Posted on 04/10/2024 6:39:27 AM PDT by Enterprise
The online dating sites very specifically WILL NOT let a woman know how average she really is, because she would instantly walk away.
One of my favorite scenes in the movie "The Social Network" is when they grab all the girls pics from the college system, and create a website where guys rate them, and sort girls by their actual ratings. The OUTRAGE!
You did it right. Congratulations!
I really don’t think there is much difference in men or women. I do think that most men or women get the partner that they deserve though.
Men’s perspective - “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.”
Feminazis and the sexual revolution has made women miserable.
I lucked out with my wife. She’s spent the last 40 years making an effort to keep me happy.
I would say that you deserve her.
the American woman after 40 is content with a box of wine, a cat, a prescription of Xanax, and “The View.”
That’s a box of wine every other day, two cats minimum because cats need friends, Valium cause it’s stronger, and CNN/PBS all the time in the house, NPR in the car. And coffeeshop carryout because no one wants to cook.
And don’t you EVER hold a door open for me you Southern Gentleman Pig. SNEER.
Young Women today by and large are utterly unrealistic.
The data out of Dating apps shows the reality... Women are absolutely insane. Women “swiping” men isn’t a bell curve, its 90% for the same 10% of men.. So for all their lecturing about men being superficial, reality is women are far far far more superficial than men.
SO those 10% of guys, know they can get whatever they want and have unlimited choices, so no way they are going to settle down with anything less than top shelf, if ever, and these foolish women even if they get one for a little while seem oblivious to the fact they will NEVER be the one who is going to get them long term... and write off 90% of guys who out of the gate.
Women who are 6’s think they deserve a 9 or 10 and won’t even give someone who isn’t a shot. They have deluded themselves into thinking because they can bed a 9 or 10 who’s slumming, means that’s the kind of man they can marry... The data is absolutely unmistakable.
Go watch Pearly Things when she interviews these young women, they are absolutely certifiable.
You have morbidly obese 24 year olds who think they are a 10.... They don’t cook, clean, or anything else, they bring literally nothing to the table but a pair of boobs and a few holes (often well worn) and think that makes them a catch, but they expect a man who’s making 300k or more a year at 25, and is 6’2 and a college athlete and x and y and z... They are just insane.
If you are an average young man, with a promising future, and in your early to mid 20s, you won’t be given the time of day by these women because they expect they can get someone who is in the top less than 1% of men... It’s absolutely insane.
Just because you can post a bikini pic on social media and get lots of folks fawning over it, doesn’t make you marriage material, hell it may not even make you date material... Just because you can get lots of guys in bed doesn’t mean you are a catch....
There are still some sane young women out there, but there is absolutely no doubt in my mind a huge majority of young women are not worth the time of day from a partnership perspective.
Whereas men are looking for one thing only. And nowdays they have little trouble finding it.
Sure you can certainly get you a whore, depending on where you go. But that’s anywhere.. we are talking averages, not exceptions.
I don’t think I’d mail order, I’d take a job over there for a few years, and date.. odds are far better you will find wife material than you will in the states.
You did it right. Congratulations!
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Thank you. It was costly, my unbelieving wife of 23 years walked out on my son and I …..a knock down full blown divorce, her seeking a pound of flesh, 23 months of evil courts and lawyers…..but I knew I won the battle early on when he chose to live with me…..not out of the woods yet…he graduates HS in 14 months….I stand in awe watching God’s almighty hand intervening at every turn.
Praise the Lord! Never, ever, ever doubt the Lord takes care of his own.
It’s like hopping into a car with the oil light on and saying “hey, lets drive across the country”
I wouldn’t go politics on a first date of any sort... you don’t need to go there to feel out someones values.
Young women today are by and large SELFISH and SELF ABSORBED creatures... at least in the US. Don’t need to ask 1 single solitary political question to discover who they are... actions speak louder than words.
Honestly I find it amazing how many people put their politics , right or left, on their profiles when going on dating apps or sights... If your politics define you that much that you feel you need to announce it “first thing” to everyone, then you are not marriage material IMHO regardless of which side of the aisle you are on... even if I agreed with your political views 100%, if of all thing things in life and you as person are, THAT’S at the top of you defining yourself as... you have issues, DEEP ISSUES IMHO.
I use politics more as an IQ test.
Another invented, clickbait “crisis”....or is it real because Charlie Kirk says that it is?
Break up the nuclear family and reverse roles....accomplished.
Turn public education, ran by women into a female centered indoctrination factory. Build the females, drug the boys......accomplished.
Congrats... almost impossible to win full custody as a father.
I know one guy personally, but he never married the woman. She was a party girl and he enjoyed partying with her when young, then she got pregnant... and truly didn’t want the kid so she gave away rights and he raised him. Great kid.
He always said when we would talk, biggest mistake I made was getting her pregnant, no way I was going to compound it with trying to marry her.
Anyway, to your point about being out of the woods, she pretty much had no contact with the kid after they split, but did show back up when he was in HS and tried to sue to get access etc. So he had to go back to court when she sobered up settled down and began regretting her life choices... He won, but still insane he even had to deal with it.
Good luck with everything.
For the record statistics show children do much better in life by every metric when raised by just their fathers than by just their mothers.... Yes kids with both parents in home do best, but a child of a single mother on average does far worse than a child raised by a single father... but laws in the US just favor mothers to the insane degree.
A good part of the problem are the laws involving divorce proceedings. There is currently a better than 50-50 chance that a marriage will devolve into the woman filing for divorce and taking everything ... house, kids, money, etc regardless of who is at fault for the failure.
From the man’s POV there is no upside to joining a contract wherein the other side wins all the marbles for breaking the contract.
I don’t think politics is any indicator of general IQ...
I’ve know some very very dumb conservatives and met some very very smart liberals.
There is wide gap between intelligence and common sense, those things are not directly related.
Smartest guy I ever met growing up, scored a 1560 in his Jr year on his SAT’s... (back when 1600 was perfect score) then took them again in SR just to prove to himself it wasn’t a fluke, didn’t need to take em and got a 1540.). Got a full ride at CMU...
Then once at college got into drugs and eventually flunked out...
I honestly have ZERO desire to talk politics with someone I just met in a first date situation... If that’s where the conversation has to default when first meeting each other, then probably don’t have much in common. There are so many topics to discuss when meeting someone initially, their history, their family, what they do, hobbies, interests, etc etc etc... if that first date conversation has to default to politics... something is really really wrong.
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