First, that was no friend. Second, I don’t know if I’d get that personal on facebook, but some people do say private things and that’s a personal choice about how comfortable an individual feels about sharing. A good friend would have told you they would pray for you. One of the nice things about facebook is you often really do find out about the character of some people pretty quickly. Consider it a blessing.
Well you learned your lesson about facebook. You are sick, and sick people present a special challenge to their friends. Will they ignore or embrace you? This is a rare and blessed opportunity: you get to find out who your REAL friends are! In you have none, no matter: you clear the slate. If you have one, great! And you do have one: me.
I’m sorry for your health problems, esp. if they are particularly serious. My prayers are with you.
I don’t know how close a relationship you have with this female Facebook friend. I know people who have 800+ “friends” in their social networking lives and I can imagine that a very, very small fraction of them want to hear about bowel problems. Maybe you should rely on your wife as a confidant, for now.
“..but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ?”
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I’m in my mid-fifties and still learning new ways to offend people. Reckon that skill will go the way of all bowels only when I die.
Sitting around your living room talking about your bowels, is way different than on a public forum.
Beyond that, why are you discussing your health on FaceBook at all?
Medical problems are no reason to break a friendship. Might make them weird for awhile but not ending it. Maybe terminology makes some people uncomfortable. Generally their hang up though.
Bowels may be a queasy term for some. Gastric or gastrointestinal, or gi tract may be another way to phrase it, but it would not have stopped your “friend” from leaving.
Hey darling! Listen to some “Mom” advice. First, someone who refers to a medical condition that you are dealing with as “disgusting” is NO friend. He or she is an immature child. Secondly, medical conditions are simply failures of our bodies. Perhaps it was how I was raised (Mom was a R.N. and GG was a midwife) but bodies are simply bodies. Most people see conditions rather clinically. That is, we all have medical issues from time to time (even some unpleasant ones). Chin up and don’t let other people “define” yourself. Take comfort that you are a great person, good friend, fantastic husband and Daddy. Hugs, Mom
There is someone I love deeply (a close family member) who has serious health issues. He has developed the equivalent of Crohn’s Disease as a complication of his other issues.
It can be embarrassing when control becomes an issue. The only effective treatment so far has been to ingest tincture of raw opium to calm and (somewhat) control the condition.
I’m telling you this only so that you’ll know I’m serious when I say I am truly empathetic for your situation. Some people may not be, but that’s their problem - not yours.
Here’s a sincere prayer for your return to health, or at least some functionality and more ease in living with your condition.
In Jesus’ Holy Name I ask for God’s Grace to you. May blessings (including *true friends*) abound in your life.
There are lots of people in your circle of friends who are sympathetic to your plight, and will gladly do something to help if they can....but who still do not want to hear a detailed, clinical recitation of your symptoms. Especially if for the third or fourth time.
I have a lot of friends on Facebook, but I feel that FREEPERS are your real FRiends and mine too. We care about each other on here. I wish you the best and prayers for a quick recovery.
More people are crazy every year. As many university students know, there are even more psych. and soc. folks crazy per capita. Don’t sweat it.
BTW, you should see my bowel issues after a special meal. Huge, I’m tellin’ ya. No problems, though. [Remember, more people crazy. The rising uber-sensitivity game in business and politics is one pathology that pushes out and oozes into view, so to speak.
;-)
You might find that an on-line support group for your disorder is a better place for sharing your bowel troubles than Facebook.
A lot of people just do not have any comprehension of a difficulty that they have not experienced - they can be clueless and unkind, and you are better off seeking support from those who know what it’s like because they’ve been there.
Facebook Friends Rule: If I never looked you in the eye and shook your hand, we are not friends and are not going to be friends. I make an exception for blood relatives - nieces and nephews etc. that I have not yet met.
...and I never talk about my bowels.
People you ‘friend’ on face book are not real friends. They are cyberspace accquaintances.
Friends are people you hang out with through thick and thin in a two way street. If you have one or two good friends, you are way ahead of most people. They are a rare treasure. Everyone else is an accquaintance who you keep at arm’s length. And then there is your family. Keep them close.
I hope you are still getting the support of counseling.
Shouldn’t have told her it was green and peanuty like Jiff.
