Posted on 12/23/2019 11:29:08 PM PST by Secret Agent Man
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Honestly, after growing up watching my parents fight like mad cats and then get divorced, and witnessing dad lose claim to everything and have to move in with his mother (with nothing to his name), I definitely put off the thought of ever marrying a woman.
I finally got hitched this year in my mid-40’s after a lengthy co-habitation with my then girlfriend. We lived together for about 5 years, so we decided to get married. That risk of losing everything I worked for is still in the back of my mind though. Womyns liberation hasn’t done anything to reform and ‘equalize’ an abusive court system. The only advantage I have is not having children.
It’s the major imbalance in power, thanks to the current family court system, that makes men leery about marriage. I’ve seen too many guy friends burned.
I wish you and your wife the very best of outcomes, my FRiend.
I don’t think income/finances are the biggest hurdle; I would have a much harder time accepting that some other “guy of the month” is sleeping in my former home - especially if I had daughters.
It isn’t a perfect solution, but marrying someone from a culture that doesn’t accept divorce helps.
Now the sons of men who got burned are shunning marriage.
Once Judeo-Christian norms were mocked and marginalized, I don’t know why anyone expected a different outcome. Stable marriages (in most cases) were a benefit of those norms that people apparently took for granted.
Prayers for both of you, and congratulations on a sound and loving marriage.
While certainly either partner can be at fault in the failure of a marriage, the reactions of the two groups to this current state of affairs is very different - leading me to believe the men certainly feel they risk much more. In the end, if she just meets someone with more money, that may be enough - the guy is out of the house, and out of the children’s day-to-day lives.
“It’s the major imbalance in power, thanks to the current family court system”
It depends on the jurisdiction you are in, to some degree, I think.
I was never a fan of the concept of a pre-nuptual agreement until after i went through a contested child custody battle. I do not know if a prenup even has any legal value. But having gone through the nasty divorce, I would expect the woman I am planning to marry to more than understand my motives for wanting one, and to understand that my reasoning is simply a leveling of the legal playing field. I put it this way: women have a defacto “post-nup” written into the law which gives them an advantage when children are involved...why can we not balance it.
My amicable divorce was to sell everything for pennies on the dollar and split 50/50.
I am glad it is over, and I don’t make myself available for whatever reason she wants be friendly. My ex alienated all of her friends and family and doesn’t understand why she’s lonely.
I’m in no mood to start another relationship with anyone and I haven’ been for years. It was that fugly.
This is from 2013 so one thing has changed. More men are working but the other two things are still in play and will likely remain that way as long as the system is rigged against the men.
It is not GENDERS it is SEXES.
not gender sexes.
I didn’t get married until I was 32. We’ve been married going on 37 years. She wanted to be as homemaker, and I was fine with that. We lived within our means but did not deprive ourselves. We are living a comfortable retirement with a mortgage-free house and no consumer debt.
I didn’t get married until I was 32. We’ve been married going on 37 years. She wanted to be as homemaker, and I was fine with that. We lived within our means but did not deprive ourselves. We are living a comfortable retirement with a mortgage-free house and no consumer debt.
Of course, I married a girl from the Deep South. The ONLY way to go!
“Once Judeo-Christian norms were mocked and marginalized, I don’t know why anyone expected a different outcome. Stable marriages (in most cases) were a benefit of those norms that people apparently took for granted.”
So very true.
Because the woman can divorce him on a whim and take the kids, the house, half his money, the good car, the dog, and leave him with the cat, while he searches for a apartment that he can afford?
Because employers trip over themselves to hire women, and men have a hard time finding jobs, especially if they’re over 40?
Without Respect, marriage is abysmal for a man. With regular genuine respect resistance is futile.
I, too, am serving my wife of 45 years. I pray it does not come down to chemo.
I am trying syrosingopine plus metformin. Looks good on paper, no results yet.
Them woman. They be crazy.... : )
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