Posted on 07/19/2005 10:23:43 PM PDT by Brad’s Gramma
TAHNK YOU!
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THANK YOU!!
So far they haven't told me a damn thing other than what meds he's on. Getting really frustrated with the lack of feedback, lack of contact with him and the Dr not talking to me (not even once). He didn't sound like himself at all tonight. He couldn't even remember what he had for dinner or what he did today. Still trying to find a ride to the hospital to see him and find out what is going on. I'm only getting the bare minimum from the staff. I just want him to get better and come home.
Prayers for the little boy.
Prayers for continued healing
Prayers continue for this little guy and his family and the task ahead.
As evidenced by his mom and the help she sought here, she will do WHATEVER it takes to keep her child safe. And we will all be here to give moral support.
God bless.......
"TT", Beth & Nana
Have you spoken with the nursing staff on the next step?
Have you started your research?
Thank you so much for the update! I continue to PRAISE GOD and pray!
Please add me to your prayer list. Any chance to pray for someone is a blessing in itself. Thank you.
Vic
If they feared he was suicidal they may really have him on some numbing drugs. He will not have to be like that all the time. ADHD is overdiagnosed in 7-yr-olds, but to get a diagnosis of bipolar at this age, he must have shown some sign of mania of some kind (or maybe you told them of some instances).
I consider ODD to really truly be a SYMPTOM and not a diagnosis. I know it is a "gateway" to conduct disorder and thus scary for that reason, but my son at 4 had his PICTURE under the description of ODD, and he is 13 and very moral, but STILL argues everything from where the sun comes up. G-d willing your son will not progress to CD. Just keep him with you whenever you can. Give him religious and moral guidelines always. I like that structure treatment suggestion from a previous post. My son ended up with the diagnosis of Asperger's and it benefitted him greatly to be homeschooled. I will keep you and your little boy in my prayers.
If your still here.... Yes I started my research..........many incongruities between standard proceedures and what is happening. Get back to me for details.
They should do that everywhere.
St. Vincent de Paul Society helps people in many different ways, too, not only monetarily. The local Catholic church probably has a St. V de P Society, or you can call the local diocesan offices.
Our local Catholic church is very very small. I also talked to my own church. No ride forthcoming. So. I am posting a plea. If there are any FReeper FRamily in NW PA that might be able to find it in their hearts to spare an afternoon to take me to see my son at the hospital I'd be eternally grateful. Please FRmail me.
How are you doing, dear heart? I have been reading about you and your little one's plight... it seems they have reached a diagnosis, or several. At least you know what they are thinking, and now have an idea about the meds.
It is so hard when children are having problems - although I found in my 10 years of public school teaching (during the nineties), the problem was usually the school and the teachers, not the child. Whenever I hear that a preschool child has "problems" that require medication, I usually find that the preschool teachers are the child's problem. Too many teachers love labels more than they love children, and love conformity above all. Perhaps his is not the case, but so many times it is...
I understand that your case may be different, and I really don't know the circumstances and details surrounding your case. But it makes my heart break to see children come into our schools bright, lively and unique, only to be rendered as drugged, problematic zombies by the very systems which were meant to teach them. Not once in my years in teaching did I ever recommend a child for ritalin or drugs. Only once did a tell a parent that something was truly wrong with a child, and that child was later found to have a serious medical condition. I thank God that we were able to catch it in time, and in so doing save his life.
If you feel like sharing, let us know. If you really do think this is the best course of action for your child, then it probably is the best. But if you have any doubts as to whether or not all these drugs are right for your child, then please make sure to ask questions.
Please let him know we are all praying for him; please know that you have been in my thoughts and prayers so many times this week, deep in the night...
