Posted on 09/23/2005 12:38:17 PM PDT by Help!
"Bosses get pissed, and raise their voices"
Only incompetent bosses.
I've been managing teams in deadline-sensitive, pressure situations for 20 years, and never -- not once -- have I yelled at, humiliated, or intimidated an employee. Not because there weren't times when didn't want to, mind you, but because it achieves absolutely nothing (unless you regard throwing your managerial weight around as an end in itself). Fact is, carrying on like a bull in a china shop makes bad situations worse.
It's much better to get the other members of your team to put pressure on the screw-up. It's in their interests not to be carrying underperformers and/or goldbricks, their perceptions are more accurate, and they like to go home on time. So they'll know before you do if some is a professional SNAFU artist.
Management is really pretty simple: Lead by example, talk softly, and treat people as you like to be treated. It's that simple.
Sounds as he just couldn't deal with liberal idiots anymore. Many of us have felt the same.
I had a screamer as a boss once. He was yelling at me between client locations and I stopped the car on the side of the road, got out and sat on the trunk until he was done.
We had a "chat" on the freeway about adults talking to adults.
It worked.
We're still friends and this was 15 years ago.
Boy does this hit home. A woman lawyer at work, who yelled at me, filed a formal complaint against me when I had the gall to stand up to her....this occurred twice. She was the aggressor in both instances.
The complaint fizzled when my immediate boss, who was a direct witness to the second instance, refused to take any action against me.
The workplace has gone to hell....
Well....he is.... ROFLOL!
Glad you like it.
Good lesson to learn, Millee. I'm smarter for it. In some strange way, it was an honor to have worked for him...everyone who works for him thinks the same... . I'm also a champion to have come out of it a stronger woman.
I see my former co-workers now. We have a bond of having survived it. I was sitting at ground zero. I was the punching bag, when the others weren't being hit.
Some time later decided to work for another man - he made the mistake of disrespecting me within the first month. I was outathere.
If that director did that with me, I would have been looking for a new job, and he would have been looking for a few teeth.
Not according to the feminist, Liberals, and the N.O.W. crowd.
One man used to burb while dictating...
One man loved to look at my breasts...
One man I enterviewed with told me he'd rather HIS wife be at home cooking dinner.
wierd stuff, I'm telling you.
If a guy occasionally raised his voice simply for affect as a motivating tool, I'm willing to give it a pass.
But if the guy doing the yelling has lost control of his emotions, he's nothing more than a bitch with huevos.
Blonde?-- well, here ya go:
The very first ever Blonde GUY joke.....
An Irishman, a Mexican, and a blonde guy were doing construction work on scaffolding on the 20th floor of a building.
They were eating lunch and the Irishman said, "Corned Beef and Cabbage! If I get Corned Beef and Cabbage one more time for lunch,
I'm going to jump off this building."
The Mexican opened his lunch box and exclaimed, "Burritos again! If I get Burritos one more time I'm going to jump off, too."
The blond opened his lunch and said, Bologna again! If I get a Bologna sandwich one more time, I'm jumping too."
The next day, the Irishman opened his lunch box, saw Corned Beef and Cabbage, and jumped to his death.
The Mexican opened his lunch, saw a Burrito, and jumped, too.
The blonde guy opened his lunch, saw the Bologna, and jumped to his death as well.
At the funeral, the Irishman's wife was weeping. She said, "If I'd known how really tired he was of Corned Beef and Cabbage,
I never would have given it to him again!"
The Mexican's wife also wept and said, "I could have given him Tacos or Enchiladas! I didn't realize he hated Burritos so much."
(Oh this is GOOD!!)
Everyone turned and stared at the blonde's wife.
The blonde's wife said, "Don't look at me. He makes his own lunch."
As a woman I find this entire thing ridiculous.God am I glad my working days are over.
Men were men and women were women in my day and I LIKED IT THAT WAY.!!!!!!!!!!
The camel's nose under the tent. Next they will be taking votes in the office to determine if you appear to be intimidating. I'm glad I only have three years left in the workplace zoo.
Simply put, we aren't of the same makeup.
Some however want to forgo reality and change that fact via law.
In the broad political scheme of things, blending of the genders in this way, creating an issue of sex out of every situation, creates a yellow brick road to the dissolution of differences between the sexes.
Hence, the eventual partner relationship, no male/female differences, and acceptability of male/male, male/female, and female/female situations.
Directive? Same sex marriage.
My vision may be considered an extreme mindset by some, however the 9th circuit is an extreme DC.
Been through plenty of it myself.
Gets better... really, it does...
I think.
As you say, not only is that behavior counter productive it represents a forfeiture of leadership and that leads to potential manipulation, which means loss of authority, which leads to.... and on and on. It is bad management no matter the manager or the managed.
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