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My Wife is Mentally Ill continuation
Myself | 3/10/2016 | Rfreedom4u

Posted on 03/10/2016 12:51:52 PM PST by rfreedom4u

Since my last update things have soured once again. My wife was hospitalized for two weeks and was telling her shrink and counselor that we are going through a divorce. We weren’t at the time but we are now.

She has been very adamant that she wants a divorce and I’ve given up on trying anymore. I realize that I will be free of the hellish life of worry and grief. Once again she states she has been seeing angels and demons, and inanimate objects being moved around by ghosts.

I delayed filing the petition for divorce because I knew she wasn’t in her right mind. She continued to press me on when I was going to do it so I filed on Monday. She filed her response on Wednesday.

She called me at lunch today to tell me that she is happy we are divorcing. She says we’ve always been incompatible as husband and wife and also anatomically. I was a little thrown off by that so I asked her if she was becoming a lesbian to which she replied she wasn’t. She did tell me that someone else had asked her to marry him and she accepted. I didn’t ask who it was but did mention things like who will be the maid of honor etc. She said that it is complicated because Michael asked her to marry him. By Michael she meant the Arch-Angel. She said she is torn as to whether she will stay in Texas or move back to Philly. If she moves to Philly she has a life long friend that said she could live with her. I’ve begun putting my departure plan into motion (acquiring things I will need) and have set a rather ambitious goal of this January. If all goes smoothly the divorce will be final by the end of May. She will continue to have medical coverage along with a portion of my retirement pay. Our kids haven’t said much about it yet. One has stated that she doubts we will actually get divorced. I have had mixed feelings about the whole thing. On one hand I am saddened that it has come to this. On the other hand I am relieved that I will be free of an unhappy life and constantly being on guard for her next episode. Twenty-seven years of marriage of which nineteen have been like this has been rough. Seventy percent of my married life has been spent dealing with her mental illness. I can’t continue to do it as I feel too drained to do so.

The below link is to my original post which has a link to my second post.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/3317547/posts


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To: rfreedom4u

My guess is, that’s the root of it somehow.

Be careful. Lawyers to look for Internet postings.


21 posted on 03/10/2016 1:04:54 PM PST by The Ghost of FReepers Past (Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light..... Isaiah 5:20)
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To: rfreedom4u

I don’t know how I’d handle similar circumstances. I doubt I could have held out as long as you did. You deserve a measure of peace.


22 posted on 03/10/2016 1:05:06 PM PST by Tijeras_Slim
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To: rfreedom4u

See a lawyer. Get her committed. Use her mental condition as a condition to say that not being of sound mind she cannot enter legal agreements. You might not be able to stop the divorce, but you might protect some assets.


23 posted on 03/10/2016 1:05:21 PM PST by DesertRhino ("I want those feeble mined asses overthrown,,,")
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To: bboop

spent time in psych after head injury for depression.

no kidding, you meet twice a day for a half hour, then lay in bed or watch TV.

Seeing a doctor is an event.

Long term could be different.

I was only In two week. LONG boring two weeks.

outpatient with meds and visiting nurse would be ideal if possible.


24 posted on 03/10/2016 1:05:56 PM PST by dp0622
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To: fwdude

If she’s just “acting” she deserves every award known to man for acting.


25 posted on 03/10/2016 1:06:05 PM PST by rfreedom4u (Islam is a cult of hatred and sexual deviants.)
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To: rfreedom4u
Sorry to read about this mate... You have done all you could do, plus some.. You do not need to exist like this for the kids and they will adjust. They must, but you do not. You have the balance of your life to attain the happiness you need and deserve, and you have begun the process, but you need to make sure you have the strength to carry it out to it's conclusion.

This can only get worse for you, and it will unless you grab the ejection seat handle firmly and pull it.

Then don't look back.

26 posted on 03/10/2016 1:06:29 PM PST by Cold Heat
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To: rfreedom4u
When the day arrives that you can buy a gun without an ID, then I'll listen to arguments against requiring ID to vote. How many judges have ruled that it is discriminatory to require an ID to buy a gun?