Ok hon I haven't divulged all the details of why D. is in the hospital. here goes (please don't think badly of me I'm going to be brutally honest)
Damian has been 'difficult' from the start. He had colic as an infant. He would cry for literally 18+ hours a day ( I even kept a journal to prove it). His Bio father was an alcoholic and abusive. He hit me in the belly when I was pregnant with Damian and also hit him in the head when he was 3 mos old. (this is why he is EX husband) Starting at age 3 the Drs diagnosed him as severe ADHD. Some said it was my fault and that I needed parenting classes. I took them but NOTHING helped with Damian. No form of discipline helped. He was BAD. No matter how reasonable the rule. No matter how much he understood it he'd break it. He started fires. He stole. He destroyed everything he could get his hands on.(gettng the idea?) It took me 5 years to figure out that it wasn;t my fault and that there was something wrong. But then when I tried to get him help I was told that 'Children this young don't have these kind of problems it's your fault' So I was referred for more parenting classes (same thing as before ) I was forced to take them or risk losing my children. So afther that we kept quiet about his problem behavior. A few days ago he tried to smother his 9 mo baby sister with 3 big bed pilloes. then felt so badly about it that he wanted to kill himself. I called crisis intervention. Then he was hospitalized. the rest is on this thread. (forgive typos please)
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This was never your fault. You have been trying your very best from the start, and there is a reason:
You were meant to be Damian's Mom. Where would he be without you? What would he be without you? You know the answer as well I believe do I - you love him so much, that you have loved him in spite of it all, because of it all, through it all...
And you will save him. God did not bring on these heartaches in your little boy, but it is clear that God knew that Damian would need you. You are not at fault; you are the reason Damian still loves, still lives, still wants YOU. You are the Hands of God, the Hands of Unconditional Love to a child who needs the Christ in you. Do not be afraid, but be strong and gird yourself with the knowledge that the God who made the world also made Damian...
And the God who made Damian made you to save him.
This was sent to me shortly after my 3 yo was diagnosed with autism. But I have 3 possibly 4 with special needs.................
GOD CHOOSES MOM FOR DISABLED CHILD
written by Erma Bombeck
Published in the “Today Newspaper”
September 4, 1993
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit.
This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.
Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
“Armstrong, Beth; son; patron saint, Matthew.”
“Forrest, Marjorie; daughter; patron saint, Cecelia.”
“Rudledge, Carrie; twins; patron saint . . . give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”
Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, “Give her a handicapped child.”
The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She’s so happy.”
“Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.”
“But has she patience?” asks the angel.
“I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it.”
“I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence. She’ll have to teach the child to live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”
“But, Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.”
God smiles.
“No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.”
The angel gasps, “Selfishness? Is that a virtue?”
God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a ‘spoken word.’ She will never consider a ‘step’ ordinary. When her child says ‘Momma’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.”
“I will permit her to see clearly the things I see – ignorance, cruelty, prejudice – and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.”
“And what about her patron saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.
God smiles.
“A mirror will suffice.”
You are not alone. You are surrounded by the prayers of hundreds, if not thousands of mothers who lie awake in the still of the night, praying not only for you but also for the secret sufferings of their own children. In all the world, in all our sorrows, there is one thing that remains; God cares for us. We are not alone.
All of us here are thinking of something that each of our children carries with them, and each of us wonders - will this burden forever mar our child's existence? Will this possibly even end our child's life? What shall happen next, or later, or when I am no longer here to pray? What if they don't love me, stop loving me, never did love me? What if they love me and I cannot help them now? What if I cannot ever make a difference for this child?
God prays the same prayer with us, weeps with us, agonizes with us. He understands, for He has wept the same prayer over us the same way as we weep over each of our own children.
God who formed the Heaven and Earth - God who is able to heal the sick and raise the dead - weeps over His own children even as we do. But the God who weeps over us is also able to save us, and He will save our children even as He saves us.
I have wept so hard, prayed so hard for Damian tonight, and for you. I am sure there are others right now in prayer for you and your little boy. Rest assured, we all know that we need your prayers as well...
But for tonight, and for all the nights you need us, we are praying for you and your Damian.
Thank you,
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