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Posted on 06/13/2012 4:57:30 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
As many of you know I have been dealing with a lot of health issues recently. I left home for about a month to get inpatient therapy for my knees and shoulders (R.A.). Also dealing with other things (bowels are a huge issue for me now)
I mentioned this to a person whom I thought was a "friend" on Facebook and she called me disgusting and stopped messaging me. I understand it is an unpleasant issue, but it doesnt make someone a gross person ? I also understand that people don't like to hear other people moan and go on and on about their health problems when we all have challenges in our lives of various types. I understand this and im usually a very private person...but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ? Is it a matter of maturity ?
i don't know who to trust as far as explaining these problems. and..honest to goodness.. I don't think anyone in my situation could avoid being worried/somewhat obsessed about it. I think thats just the truth...
First, that was no friend. Second, I don’t know if I’d get that personal on facebook, but some people do say private things and that’s a personal choice about how comfortable an individual feels about sharing. A good friend would have told you they would pray for you. One of the nice things about facebook is you often really do find out about the character of some people pretty quickly. Consider it a blessing.
I agree with you, but on the other hand, maybe a little less sharing would work as well.
Well you learned your lesson about facebook. You are sick, and sick people present a special challenge to their friends. Will they ignore or embrace you? This is a rare and blessed opportunity: you get to find out who your REAL friends are! In you have none, no matter: you clear the slate. If you have one, great! And you do have one: me.
I’m sorry for your health problems, esp. if they are particularly serious. My prayers are with you.
I don’t know how close a relationship you have with this female Facebook friend. I know people who have 800+ “friends” in their social networking lives and I can imagine that a very, very small fraction of them want to hear about bowel problems. Maybe you should rely on your wife as a confidant, for now.
“..but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ?”
Might I add you are AWESOME for being so honest about your health problems. In a minute we peacocks are dead and in the ground, and here you are talking about the stuff that affects us all.
I’m in my mid-fifties and still learning new ways to offend people. Reckon that skill will go the way of all bowels only when I die.
Sitting around your living room talking about your bowels, is way different than on a public forum.
Beyond that, why are you discussing your health on FaceBook at all?
well the person asked me how I was doing. I told her and then she got offended...
it was NOT out of context
she asked about my health problems I mean
see above. It is not something I would ever bring up out of context. The person asked about my health. I would lie if I said the situation didnt hurt my feelings a bit
That is so true. Being ill for any length of time and seeing the reaction of those you know is an “eye opener”.
I am a cancer survivor and I learned a wealth of information about “friends” and family during my two year battle.
Those you feel should be there for you during your illness and treatment sometimes are not. (”What did you do to cause this?”) Other folks that you hardly know, are calling every day to see how your chemotherapy is going and do you need any help.
When I would get upset sometimes about various family or friends’ lack of caring as I related my experience via Facebook, my wise daughter would say to me “Mom, remember Facebook is like High School sometimes!”. She is right.
But when you do have someone supportive, family or friend who communicates with you through Facebook or other ways, who sticks with you and is not fazed by whatever specific health problems you are encountering - THEY are someone to value.
Medical problems are no reason to break a friendship. Might make them weird for awhile but not ending it. Maybe terminology makes some people uncomfortable. Generally their hang up though.
Bowels may be a queasy term for some. Gastric or gastrointestinal, or gi tract may be another way to phrase it, but it would not have stopped your “friend” from leaving.
Hey darling! Listen to some “Mom” advice. First, someone who refers to a medical condition that you are dealing with as “disgusting” is NO friend. He or she is an immature child. Secondly, medical conditions are simply failures of our bodies. Perhaps it was how I was raised (Mom was a R.N. and GG was a midwife) but bodies are simply bodies. Most people see conditions rather clinically. That is, we all have medical issues from time to time (even some unpleasant ones). Chin up and don’t let other people “define” yourself. Take comfort that you are a great person, good friend, fantastic husband and Daddy. Hugs, Mom
put it under the heading of why human beings are so weird about these issues ?
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