9/11 Widow Remarry's

New York Post

[RepubMommy]

Bump- your thoughts?

[RepubMommy]

I guess that I have a real problem "moving on",but I do think that this marriage has taken place rather suddenly.Also,what ever happened to "white"being proper only for one's first foray into the mysteries of wedlock?I guess I'm hopelessly "old-fashioned",or perhaps,there is some degree of Denial here??

There is also the old fashioned taboo of not wearing black to a wedding either. Guess what? It's the color of choice here in the Northeast, but not for the reasons you think. It's a slimming color. My MIL used to be horrified at the sea of black she used to see at weddings, until she tried it herself, and realized she looked at 20lbs lighter.

[McLynnan]

Deciding to remarry is a personal decision. We don't know their motives, but this lady is old enough to know her mind and heart and I would never judge her. People in their forties with a marriage behind them are savvy enough to know what's entailed. If you take off the rose colored glasses, it's about a lot more than love. Companionship, financial security, child rearing assistance, etc. all go a long way towards making life more pleasant. I'm sure they both bring something to the marriage that complements the needs of their partner.

[Grig]

Either she had this guy waiting in the wings Sept 10th, or this is a sad expression of being in denial about the whole thing. If it's the former, I'm glad her (first) husband didn't have to live with her betrayal, if the latter, it will not be a pretty site when she finaly comes to terms with it.

[AppyPappy]

This is akin to having a puppy run over and then just running down to the pet shop to get a new one.

That's exactly what I do. One dies, you go to the pound and get another.

[cynicom]

Headline should read...

"Grief Stricken Widow Has Antidote On Hand For Such Emergency"....

[cva66snipe]

Either she had this guy waiting in the wings Sept 10th, or this is a sad expression of being in denial about the whole thing. If it's the former, I'm glad her (first) husband didn't have to live with her betrayal, if the latter, it will not be a pretty site when she finaly comes to terms with it.

Ever say the words "Till death do us part"? Did you add and a year following that also? Betrayal? How? The vows were honored. Denial? That would be getting up and fixing hubby's breakfast in the morning and telling the kids daddy will be home afterwhile. She saw true reality and horor of horrors. I doubt seriously she denies her husband is dead. I doubt she denies the grief she will carry for years to come. Each person is different in time frames of dealing with death. Some remarry soon, some never re-marry. Neither is wrong.

BTW if you notice they were married in the church with the churches blessing. Most all denominations reqire counceling before marriage. Our preacher was my wife's preacher. A die hard Baptist pew jumping country preacher. My wife omn our wedding day nearly called it off because of her sorry excuse for parents. Thankfully a Nun talked to her and said we married.

Like I posted before people pray for answers and some seem so shocked when they recieve an answer. But one lesson in this is it may not be the answer you were looking for. The events after my first wifes death happen rather fast. The chance of me and her ever meeting was remote and would not have occured had I not told my boss to transfer me when I really meant to turn it down.

Some mutual friends we had played match maker. One was the guy who drove me home from work when my wife died. His wife worked with my soon to be wife at another facility. I wasn't looking for another committment neither was she. A friendship developed and it quickly grew.

Let me ask you something. Go back and read my post in this thread. That's not all of it but most of the story. Would you walk away from someone you knew in your heart you loved because not enough months had passed? Granted chances were slim but through GOD all things are possible. I am convinced of his soverign hand in our very meeting. I am convinced because I can see now how the events unfolded and how lives were changed for the better especially my own. But I doubt you could ever understand why I say that.

[Sloth]

7 months seems a little short, but it's nobody else's business. Bad enough her husband was murdered, now they're calling her faithfulness into question, sheesh. Why not implicate her new husband in the highjackings, while they're at it?

[in_troth]

The onus is on them to explain their action to me and others who find their action unseemly.

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Sorry, God----didn't realize you posted here.

[mwl1]

Your headline is inaccurate; "Widow remarries" not "widow remarry's

[Trust but Verify]

I read somewhere that the better your fist marriage was, the more likely you are going to remarry. Makes sense.

[alisasny]

I know and it was addressed the day of the thread on the thread with an apology by me.

Glad the spelling and grammer police are out in full force.

[Intimidator]

How much you wanna bet he was boinking her before the guy died.

[Floratina]

It's "remarries" not "remarry's".

[cva66snipe]

I don't know likely though about as often as you cheat on your spouse.

[TankerKC]

"I was a little hurt,"

Someone please kick this guy in the nads for me.

[Kaslin]

How many women do you think can "honestly" wear white these days, first marriage or not?

That is easy to answer. Very few

[alisasny]

Post 11 from about 2 days ago has my apology for my error...

Why not read through thread before you notice an error noted 2 days ago.

[alisasny]

Thanks for the freepmail, made me chuckle or is it chuckel..LOL