Skip to comments.The secret of long term relationships; soup, sandwiches, and icy cold beer.
Posted on 06/26/2019 1:58:12 AM PDT by vannrox
You can go all over the internet and find all sorts of advice on how to keep your love and life alive. Here is mine. I argue, quite convincingly, I must add, that happiness can be had by any couple that enjoys fine food and drink.
There is an old saying that goes a little like this
The way to a mans heart is through his stomach.
Oh, it might not be all that popular in todays progressive reality of gender-less, role-less, lifestyle. But it is a very strong truth. If you want to keep a family strong, tight, and together, make sure that everyone is fed with delicious home-cooked delicious food.
You know, there is something very special about home-cooked, home-made food. Now, certainly, it all doesnt have to be made from scratch. What is important is the care and attention that goes into the food preparation. Then, once the meal is made, it can be shared together with your loved ones at a table.
Traditional meal In traditional conservative households, the meal is the MOST important event of the day. It is a time where family members can relax, talk about their day and life. It is a time where you can share experiences, stories, laugh, cry and just have fun all within a safe protective environment. The most important caretaker of this ritual is the housewife. For she is the rock, the anchor from the the family revolves around. Let everyone else play their games on their phones. Let them grab a burger at the local drive through. Let them steal bites while they are playing a game on the computer or watching the news. That is their life. Not yours. You and your loved ones can enjoy a meal together in peace.
Nothing, absolutely nothing, keeps a family together than delicious food shared together without interruption.
Vintage Christmas meal in the 1960s. After nearly fifty years of traditional housewife bashing by Hollywood, and the mainstream media, the idea of traditional roles and life is frowned upon as a throw-back to The Handmaids Tale. Well this article is the rare, rare push-back to that well known and well-understood narrative. It describes the joys of delicious food, and praises those rare special people who put all their heart and energy into cooking delicious nutritious foods for their loved ones. The meal
The most important meal, is of course, dinner. But here, we are going to concentrate on the second most important meal. Lunch.
And, of course, this entire article implies that the family members will somehow work out an arrangement whereas they can share a mid-noon meal together (and if possible) a siesta afterwards. Its not always possible in todays world. However, with some planning and preparation, it can be part of your life as well.
Of course, there are many meals that can be used for lunch.
I like steak and wine myself, but here we will concentrate on the most fundamental of American meals; the delicious soup, sandwich and icy cold beer. Ah, who doesnt like beer? Who doesnt like a thick and hearty delicious soup? And, for goodness sakes, who doesnt enjoy a wonderful well prepared sandwich?
I met a few on the internet. They are ugly sad souls indeed.
Pepperoni pizza grilled cheese sandwich with homemade tomato soup. Pepperoni pizza grilled cheese sandwich with homemade tomato soup. When my Mrs makes this up for me, I get all twitter-pated towards her. She goes to all this effort, and it is so very delicious. Such care and attention, what a wonder! Food is a way for people can express their love for each other. Now, you do not need to make the soup from scratch.
Many times, the Mrs. would simply get a can of Campbells (creamy) soup, add milk or creme instead of water, and thicken it up with cheese and crunched up crackers. Oh, I so do love a thick soup. Especially something like creme of broccoli or celery.
I never really appreciated thick hearty creme soups until I was well into my 30s. But, once I was bitten, I couldnt get enough of this wondrous, tasty and delicious food.
Campbells soup Campbells soup can be obtained in China. However the American favorites arent all that popular. Instead, other favors are more popular like Borst, and clam chowder. The wife loves to take the can and embellishes upon it. Like adding rice to tomato soup, or thickening the creme soups into hearty delicious masterpieces. Now, buying fresh bread is pretty hit and miss here in China. If possible, we will buy a loaf of fresh french or Italian bread if possible, and then use it. However, many times we are stuck with the various flavors of sliced white bread.
No matter. The creative can certainly work out a great sandwich out of it. It could be a Dagwood with everything, to a simple grilled cheese. No matter what, I personally enjoy all sandwiches with a tomato somewhere hiding between the layers of meat and cheese.
A bowl of delicious creme of broccoli soup. A bowl of delicious creme of broccoli soup. I love to eat it extra thick with yellow cheese (cheddar) and saltines. It is so hearty and very, very tasty. You can make it from scratch, oh the person who can do this is a master chef indeed. Or you can cheat and use an embellished can of commercially available soup. Delicious Soups and Sandwiches
I think that it is a shame that many people in the United States today has forgotten the importance of soup and sandwiches made home style. Americans have grown up to accept high-caloric fast food alternatives as the preferred ways and means to enjoy lunches.
Typical diner food Most of the food that you can buy at a diner can be made at home for a mere fraction of the cost. It enable you to save money, and yet provide home-cooked, delicious foods for you and your loved ones, made exactly how you all like them. When you are saving such money, you often do not NEED to have a second source of income to support your accustomed lifestyle. By eating healthy, with carefully prepared meals by those that you love and trust, you can not only lose weight, but eat better and spend quality time together. Gals, listen to me. No man will leave a woman who is a fantastic cook. Wed have to be out of our mind.
Seriously. Name one man who does not like to eat. Name one.
Of course, thats coming from a traditional old stogie like myself. I cannot tell you what Justin Berber, Bill Clinton, or Ellen DeGeneres would do.
