Posted on 03/10/2016 12:51:52 PM PST by rfreedom4u
Since my last update things have soured once again. My wife was hospitalized for two weeks and was telling her shrink and counselor that we are going through a divorce. We weren’t at the time but we are now.
She has been very adamant that she wants a divorce and I’ve given up on trying anymore. I realize that I will be free of the hellish life of worry and grief. Once again she states she has been seeing angels and demons, and inanimate objects being moved around by ghosts.
I delayed filing the petition for divorce because I knew she wasn’t in her right mind. She continued to press me on when I was going to do it so I filed on Monday. She filed her response on Wednesday.
She called me at lunch today to tell me that she is happy we are divorcing. She says we’ve always been incompatible as husband and wife and also anatomically. I was a little thrown off by that so I asked her if she was becoming a lesbian to which she replied she wasn’t. She did tell me that someone else had asked her to marry him and she accepted. I didn’t ask who it was but did mention things like who will be the maid of honor etc. She said that it is complicated because Michael asked her to marry him. By Michael she meant the Arch-Angel. She said she is torn as to whether she will stay in Texas or move back to Philly. If she moves to Philly she has a life long friend that said she could live with her. I’ve begun putting my departure plan into motion (acquiring things I will need) and have set a rather ambitious goal of this January. If all goes smoothly the divorce will be final by the end of May. She will continue to have medical coverage along with a portion of my retirement pay. Our kids haven’t said much about it yet. One has stated that she doubts we will actually get divorced. I have had mixed feelings about the whole thing. On one hand I am saddened that it has come to this. On the other hand I am relieved that I will be free of an unhappy life and constantly being on guard for her next episode. Twenty-seven years of marriage of which nineteen have been like this has been rough. Seventy percent of my married life has been spent dealing with her mental illness. I can’t continue to do it as I feel too drained to do so.
The below link is to my original post which has a link to my second post.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/3317547/posts
Sounds like she needs an eval, don’t you think? Can you get her committed for any bit of time?? ER? Mental hospital? Psychiatrist? Police? (I might start with PD).
Our friend’s wife went off the deep end several years ago - brought about by overworking one weekend (obsessively) + menopause + probably some lurking condition. She spun stories, picked up by the police, spent through their money, etc. She is finally now home again but he will not let her near their money. AND she must be on her meds as the condition to live there.
Sounds just terrible.
Sounds like you stuck with it long after many would have quit. Prayers for you and her both.
I know that you will get plenty of freeper prayers. Hang tough. All things will pass.
Sometimes,all you can do is save yourself.
Ahh, I see, she was hospitalized. Good grief. You are dealing with NO reality on her part, aren’t you? Too terrible.
She just got out of the hospital three weeks ago. She’s had three follow up appointments since then and another coming up on Tuesday. I go to her appointments with her and tell the shrink everything.
They’ve adjusted her meds and she is completely functional. The only thing is she still insists on the whole Michael, angels, demons and ghost stuff.
It’s sad, mental illness is like physical illness, and while you are supposed to stand by your mate, what happens if your mate tells ya to get lost?
Well, you did all you could, mate. Go get yourself a little piece and quiet.
Wisdom.
oh my
Prayers for your family.
You should refrain from posting anything about this on FR, Facebook, or anywhere else.
Does she have or has she had any substance abuse problems?
I think sometimes dealing with a family member who has mental problems is the toughest of all. So little is really known medically and treatment is imprecise at best.
It’s a tough row to hoe for everyone involved.
BTW, you sound very kind hearted about the whole thing to me. What can you do if she wants the divorce?
She abused alcohol. She would skip her meds on the days she drinks. Now she can’t drink due to her meds.
The person who said don’t post anything is right, from a legal standpoint.
If she wants it I can give it to her.
Let me know if I’m way off base, but is there any chance at all she is just acting mentally ill to get this exact result?
If you have a spiritual adviser now is the time to get friendly with him.
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