Posted on 04/26/2012 7:15:21 AM PDT by the_devils_advocate_666
::::grinning and waiting:::::
gonna be good
Thank you for sharing. Several good lessons in there.
I tell young people these three things if they are contemplating marrying someone:
1. If you have no recollection of your fiance ever sincerely apologizing for anything, EVER - RUN, don’t walk from that person. They will blame you for everything that goes wrong in their life.
2. If you are marrying someone because you want them to make you happy and you believe they will, you will be sorely disappointed. If you are a woman you will probably divorce him. If you are a man, you will probably have an affair or three. Either way, you are going in for the completely wrong reason.
3. If you are marrying this person because you want to do everything you can to make them happy, you have a fighting chance, especially if they feel the same way.
I prefer 'surrendering to self.' When I manage to do that, all of my relationships, God, wife, children, are much better, and I, as a result, am much happier. That being the case, why is it still so darn hard? I'm sorry for your loss.
10 years next month for us.
LOL!!!
LOL!!! 15 years for us, our second, I lost my first after 14 years to cancer....
Now, if I can just get you to stop posting anti-marriage screeds, like the one above that I haven't quite gotten around to reading yet... well then, you will be 100% okay.
Yeah, funny how that doesn’t include assorted “except under these conditions” and “unless you’re part of this occupation” and “but not on Fridays” exemptions.
I always liked ‘the door test’ from “A Bronx Tale”.
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No Sale. ;^)
My former wife decided that she’s rather ‘win’ after 27 years. So that’s over with.
My GF passed “The Door Test.” We’ve been together 2 years and it’s been great!
The products of me and my loser are wondering why I am gasping for breath right now.......
32 years in January of 2013. He has been on a trip for a week, and I will be picking him up in a little while from the airport. I have missed him immensely.
What an utter load of cr@p. This is one reason why I’ll never darken the door of a “marriage” therapist.
I think your approach is a good one.
For me, I simply keep in mind how fallible I am. I don’t have any problem doing that, because I screw up stuff so often that when something is wrong, the first suspect in my own mind is ME!
My wife and I just celebrated our 23rd Anniversary last weekend. We went out to dinner in the middle of a stretch where I worked 43 hours without sleep, and had to take a couple of hours to go out for our anniversary dinner. I literally stopped working 10 min before we left, changed into good clothes, and when we came home, I went right back to work. I was in the middle of a deadline and had to fire the only person who could have helped me just as the meat of the project hit...the work still had to get done somehow.
Thing was, my wife understood completely. She didn’t harass me, admonish me, pester me, nag me, sulk or anything like that.
She did everything in her power to help ME get through it. Unselfishly.
How I love that woman. I am blessed.
What’s that?
That was excellent. I always wondered how that got in the script because it was a standard practice I learned from high school friends in the 60's.
Had to look up “the door test”. Waddya know. I passed it all those years ago! 34 years this October.
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