Delicious sandwich. My wife constantly surprises me. She has made an all vegetable sandwich for me, and I could not tell that there wasnt any meat in it. Seriously. All the vegetables were cooked. It was so very delicious, and she used just the right amount of seasoning as well. Amazing! There are so many ways to make the soup and sandwich meal special. Personally, I think that tomato selection plays an important role. I also think that the selection of the type of onions (if you use them) are critical. Red onions taste differently than white or yellow onions.
The bread selection is important. Potato bread makes for great grilled sandwiches with melted cheese, but the Italian and French loaves with big air pockets add a special kind of taste that really emphasizes the meats.
Sliced rye bread and meat for sandwiches. Thin sliced roast beef with cheeses condiments and sliced rye bread for sandwiches. Careful budgeting, and control of the budget has enabled housewives over the centuries to provide delicious and tasty healthy meals for their families. By careful budgeting, the household can be eating wonderful, carefully prepared nutritious meals every single day. The children would love to come home for lunch instead of eating the government-approved Michelle-Obama lunch menus. There are so very many ways to make sandwiches. You can go all vegetarian, or go lean on the meats, and go heavy on the delicious vegetables. You can lightly cook the vegetables, and melt cheese. You can add eggs, tuna, sausage, meat spreads, peanut butter, or just anything that you heart desires. Let the chef of the house decide. You will not be disappointed.
Find a happy woman and KEEP her happy.
You won’t have any problems in the marriage.
The woman should keep the man happy too.
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The secret of long term relationships; soup, sandwiches, and icy cold beer...
I thought the secret was ducking the wife by spending time on FR while taking shots of JD followed a beer that you pulled out of your mini fridge in your man cave and having any hero, as long as it is less than 3 days old, within arm’s reach.
The way to a mans heart is through his stomach.
Aiming a little bit high...
Wait a minute, the secret to a good relationship is homecooked meals served to the man, but women are bad for admitting that they sometimes first accept dates from men because of the food?
I hate beer. Hubby hates soup.
Love can be defined as being willing to make an effort to make the loved one happy.
My wife has been willing to make that effort for 35 years now. And she’s a good cook.
Open-face grilled cheese sandwich.......side of tomato soup.
The excerpt above tells me that while there is a lot of love in the author’s relationship, it did not come from the food his wife serves. I got through the whole thing without one flutter of desire for anything going on there. Rye bread and thin sliced roast beef? Yuck. Campbells soup with cream? Spare me.
The moral is that once a fellow can accept her poor offerings and learn to love them . . . and her, happiness ensues. But, I’d rather eat at McD’s than their place.
Ha, I spent seventeen years eating dinner at the table with my father, mother and two brothers and not a word was ever spoken.
“Confucius say, woman who think way to man’s heart through his stomach, have sights set too high.”
That’s SAD! My wife and I raised four daughters. Even when Nintendo was the hottest ticket, then phones and then computers...at dinner, TV OFF, phones OFF, computers OFF...we sat at the table as a family, we talked about our days, about life, we joked. At least one night a week was family night and we played board games or video games together - ALL OF US.
Was it always bells and whistles? Of course not, not family, marriage or relationship is, but we worked to be a close, loving family. All four of my daughters are grown, two married, one engaged, one divorced. All have children of their own and they all have family nights.
I grew up in a house where my mother ate in the living room, watching TV. My step dad ate at the kitchen table and I ate in my room or somewhere else and we couldn’t get further away from one another...and it felt like it too. My wife is a Latina woman, so her family and family meals (ANY MEAL) is the most important time to spend with each other. We decided early on that we didn’t want to pass MY family tradition on to our kids.
I think this article is TRYING to say that bonding moments happen around food and family - IF YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN. Otherwise it is just sustenance and $2 protein bar can solve your belly hunger, but it won’t help make/maintain a marriage or family.
The first is in the context of an already-committed relationship, the second is a thot sponging off of someone else while implicitly promising something (a relationship) never delivered.
“I like steak and wine myself, but here we will concentrate on the most fundamental of American meals; the delicious soup, sandwich and icy cold beer.”
Real beer is not served icy cold. (Yes, I am a beer snob.)
We raised our kids the same way. Food is consumed only in the kitchen area. No food allowed anywhere else in the house. The only “entertainment” we had in the room for a long time was a radio. We taught our kids how to cook and how to work as a team on a meal. Now they are teaching their friends who didn’t get that growing up.
We lived in Willis, Texas for nine years and my youngest daughter was in a high school class, I don’t remember which one, but they asked all the students in the room (28 kids) who sits down as a family and has at least one meal month - about 10 raised their hands. Asked about once a week - she said 3 raised their hands. SHE was the ONLY one who said that we have a family sit down meal EVERYDAY.
And we wonder why we have fractured lives and we are coming apart at the seems?!?
No, the latter is a mating ritual. Showing the ability and interest to make decades of preparing home cooked meals worthwhile. Take a look at the animal kingdom—that is when the males work hardest, before they have won over their mate.
And when the woman knows in advance that she has no intent whatsoever of continuing contact or a relationship, it's fraud.
Remember the guy in California who serially skipped out on paying for dates?
"Two breasts good, no breasts bad."
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