Posted on 07/18/2014 4:55:36 AM PDT by fulltlt
If we resort to all out warfare, the worst thing that happens is that she will put the toilet paper on the dispenser backwards.
Just had our 37th anniversary.
Even if a woman can’t bring herself to force herself to respect her husband, she can at least choose to NOT tear him down and belittle him to and in front of others.
That includes the eye-rolling and little barbs in conversation.
It’s a small first step, but it’s a move in the right direction.
I also think that the way men are portrayed in movies and TV shows has a lot to do with women’s attitudes towards them. The sitcoms are the worst in tearing down men.
That is true.
Any woman worth her salt wants a man to be protective and decisive.
I know it's a fine line, to walk between being decisive and overbearing, but I do think that it can be done.
The last thing a woman wants is another dependent child in a man's body.
.Look. .the truth is. . it is a woman's nature to idolize a truly respectable man. . .a woman is not truly happy until she finds a man she can trust, love and, . . .hell, worship. . .(yea. . I said it. .take a picture of it. . send it to 'em!!)
You are soooo right.....
I have noticed over many years, the tendency to treat those we are closest with, and who we say mean the most to us, in ways that we would never dream of treating a stranger.
Maybe it's that familiarity breeds contempt, but even something as simple as how we talk to each other.
When I realized that I was more courteous with strangers than my own family, that was a real wake up call. I thought that if I go to the effort of treating people I don't know, don't care about, and will probably never see again, so well, why not the people who I claim mean the most to me?
So sweet. Hats off to you and yours.
I’m not sure what you can do about it, but speaking as a wife and mother (whose kids are now grown) she is wrong.
Her first priority is YOUR home and her family, you and the kids. Feeding the family and keeping the home clean is part of the job description.
Unfortunately, with her *friends* feeding her those lines, I don’t know what to tell you other than I will pray that she comes to her senses.
But, I see the failure even here. Men disrespecting their wives by ogling other women, guilty or not responses on FR. That woman let herself go, etc.
Men also disrespecting their wives by being workaholics.
No woman is going to be respecting a man who throws her under the bus to anyone and anything else that comes along to take up his time.
Gee, if he was a she that would be "blaming the victim."
Pray tell...how should he go about DISallowing himself being treated that way?
Oh, and without being verbally, emotionally, or any other kind of ally abusive....?
Likewise, it's certainly easier to be a good wife when your husband is being a good husband. Men are supposed to lead.
One thing I've noticed that is a problem, is the mentality that women are there just to take care of the men. Some men are so doted on my their mothers, that they expect the same from their wives and treat them like some kind of second class citizen who is there simply to meet his needs and allow him to live as he pleases with no thought of her.
A friend related to me once how her m-i-l bragged that while growing up, her sons never wanted for anything. My friend said to her, *And you didn't do your future daughters-in-law any favors*.
No woman wants an overgrown child who treats her like some kind of servant or second class citizen.
dog.
"Mud" seems to fit, too.
You can't lead someone who refuses to follow.
In my experience, the last thing a woman wants is to follow a husband anywhere but where she wanted to go anyway.
Bingo! Sometimes, it's 110%. Unless there is some ridiculous disparity, keeping score has no future, either. Communication is the key.
I agree. I would have as quietly and graciously as possible excused myself and left the room. Later there would have been a very simple talk about undue public humiliation. "Never again."
Imagine a race of men with one arm bigger than the other...
First dispel the myth of "unconditional love." There's no such thing, except from God. Loving marriages are built on reciprocity.
Anyone asking for unconditional love is asking you to be their doormat.
Next, ask yourself if she's worth what she's asking of you. If not, tell her that.
Whoa! somebody's GRUMPY!! LOL!! You could very well be right!!
>saying it is a command doesn’t answer the question about how many men do you know fulfilling that command?
The answer is a precious remnant who go to the Lord- asking by faith. God knows the number alone.
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