Posted on 04/10/2005 3:32:35 PM PDT by paltz
Odd, but true, remittance men still exist. One of the more practical Victorian holdovers. You would think they'd have faded away like antimacassars.
Damn! That's the problem! I'm failing at failure.
I don't know If I would qualify as a"remittance man" or not, BUT-- I am the blacksheep of my mothers family, church(both past and present), college, high and lower school, and so on!!
Never was particularly goal oriented either. I've known many career minded men who were, and I don't think it made them masculine. A couple were downright wussy even.
Okay, you mentioned antimacassars. Do you know what they are, why they are called that, and have you ever seen any? I own ( but have never used ) several inherited ones, should you need one. LOL
Antimacassars were used to keep macassar hair oil popular with men off furniture fabric. And yes, I actually owned one at one time. The first time I heard the word was in college -- a girl with enormous breasts under a tight clockwork sweater was reading the Randal Jarrell (sp?) poem Zela en Ram (sp?) and I fell in love with the girl and the word.
Or rentier, another favorite term of mine for a wastrel who can't make it on his own. I suppose we call them something else today.
Well, rock on, remittance man!
What on earth is a "clockwork sweater" ?
- so what happened with your Jane Russell friend?
Sorry, a twitch of the hand. I meant clock pattern sweater, though the sweater really wasn't what I remember.
LOL......no, I didn't think that the sweater, itself, was what held your interest. :-)
So, are you saying then, that I should actually put something on my FR profile?
Domianance as in having a dominant personality - being in charge of your environment (rather than having someone in that environment be in charge of you). So I don't think of being dominant as being domineering, as in always a leader, for example.
I also think having goals and moving toward them is recognized as an appealing trait by women. That's not to say that it's an exclusively masculine trait - it isn't. But compounded with other traits I mentioned, it is appealing to women.
Let's just say she chose her poem well. Sela En Ram (sp?) -- German for Soul in Space -- is about a woman who goes insane. The line in the poem that got me was something like, "As if to say, here is an antimaccaser I grew from seed. And it were so." So, the girl in the sweater was pretty crazy. Never date anyone in the arts, particularly:
Dancers, poets, writers, painters, actors, photographers and sculpters.
You got that right.
Not I! I have NOTHING at all on my personal page and was only commenting on someone else's. :-)
Dancers and actresses are the worst. Sometimes the best, but always the worst.
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