He's celibate until marriage, and dates won't tolerate it

Chicago Sun-Times ^ | June 15, 2003 | Mary Mitchell

[Anthem]

Hoping in bed with a woman that you're not sure of is a good way to pass your genes on... once! After you've been to the family court to have a walletectomy good luck raising the scratch to date another woman after that.

[TheSpottedOwl]

It's been a very heavy burden at times. She used to chain smoke and get stess rashes, but she gave up the cigirettes and she's a loving, happy person who has to pick up her cross every day.

I tried to quit smoking. Existed 23 days on the nicotine patch, and I'll quit again someday. Life shouldn't be a cross to bear, however I grew up like that. Life shouldn't be like that.

[Capriole]

There are numerous methods of having sex, only one of which carries the risk of pregnancy.

Well, yes...but quite often, despite the honest intention to pursue alternative methods of sex, sooner or later people ends up doing the traditional thing, and le voila, there is a pregnancy. in fact, it especially happens when people are trying alternative methods because they expect to use the alternative and aren't armed with birth control for that reason. Believe me on this.

[independentmind]

And I'd like for them to grow up in a world where they can find a man that will love them forever. But to find their man, my girls shouldn't have to feel that they must look prostitutes, or sleep around. Again, where's the feminists on this point?

I don't think the notion of finding "a man that will love them forever" is much a concern to most feminists.

[Capriole]

A lot of guys are celibate

Not on purpose.

The celibacy is on purpose if they are committed, traditional, conservative Christians. I'm not saying they like it.

And if Mr. Washington is having a difficult time finding women who appreciate his attitude toward sex, he needs to be looking for girlfriends in church. They won't all be chaste, but the chances of finding the sort of woman he wants will be higher than in the general population.

[Capriole]

That's what my father always said. I can't disagree. Wish there were a few more men with that attitude around.

[TheSpottedOwl]

LOL You once said I was as weird as you. I think your right. :)

Heehee, maybe weird is the wrong word. Maybe we just think for ourselves :)

[strela]

I don't think the notion of finding "a man that will love them forever" is much a concern to most feminists.

Unless of course the "man" in question is Andrew Jackson, Ulysses S. Grant, or Benjamin Franklin. Prefably Benjamin Franklin ...

[strela]

"Prefably" = "Preferably." The middle and index fingers on my left hand had a sudden attack of dyslexia.

[najida]

And there is always Diamond Jim ;)

[L.N. Smithee]

OK, it's one thing to be celibate during high school. I can understand that. I can even understand being celibate until you get married, assuming you are planning to get married in your early 20s. But if you are still celibate at 33, there is something wrong.

Yup, there is something wrong. With you.

[Age of Reason]

That's what my father always said. I can't disagree. Wish there were a few more men with that attitude around.

I suspect most men feel that way intuitively--but have been brainwashed out of it, as people have an equally strong inborn desire to feel they belong to a group--a society; our modern society tells men and women that following certain of their inborn inclinations is bad, so people repress those inborn feelings to fit-in.

This creates one of many innter-conflicts that account for the mental problems of moderns.

We have perhaps gone from the too prudish to the opposite extreme in the past 150 or so years.

In my opinion.

[strela]

And there is always Diamond Jim

With enough dead presidents in your retinue, Diamond Jim will always be around at your beck and call ;)

[L.N. Smithee]

Celibacy is nature's way of saying your genes aren't fit to produce the next generation.

Au contraire.

The next generation is nature's way of saying, "You should have kept it in your jeans."

[TheSpottedOwl]

By age 30, 81 percent of white women and 77 percent of Asians and Hispanics will marry, but only 52 percent of black women will do so, according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Ah, yes. The legacy of the welfare state. The KKK couldn't have done more harm to the black family than that inflicted by Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, the civil rights pimps and their limousine liberal "friends."

I would have to agree with that statement. Something that black women have to deal with is that many black men prefer to date outside their race while black women choose not to. Oprah Winfrey and Condoleeza Rice are 2 examples of sucessful black women who have never been married, and probably never will. Damn shame.

[~EagleNebula~]

"No, it probably means that he is either gay or asexual. If I had a son that was 33, and had been celibate for 10 years, during his sexual prime, I'd think there was something wrong with him. Most men that choose to be celibate for religious reasons end up getting married very young."

Seems the focus is a little askew. Being sexually active with someone can mess with one's head and heart and prevent one from thinking clearly. It also seems to push things into a pattern where it is something then expected from the relationship on a regular basis. There is a reason why the Lord said it should stay inside of marriage. IMHO

[SendShaqtoIraq]

"Do you even know who Rafael Palmeiro is?"

No.

And, everything you mention is a physical malady. Which is, basically what I said."

Actually, you said "physical injury."

[Age of Reason]

He said the woman he was dating for six months wanted a committment.

Or at least the compliment of being hit-on. LOL

[L.N. Smithee]

Oprah Winfrey and Condoleeza Rice are 2 examples of sucessful black women who have never been married, and probably never will. Damn shame.

Oprah, definitely. She will have marriage experts and proposals of marriage on her show when she has steadfastly denied Stedman Graham and she ever plan to make it official. But Condoleezza? I have never heard such a thing suggested before. Why wouldn't she get married except for the fact that her brilliance probably intimidates men, keeping them away from her like a force field?

[SarahW]

"She's just an unpaid prostitute."

That's an oxymoron. You aren't a prostitute if you don't take money/payment for sex.