If liberals didn't have double-standards, they would have no standards at all.

27 posted on 03/10/2016 1:07:21 PM PST by William Tell
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To: rfreedom4u

You have one life on this earth. Don’t waste another day in an unfixable miserable situation. Drive the divorce through yourself. Don’t rely on the changing whims of your wife.


28 posted on 03/10/2016 1:07:45 PM PST by Dagnabitt (Islamic Immigration is Treason)
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To: rfreedom4u

I’m afraid she may have to hit bottom before she will start seeking real help. I have a friend with alcohol-induced dementia and she refuses to take her meds now. There is nothing you can really do except not enable them.

Good luck.


29 posted on 03/10/2016 1:07:58 PM PST by AppyPappy (If you really want to irritate someone, point out something obvious they are trying hard to ignore.)
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To: DesertRhino
See a lawyer. Get her committed

From the poor guys description, it's pretty clear she can't be committed.

30 posted on 03/10/2016 1:08:33 PM PST by johniegrad
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To: rfreedom4u
It almost sounds like she has some kind of infection. One common infection for older folks in UTI (urinary tract infection). This and other infections like it can cause the patient to have hallucinations.

My dad had some infections and he was seeing some very odd things. His sanity returned and no more hallucinations once the infection cleared up.

31 posted on 03/10/2016 1:09:28 PM PST by dhs12345
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To: rfreedom4u

Sorry. First time I can recall posting to the wrong thread.


32 posted on 03/10/2016 1:09:30 PM PST by William Tell
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To: rfreedom4u

It sounds like she may be possessed. I’m not joking, does she have anything in her background that would open her up to being possessed?


33 posted on 03/10/2016 1:09:41 PM PST by Smittie (Just like an alien, I'm a stranger in a strange land)
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To: William Tell

Did you post that on the right thread?


34 posted on 03/10/2016 1:09:44 PM PST by johniegrad
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To: rfreedom4u

Good Lord, don’t call the cops as one poster has suggested!!


35 posted on 03/10/2016 1:10:55 PM PST by loungitude (The truth hurts.)
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To: William Tell

Sorry. We crossed postings.


36 posted on 03/10/2016 1:11:06 PM PST by johniegrad
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To: rfreedom4u

God help you. You’ve had it rough.

If you wife goes through with the divorce, she is likely to have crises - who will be her emergency contact and next of kin? If it falls on one of your children, he or she will need your support and experience.

I pray that your wife finds healing and a safe haven, even if it is some kind of institution, and I pray that you also find peace, and healing from your long struggle, and for your children also.

Have you ever contacted NAMI? It can be a relief to talk with people who have been through what you have. A loved one’s mental illness is so stigmatizing, and we tend to keep quiet about it, so as to protect our loved one and the rest of the family, and ourselves.

As they say, mental illness is not the kind of illness where people bring you casseroles. It’s lonely. God bless you.


37 posted on 03/10/2016 1:11:23 PM PST by heartwood (If you're looking for a </sarc tag>, you just saw it.)
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To: Farmer Dean; rfreedom4u
Sometimes,all you can do is save yourself.

This is important advice. I went through something very similar, suffice it to say I became the enemy. She was gone and I was trying to save my family.

It's incredibly difficult and no one wins. Try to find some peace.

38 posted on 03/10/2016 1:13:17 PM PST by Mensius
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To: rfreedom4u

Being her husband, you can have her committed. You also might ask your children what they think about that, would they support your decision, etc?


39 posted on 03/10/2016 1:14:23 PM PST by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (Why does every totalitarian, political hack think that he knows how to run my life better than I?)
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To: rfreedom4u

Insanity is a valid reason for divorce, besides she seems to have initiated the process(which is more than filing a petition.) Good luck.


40 posted on 03/10/2016 1:16:00 PM PST by AEMILIUS PAULUS
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