Posted on 06/06/2016 7:29:13 PM PDT by usconservative
For those of you who read This Post on the original thread with the same title I wanted you all to know that I received a number of emails asking how I was.
Well, I left. I felt like I had no choice. Nothing was going to change no matter what I did, no matter how hard I tried to salvage my marriage -- it was over. Repentance and humbling myself before the Lord didn't matter. The marriage was over long ago, I'd just refused to accept it or I was blind to that fact.
See this thread:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/3432310/posts
and then post #224
and the responce at #277
...you might be surprised at the experiences.
Genesis 3:16:
To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
When women are allowed upset the God’s order of husbandly rule then civilizations crumble.
It’s a two way street...that being said, I have told my son to think very carefully before marrying. It really seems like men are always on the losing end of the proposition.
From this thread, you all seem to be saying happiness in marriage is an impossibility...
Full disclosure: I have one very happily married son with 2 kids, and another single son...
However, I am interested in your advice as to what to tell a 20-something girl.
Ignore the Designer and the design----the problem is not with the Designer or the design----it will break and be ruined. Discover the Designer and the design and appreciate the portrayal, steward the heritage . . . . the Designer has a way to Himself be the glue and the joy.
So, your wife needed your permission to take her God-given role in marriage, as wife. mother, and homemaker, instead of a career woman who must hand over her moral right and duty to mother her children to a babysitter — if you decide she must? Why should she have to ask you for the “privilege” of taking her women’s role in your marriage. A man promises his wife when he marries “all my worldly goods I thee endow” — he supports his wife, it isn’t the other way around. Maybe you aren’t as blameless as you think.
Do you love your wife?
What an absolutely pompous answer.
FIRST off, he NEVER said anything about NEEDING his permission. What he said was she just up and quit her job, without consulting him.
They were both working, 2 incomes meeting the bills. Suddenly one person decides on their own to change things. I imagine you'd be pretty pissed if your husband would suddenly decide to by himself a brand new car, without at least telling you beforehand. I can't imagine any couple making major decisions, that impact the other person, without at least discussing them first.
Only a piece of crap would make a major move that effects the other, without discussing it before hand.
You make mention of a vow a man makes. A woman makes a vow to respect her husband. OBVIOUSLY something you know nothing about.
She made the decision to be a stay at home mom and toss $50k of income/year away, putting the responsibility to work harder and support the family firmly on me, without consulting me before making the decision. Then, I get blamed for the decision she made when she "threw her career away" to stay home with the kids. You ladies cannot have it both ways and always blame us men.
Seems to me you're the real piece of work here.
USC stated that SHE CHOSE to leave her job.
Then SHE BLAMED him for her "throwing her career away".
Like his EX, you can't choose to argue that she had every right to stay at home AND THEN allow the complaint that it was his fault she gave it all up.
If your going to excoriate him for her quitting work to stay home, then you must accept the responsibility that she blamed him for her quitting her career.
Like USC said "You ladies cannot have it both ways and always blame us men."
I know a gay couple who ‘married’ (i use that term loosely) back when CA first legalized it. They had a poodle then they adopted a little girl (don’t get me started). 2 years later they divorced and fought over who would NOT get the girl and who WOULD get the dog. They both wanted the dog but not the child.
Great reply, MM!
Brother, I have been where you are.
If you have to go to court, don’t go before a female Special Master. I did and I’m still paying for it. She was a man-hating feminazi.
Don’t expect your church to understand your decision either. Mine didn’t and still doesn’t.
‘Pod.
When it comes to divorce in this country the laws are punitive towards men as if the woman is innocent in the failure of the marriage relationship.
Oh stuff it.
Agree...Living well is the best revenge.
You can watch Divorce Corp” on Netflix. Trailer. - http://www.divorcecorp.com/the-film/
“Family” Court is pure tyranny. It is entrenched, and hard to change in states because the lawmakers themselves are lawyer.
Even as you appear to be in the final stages legally, be careful.
On a personal level: stay strong spiritually, physically, socially, and at work. As many have said, emotionally it will get much better.
Your advice is poison.
Some times it goes bad even if both parties know the Designer.
You had 29 years to figure out that Bourbin is not an answer but a poor substitute to deeper issues.
Sampling bias. The thread attracts people who have been badly hurt by divorce.
Tell your daughter to pray. Pray hard, and pray that God finds her a husband for life and disposes them well for marriage.
Wow this is a depressing thread!
LOL
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