close family member) who has serious health issues. He has developed the equivalent of Crohn’s Disease as a complication of his other issues.

It can be embarrassing when control becomes an issue. The only effective treatment so far has been to ingest tincture of raw opium to calm and (somewhat) control the condition.

I’m telling you this only so that you’ll know I’m serious when I say I am truly empathetic for your situation. Some people may not be, but that’s their problem - not yours.

Here’s a sincere prayer for your return to health, or at least some functionality and more ease in living with your condition.

In Jesus’ Holy Name I ask for God’s Grace to you. May blessings (including *true friends*) abound in your life.


21 posted on 06/13/2012 5:44:03 PM PDT by shibumi (Cover it with gas and set it on fire.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

There are lots of people in your circle of friends who are sympathetic to your plight, and will gladly do something to help if they can....but who still do not want to hear a detailed, clinical recitation of your symptoms. Especially if for the third or fourth time.


22 posted on 06/13/2012 5:53:35 PM PDT by Notary Sojac (Ut veniant omnes)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

I have a lot of friends on Facebook, but I feel that FREEPERS are your real FRiends and mine too. We care about each other on here. I wish you the best and prayers for a quick recovery.


23 posted on 06/13/2012 5:54:03 PM PDT by napscoordinator
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24 posted on 06/13/2012 6:00:43 PM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: Notary Sojac

How do you know how my friends feel ? I never bring it up out of context..

I am not trying to get you to feel sorry for me.. but im only 26 years old and it is so easy to feel isolated with all these probs. Talking about things does help sometimes...


25 posted on 06/13/2012 6:08:17 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: Notary Sojac

How do you know how my friends feel ? I never bring it up out of context..

I am not trying to get you to feel sorry for me.. but im only 26 years old and it is so easy to feel isolated with all these probs. Talking about things does help sometimes...


26 posted on 06/13/2012 6:09:30 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

More people are crazy every year. As many university students know, there are even more psych. and soc. folks crazy per capita. Don’t sweat it.

BTW, you should see my bowel issues after a special meal. Huge, I’m tellin’ ya. No problems, though. [Remember, more people crazy. The rising uber-sensitivity game in business and politics is one pathology that pushes out and oozes into view, so to speak.

;-)


27 posted on 06/13/2012 6:10:47 PM PDT by familyop ("Wanna cigarette? You're never too young to start." --Deacon, "Waterworld")
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

You might find that an on-line support group for your disorder is a better place for sharing your bowel troubles than Facebook.

A lot of people just do not have any comprehension of a difficulty that they have not experienced - they can be clueless and unkind, and you are better off seeking support from those who know what it’s like because they’ve been there.


28 posted on 06/13/2012 6:13:08 PM PDT by heartwood
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Facebook Friends Rule: If I never looked you in the eye and shook your hand, we are not friends and are not going to be friends. I make an exception for blood relatives - nieces and nephews etc. that I have not yet met.

...and I never talk about my bowels.


29 posted on 06/13/2012 6:50:57 PM PDT by Chuckster (The longer I live the less I care about what you think.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

People you ‘friend’ on face book are not real friends. They are cyberspace accquaintances.

Friends are people you hang out with through thick and thin in a two way street. If you have one or two good friends, you are way ahead of most people. They are a rare treasure. Everyone else is an accquaintance who you keep at arm’s length. And then there is your family. Keep them close.

I hope you are still getting the support of counseling.


30 posted on 06/13/2012 7:12:11 PM PDT by SaraJohnson
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Shouldn’t have told her it was green and peanuty like Jiff.


31 posted on 06/13/2012 7:43:43 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

huh ? that is NOT funny at all


32 posted on 06/13/2012 7:46:48 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

se-ohio: Assuming you’re still married, what does your wife have to say about this female Facebook friend you’re sharing bowel troubles with?


33 posted on 06/13/2012 7:51:11 PM PDT by workerbee (We're not scared, Maobama -- we're pissed off!)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
Life in a howareyou-fine culture! Move to Israel, Jews are well known kvetchers.


34 posted on 06/13/2012 7:51:47 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Let us prey!)
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Yes, medical problems can become a central topic for the sufferer. People ask, ya talk about it.

Realize some topics are just too much for some people. Be sensitive and tactful, figure out whether they can take it before dumping squeamish details on them.

Make the discussion fun/interesting. Work at the story as a story. I told my tale of “drive thru heart surgery” 3 times today; getting it down to a short entertaining informative tale has taken some work in the intervening 4 months.


35 posted on 06/13/2012 7:53:34 PM PDT by ctdonath2 ($1 meals: http://abuckaplate.blogspot.com)
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Hey, dude, it’s happened to me. Green poop is serious business.


36 posted on 06/13/2012 7:54:13 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: workerbee

nothing. she trusts me as far as the internet goes. she has no problem with me having female friends.

again, I want to stress that I only mentioned the personal issue because the lady was asking about my health.


37 posted on 06/13/2012 7:55:50 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: fieldmarshaldj
Green poop is serious business.

You know the rules. Pitchers!

38 posted on 06/13/2012 7:55:50 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Let us prey!)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

You’ve got friends here, however tangential.

I’m 44 and should be dead 4 times over already. I might have a clue how you’re feeling.


39 posted on 06/13/2012 8:00:13 PM PDT by ctdonath2 ($1 meals: http://abuckaplate.blogspot.com)
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To: JoeProBono; a fool in paradise; Slings and Arrows; Daffynition

pooPING!


40 posted on 06/13/2012 8:00:38 PM PDT by Revolting cat! (Let us prey!)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

Why would you mocking me ? Seriously ? I am trying the best I can in life...


41 posted on 06/13/2012 8:03:21 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: Revolting cat!

42 posted on 06/13/2012 8:04:02 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

I’m not mocking you dude. It sucks balls to have evil bowels.


43 posted on 06/13/2012 8:05:45 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: napscoordinator
We care about each other on here.

Been on a Mitt Romney/Virgil Goode thread lately?

44 posted on 06/13/2012 8:07:12 PM PDT by kevao
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To: kevao
"Been on a Mitt Romney"

Speaking of nasty bowel movements...

45 posted on 06/13/2012 8:09:46 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

That should be provocative enough the get the “care” really flowing on this thread.


46 posted on 06/13/2012 8:13:46 PM PDT by kevao
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
nothing. she trusts me as far as the internet goes. she has no problem with me having female friends.

Nothing? Your wife thinks "nothing"? And she trusts you "as far as the internet goes" ? Huh.

Be honest. What did your friendship with this other female (the one who found you disgusting once you shared bowel details) entail, prior to being FB friends?

47 posted on 06/13/2012 8:14:11 PM PDT by workerbee (We're not scared, Maobama -- we're pissed off!)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

if you don’t have something to add to the conversation I would sppreciate if you move on to another thread


48 posted on 06/13/2012 8:15:06 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Check your mail. S’OK.


49 posted on 06/13/2012 8:18:36 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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To: kevao

I have a big heart. Almost as big as my bowels.


50 posted on 06/13/2012 8:20:01 PM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (If you like lying Socialist dirtbags, you'll love Slick Willard)
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