TO WOMEN: How to Build A lasting Relationship

1/20/08 | bear_slayer

[proust]

why is that?

[najida]

I want to have input also.

[Grizzled Bear]

‘What are you thinking?’ Female here. I was still a teenager when I asked my first long-term boyfriend that a few times and was astounded, I mean completely flabbergasted, to find out that often he wasn’t really thinking of anything at all.

Ladies; On a long (cross country) car trips, at night, through mountain passes don't be surprised if we are in no mood to chit chat!

You can "multi task." Most men can't. We need focus on the task.

Not exactly on topic with what you posted but it reminded me of that!

[najida]

It depends on the crying. Seriously, crying for no reason and just because is a major symptom of clinical depression. In a young person or a child, its often a signal of abuse or molestation.

I don’t cry often, but when I do, katie-bar-the-door. It means I’ve either reached my total limit of stress or some human or pet I love has died.

[Bear_Slayer]

Mail me your input and I’ll work it into the article.

[pax_et_bonum]

I'm sorry . . . .

for your husband. :-)

lol!

[ninonitti]

As my often divorced buddy puts it: “If you have to work on your relationship it’s not a partnership it’s a job.......and I have one of those already”

[Hegewisch Dupa]

Great - now someone is going to blast me with a hypodermic dart full of antidepressants the next time I watch Rudy or Field of Dreams.

[tioga]

Thinking?

[a real Sheila]

the key word there is “recent.”
This applies to “recently divorced” men as well.

[Grizzled Bear]

However, I'm thinking of writing a follow-up for men.

Please let me know when you do!

I want to have input also.

Sounds like the makings of a ping list!

Please ping me to your Men's "How to build a lasting relationship."

[Bear_Slayer]

Consider it done.

[pax_et_bonum]

Women are either teases or bitches. Never met one that was different.

I love women.

Maybe I’ll met one that is different someday.

Oh please.

But thanks for the laugh.

[Bull Man]

Oh, and don't forget the 7th and most important point - Don't slip out in the dark of the night with the kids because you suddenly decide you are not "happy" thus reducing the father of your children to a Saturday Dad with suffocating child support payments.

[najida]

Oh,
Crying at movies, TV shows or sappy commercials is an exception (I was squalling last night while watching Extreme Home Makeover).

[KC_Conspirator]

4. Don't trust everything your girlfriend tells you.

OMG, this is one that kills me.

Why do women insists on having their own Grima Wormtongue advisor; usually one that is totally unqualified to give advice on relationships?

Here is a list of the best friends who my last 2 exes listened to on men and relationships:

1) A 45 year old, never been married, not had a date in a half year, out of work yenta
2) A twice divorced, out of work, welfare queen, pot smoker, whose only relationships are with married men, so she is a homewrecker as well

Consider the source ladies!

[Hegewisch Dupa]

Phew! Plus I'm glad I didn't bring up Charlotte's Web.

Oh wait....

[Grizzled Bear]

You do not have to “settle” for emotional abuse. Sometimes it’s better to be alone!

You can’t be so desperate that you have to play the supporting cast in someone's “Psycho-drama” just to avoid being alone.

If you aren’t happy in the relationship, and there’s no way to solve the differences, do both of you a favor and end it.

Then volunteer your spare time. You will meet ladies with similar interests.

[21stCenturion]

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[KC_Conspirator]

The most important one is # 4. There are veritable armies of misandryous women out there who are themselves failed in relationships and seem to have it in for any man. The free advice and counsel they freely give is often worth exactly what it costs. It also often proves to be very damaging to anyone unfortunate enough to have them as ‘friends’.

You have to see my post (like 155 or something). I have run into this a few times in the past year.