Posted on 10/23/2018 12:50:48 PM PDT by pgkdan
I was going to say we’ve never been invited to a destination wedding but if living in GA and receiving an invitation to a wedding in the Bay Area is one, then I guess we have. I talked to the bride’s mother in Southern CA before her daughter’s wedding in Northern CA and I could not believe the rules and the plans set down in advance for the “big day”. I would not have hesitated to bow out of the entire event if I’d been the mother. I didn’t hesitate to send back the RSVP - no, will not attend..which was enclosed with the invitation without even a STAMP to return it!!
Relatives were flying in from the UK and there were 4 days of events planned in addition to the wedding day - not to mention travel, lodging, transportation to the site etc.
Would you believe that male members of the wedding party were told what kind of shoes they COULD NOT WEAR because the groom was going to wear a certain kind and it wouldn’t do for any other male to wear the same shoe. Every stinkin’ detail was planned to the ‘nth degree! I would have called in sick. The bride’s mother ended up taking one dress back to the store because the color wasn’t to the bride’s liking and purchasing something else! She was confined to a wheelchair so it was an extra hardship on her. No consideration whatsoever. I had to bite my tongue to keep from telling her in the many phone conversations we had how ridiculous it all was.
No way would I have gone along with such madness. I have no idea how old that bride and groom will be when they realize how selfish they were. IN ADDITION, it took them 5 months to send us a thank you card for the gift...
Fake - these stories are popping up every week in different parts of the country.
The millennials seem to have problems sticking to any social plans. Maybe thanks to the smartphone, they are so used to spontaneity. The young lady living with me (29) changes her mind constantly, and can't decide anything till the last minute.
Me? If I say I'm going to go somewhere, I'll go. I'll write it on the calendar & make whatever preparations necessary.
I’ve noticed that too. It seems simple courtesy and etiquette, as well as being reliable enough to go when you say you will attend is lost on people.
Society through social media has created an environment where the word “friend” loses its meaning because it is so trivialized and diluted to include acquaintances and even to a lesser degree, people with even less familiarity.
It creates a more selfish orientated culture, where the latest post or adventure matters more than “old news”. People are conditioned to gravitate to the new, novel, and exciting.
Modern thinking: “A party that you may have RSVPd to? That was last week, and there’s this new wine tasting/petting zoo that just opened up this weekend.”
There are 3 Peter Pipers in Tucson, AZ
S. Calle Santa Cruz
S. 12th Ave
E. Boadway Blvd
Which one did the invitations specify?
Who was the real No Show?
I think things have gotten completely out of hand regarding weddings. The average cost of a wedding now is over $30,000. I think brides feel pressured by TV shows like “Four Weddings,” “Say Yes to the Dress,” and “David Tutera Weddings.”
The latest fads which drive up the costs:
—Brides now have to have TWO dresses, one for the wedding, one for the reception
—It seems mandatory to have an elaborate open bar with lots of food prior to the formal sit-down dinner
—A three course formal meal is usually required
—elaborate flowers and centerpieces are mandatory
—It ‘s not enough anymore to just pick your colors (for bridesmaid dresses and dining linens). Now you have to have a THEME like Alice in Wonderland, Hollywood red carpet, winter wonderland, etc, BARF
—Following dinner, it’s not good enough to just have wedding cake for dessert, you also have to have an elaborate Viennese dessert buffet
—And for entertainment, a DJ or a band aren’t good enough, you have to have a photo booth, belly dancers, a magician, tarot car readings, a cigar bar. BARF!!!!
It happened to my son. Thirty invites, hardly any RSVPs, two kids showed up. It’s very different nowadays. You have to invite the whole class and since a lot of moms work, you dont have phone numbers for them. Yes. It is heartbreaking. We stopped parties and just gave our kids bigger gifts with a special family dinner.
No more disappointments.
My daughter, who has been a bridesmaid in at least a dozen weddings in the last couple of years, has told me that she’d like a wedding dress made of burlap, and would like to get married in the woods. I told her that was fine with me if she let me sew a little bit of lace on the burlap. We both laugh about that, but there still is no engagement that I know of, and that conversation was at least 2 years ago. Still wishing and hoping that one of these years, her beau would propose.
Not as old as you but the reason parents used to have birthday parties at home was because a. it was inexpensive to bake a cake or buy one, and b. my friends and I wouldn’t dream of misbehaving at the party. The standard of good behavior was universal. And most parents applied swift punishment for “bad” behavior.
What is Basis Central?
I hope your daughter’s boyfriend proposes and they live happily ever after.
When I was dating, I knew I wanted to find a husband and get married. I had a rule in my mind: if I was seriously dating a boyfriend, I would give him two years. If he didn’t propose by the two year deadline, I had my answer, he didn’t want to marry me. Time to move on.
Fortunately Mr RooRoo proposed to me right at the two year mark so I didn’t have to give him the old heave-ho.
Charter schools with emphasis on basic subjects and teaching methods.
Wonder why all the other mothers hate this kid’s mother so much......
Young Al Gore.
I agree. This is extremely unlikely. Kids love parties and would be begging mom to let them go. Not everything on the internet is true.
JoMa
” I have a 36 year old niece who has decided she wants a “destination wedding” at an expensive resort north of Cancun.”
It’s called a childish fantasy. She sees the rich-n-famous doing it and thinks she can live in their status. She can’t. The rich-n-famous don’t do it either.
That’s one way to look at it, and it is likely true for a younger generation.
From my perspective, they have completely lost any notion of quid pro quo. People doing for each other, expecting nothing in return, but in the wet-ass hour you get a call, you just go out and return the favor - no questions.
They just don’t get that. Those are friends.
My son had one in Cancun. They did it for many reasons, mostly because she comes from a HUGE extended family and the cost of a traditional wedding would have been exorbitant.
The cost for three of us was about $3600 for a five day vacation, including air fare.
Only immediate family and 4 close friends were invited.
It was beautiful and saved the families thousands of dollar.
So it cost about 20K total for her parents, your family and the four friends.
you have the wedding you can afford.
Get married privately when you have 100 relatives then you have a pig roast reception.
Narcissism in mothers has gone mainstream. It is no longer an outlier; it is now the norm.
I all boils down to "Look at me!".
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