Sorry but it's now or never for this pairing... ;)
Posted on 09/07/2014 1:47:32 AM PDT by Olog-hai
A team of researchers at North Carolina State University published a study challenging the idea that home-cooked meals are ultimately “better” for the family as a whole. […]
Their time spent accompanying parents shuttling children to checkups, grocery shopping, and, of course, preparing food, led the team to a set of real world conclusions at odds with stereotypical parenting wisdom. For all of the health benefits associated with food prepared at home, the task presented parents, particularly mothers, with a slew of economic and interpersonal stressors.
“One could say that home-cooked meals have become the hallmark of good mothering, stable families, and the ideal of the healthy, productive citizen,” their abstract reads. “Yet in reality, home-cooked meals rarely look this good. Leanne, for example, who held down a minimum-wage job while taking classes for an associate’s degree, often spent her valuable time preparing meals, only to be rewarded with family members’ complaints—or disinterest.” …
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I was a divorced mom of 2 toddlers, I worked 40 hrs a week in a factory. Sat morning was rummage sales for clothes, and the afternoon for grocery store. My dad kept the boys, and I took mom for her groceries too.
Plus I taught my boys the basic required for school. Drove them to baseball practice and games.
I did all the grass mowing, and putting plastic on the windows in the winter. I could do most any thing in the rental shack. As long as it was not electrical, my dad did that and kept the old used washer and dryer working.
Yep, cooking for me is therapy. I hold down a full time job, keep up the house, chauffeur the kids and love my spouse.
You’ve got to wonder who was in the polling group for this study.
Yep, cooking for me is therapy. I hold down a full time job, keep up the house, chauffeur the kids and love my spouse.
You’ve got to wonder who was in the polling group for this study. From one of the quotes, apparently women who don’t know how to cook and prepare uninteresting slop for their families.
Yep, cooking for me is therapy. I hold down a full time job, keep up the house, chauffeur the kids and love my spouse.
You’ve got to wonder who was in the polling group for this study. From one of the quotes, apparently women who don’t know how to cook and prepare uninteresting slop for their families.
Yep, cooking for me is therapy. I hold down a full time job, keep up the house, chauffeur the kids and love my spouse.
You’ve got to wonder who was in the polling group for this study. From one of the quotes, apparently women who don’t know how to cook and prepare uninteresting slop for their families.
Yep, cooking for me is therapy. I hold down a full time job, keep up the house, chauffeur the kids and love my spouse.
You’ve got to wonder who was in the polling group for this study. From one of the quotes, apparently women who don’t know how to cook and prepare uninteresting slop for their families.
“(consider the source)”
The “Peoples Bull S_it” Hour!
Around our house, the person that cooks sits out the cleanup. The cleanup is done by someone other than the cook. If someone’s willing to cook ..I’m fine washing dishes.
Ahhhh. I'm just going to shoot myself.
Not if you teach your kids to cook & make them responsible for planning and preparing one meal a week.
You have to help them a lot at first, but they learn an important life skill and you get a night (or more if you have several kids) off. :-)
I grew up on a small family farm. We grew all the vegetables, beef, chickens, eggs and pork that we ate. If my cranky brother or picky sister didn't like the food prepared by my mother they DID WITHOUT. That was the rule. Nobody got special treatment.
My mother, God rest her soul, made a big pan of cathead biscuits from scratch every morning of the week. Daddy rendered our hogs, made our sausage and smoked all our hams and bacon for many years. We worked together. Some of the fondest memories us 5 kids share of home life were the industrial scale canning sessions we had in summer. You see, we grew enough food to help support the extended family too; my elderly aunts and uncles.
We had cows for milking and butter to churn. We were very poor financially, but ate like kings. The 5 of us kids WORKED every day for the benefit of the family. That is an attribute sorely missing from todays intact families, few though they are.
Late in life, my mother became disabled. My father stepped into her roles as cook and housekeeper. That's how families work.
Pardon my rant. Got to get ready for church, then in the afternoon, my wife and I will be cooking a large meal for her terminally ill sister and her family. We love to cook together. Make some 5 star meals too.
The common thread in my rant: Family and Work.
I fear for our nation....
“Women can do those too!”
True but they usually don’t. Men cook too but usually don’t.
Some of us wives do those things and make dinner every night!
I grew up in my grandparents home. Both my parents worked, my mom in a five and dime and my dad had three jobs before Obola made it fashionable. Home duties were distributed: my grand mother cooked, my mother kept the home, my grandad and dad with my help did the maintenance and tended our large garden. We had dinner promptly at six each night: no TV on, no phone interruptions all around a dinner table. Most saturdays I went with my mom as she visited her mother and her siblings. Sunday we had dinner promptly at one after church usually with my dad’s brother and wife present: no tv, no phone interruptions. If we had no guests that sunday we went to visit my grand parents siblings for the afternoon. The rest of the time I was free to roam as I wanted with the previso be home for dinner at 6. I had some chores, not paid but a family committment, one of which was tending the coal furnace in winter. If not banked before bed, it was very cold in the AM and it was not pleasant for me. Morning tending meant removing the ashes and getting them into the garden. Frankly, they were the happiest days of my life! There were no drug, truency, or gang problems. My family and all those in the neighborhood which were similar minded were God fearing church going US patriots and the world was better for it.
Changing out a flat tire
Rendering corporal discipline to the children
Taking out the dog when it's raining or very cold
Having to get up early in the morning and go to work each day
If we choose the stay-at-home role and have the wife work, we are sissies and "lazy bums"
Anything to do with power tools - or manual tools for that matter
Cutting the grass and other outside menial work
Cutting and bringing in the firewood
Whatever needs painting or repairing
Killing all manner of bugs and small animals that get in house
Oh yeah, and if we are younger, we need to be registered for the draft and be prepared to leave their family and go to war if they are called.
But we're not complaining or forming support groups or anything like that. If we did, we'd be told to "man up".
Sorry but it's now or never for this pairing... ;)
And there are husbands that do that too.
Yeah, and we wonder why obesity rates are going through the roof.
It seems to me that the problem is not enough cooking education is going on in the schools or elsewhere. I was a member of 4-H while I was in school. For 6 years, I took sewing and cooking classes. I make pillows, curtains, clothes, and many other things that can be sewn. I've been thinking about making things to sell on the internet. Every week, my husband, son, and I sit around the dining table with cookbooks and make a menu and shopping list. Each recipe is good for 2 or 3 nights, we use the crockpot a lot, and we save money by rarely eating out. Recently, I started making my own protein bars, after realizing that they can cost $5 a box for 6 bars!
Sure, I work full-time. Yet I still manage to make things.
Time management skills are essential--I doubt that there are very many home-ec type classes these days. They need to be taught. We don't need more obesity-inducing meal programs!
This is the fourth of fifth article I’ve seen in as many days on this topic.
Divisive factions in America are, at this time pressing for 15 dollars per hour minimum wage for fast food workers.
I would expect blow back from higher prices at restaurants, likely in the form of lost business.
It wouldn’t surprise me if the current -resident is attempting to gin up dissatisfaction in this maternal staple to alleviate the certain backlash from his latest mischief
And taking care of the house then is the wive’s responsibility right?
The key to a good marriage and family life is not somebody else’s definition of what the roles of the father and mother should be but in the specific mother and father agreeing as to what their division of labor should be.
The traditional roles came about as a result of the nature of man and woman. Generally speaking it still applies. But the feminutsies in their quest for the unreachable equality are not happy - nor will they ever be because what they’re after is impossible.
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