Posted on 06/26/2019 1:58:12 AM PDT by vannrox
It’s female nature. Not all, but too many are like that.
How many stories have we all heard about long successful marriages that started out with the guy having to work overtime to win over an initially uninterested prospect?
The simple truth is men tend to fall fast and women quite slow. Your idea, where there is apparently some guaranteed quid pro quo of the woman putting out in return for the chicken special is essentially cheap prostitution.
Yeah!
There is a theme. They want sexy women but behave as though women are out for their money or otherwise ball breakers around here. Makes me picture them spending hours at a computer desk with a woman yelling at them in the background.
No, why do you ask?
I have the no devices at dinner rule. We eat together at least 5 times a week as a family and take turns cooking. Cant imagine not having family dinner. I usually put on some nice soft dinner music. Usually some type of cafe music from the countries dish we are serving.
I raised my kids the same way - talking to them all the time. My parents - especially my father - was incapable of relating to kids. He got home at 5:30 every day, fell asleep on the couch until dinner, got up for dinner, during which he said not a word, then went back to sleep on the couch until bedtime. A total dud who meant nothing to me. I was determined it was going to be different for my kids.
Nope. You mischaracterized what I said.
I inveigh against where the woman goes out for a neal with the premeditation of having a free meal then shutting him down ; regardless of how polished her post-prandial excuses and exit.
It’s the having decided in advance that makes it wrong.
*sigh*
Oh yes, none of that bad stuff ever happens with males. They’re pure as the driven snow. (rolling eyes emoticon)
It seems PAans don’t talk much, especially at the table.
My DH is one and geez, you’d think after all these years he knows how I was raised to talk at the table and might be more active. Then our pastor mentioned all by himself how his wife and family never talk at the table - also mid-central PA.
Basically, they want the sex. And nothing else. Only what they want.
It’s sad so many males seem to be that way, or at least are mouthing off like it is their way.
Luckily my dad wasn’t anything like that, nor my husband. I don’t think my grandfathers were, either, especially my dad’s dad. Yet they were men’s men.
Nah, some women are just hypocrites because they accept dates with men they have no interest in just to get the free meals.
“And when the woman knows in advance that she has no intent whatsoever of continuing contact or a relationship, it’s fraud.”
Definitely. I had a girl at my work who wrote a blog post about how when she first moved to the city and was hard up for money, she accepted dates from as many men as possible because that was the only way she was going to eat a decent meal. Never looked at her the same way again after reading that.
“So because HE made an offer, that he doesn’t have to, she is supposed to be reeled in hook line and sinker?”
No, she is just not supposed to accept the offer of a date with someone she has no interest in dating. Some women will accept it though, knowing it will lead nowhere, just so they can try to squeeze as much free stuff out of the man as possible.
“Your idea, where there is apparently some guaranteed quid pro quo of the woman putting out in return for the chicken special...”
The only one I see expressing that idea is you.
How often do you hear of women taking men out on non-birthday dinner dates?
“sponging off of someone else while implicitly promising something (a relationship) never delivered”
If women can’t accept a dinner invitation unless they are ready to promise a relationship with the guy our species is at risk of extinction.
That's servitude.
Going out with a guy, even out of pity or "I doubt it'll work, but I'll give him a chance" is fine.
Going out knowing you intend never to see him again, but perfectly willing to have him spend his hard-earned money to feed you, in his hope of starting a relationship, is bad.
They're two different things.
Not all women want to be happy.
Some want excitement, some drama, others to be the Queen Bee.
Others mistakenly throw it all away thinking they can do better.
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