Posted on 07/22/2006 6:03:00 PM PDT by NYer
That is hilarious!!! Wouldn't fly but very funny!
Funny, I got ten times the response from men on singles sites when I made my income public.
Maybe you should remain a bachelor.
To each his/her own.
Like you, I married late, and it was the best thing I ever did to wait for the right one! I "inherited" two step-children who are a joy, and have a delightful step-grandchild. I feel I got the best of both sides! Hang in there, and may a lovely step-granchild come along for you to enjoy.
When my children were younger sometimes ( as in everyday) one or the other would start blathering about "mine, mine, mine. I full of understanding and sympathy for their delicate egos would tell them. " Nothing in this house is yours. Your father and I pay for everything. We are nice enough to LET you use some of the things we buy. But until you show me a receipt or your names on the mortgage. It is all ours." When they would ask about an allowance I would say. " I allow you to live here, I allow you to eat the food I buy, I allow you to wear the clothes I buy." If they wanted money they were given EXTRA chores to do. I was nominated for Mean Mommy of The Year quite a bit.
You did. You'll just never know what.
True, and also people had lots of kids because many more were likely to die as babies and children.
The headline is an oxymoron. You can have a marriage without children, but you can't have your own family.
If that is your experience, where are you looking?
" but you can't have your own family."
Well no one else seems to want them.
maybe the best age that a guy could marry is from 33 to 38. That way, you could avail of the benefits of singlehood during your 20's before eventually possessing a stable income source that would help you raise a family with relative ease.
Let's see... I can think of 5 people I know who are well into adulthood without children, and a couple who only had one daughter and will never had grandchildren.
All 5 of the people with no children have dogs. One of them also has 10 cats. I would describe 2 of them as lonely people. The other 3 keep pretty busy with social stuff.
And the couple with only one daughter, who will never have any grandchildren, is lonely as well.
I also know a couple with at least a dozen grandkids, most of whom seem to be a delight. Of course, I also know a lady with a son she would probably be better off without. A lot of it is in how you raise 'em.
Oh please...that is the product of the poor parenting/coping skills ...not the children themselves. If you drag a two year old in and out of car seat, multiple times, to run errands meltdowns occur. If you take a little one to the toy aisles, you should be prepared to make a purchase...or avoid the toy aisle completely. Stores also have 'no candy, no toys' checkouts lanes...and they should be used to avoid problems. It not rocket science.
Children DO LEARN that no means no...and that things (toys, video, even cookies) have a value...and that good behavior earns favor...as do chores (allowance) or learning to save and budget windfalls (like birthday present money). Kids learn what they are taught. It is the 32 years olds in the store you see with the problem...not the two year olds.
Mom of five here...
She is a wonderful woman and I hate that she is practically alone when she needs help the most. It wasn't her choice,though.
Generally speaking, if you can have children, then raise them right and you won't have to contract your nursing care when you are too old to take care of yourself and you'll be surrounded by plenty of company when everyone else has died or are confined to nursing homes.
Having children isn't only about guaranteeing help when you are old...it's about creating a family that takes care of one another all along the way.
I used to think that way....then I became more optimistic. What if MY kids help make a change in the status quo? Someone has to....
I have to admit, that was the situation with my wife and I.
We were married for seven years without being able to have kids. Three years into our marriage, we got a dog, and yes, we starting treating him like a child. After seven years of trying, we finally made the decision to adopt.
Today, we have three beautiful children, and our dog, who's now ten years old, is just a dog.
Another thing: When we were childless, it seemed as if time stood still for us. Now, we see how time progresses as our children get older.
Assuming , of course, that they are unable to legally force everyone in the United States to dwindle as they are--and you can bet your last penny that that is precisely what they are aiming to do.
Life with kids is like HDTV. Wow! LOL
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