Another Paternity Fraud case.(30% of Paternity tests prove children fathered by other men.)

Philadelphia Inquirer ^ | 12/23/2002 | By Kathy Boccella

[End The Hypocrisy]

>>>If this happened to me (and I am female so this is a hypothetical) I would continue to love the child as if she were my own out of human decency and love of the innocent person I raised up to that point. Anything less is cruel to the child who has been blind-sided. I realize most would reject that, as it takes showing compassion to the helpless.<<<

Helpless? You mean like the duped dads who are nevertheless forced at gunpoint to finance the sleazy woman's fraud, while she pockets much of the child support money for herself? The TRULY compassionate thing to do would be to force mothers to stay in touch with the biological fathers by making it clear that if paternity fraud is discovered, their moneyline's potentially toast. Isn't it best for kids to know their biological parents anyway? Besides which, this sort of tough love would force future mothers to think twice before duping their naive boyfriends and lovers.
I'm not surprising that you'd call this egoism on my part though. Blame deflecting's often accompanied by self-serving counter-accusations.

[JMJ333]

And the problem with your argument is that it leaves out human decency toward the child. Its not about money. Its not about the man. Its about the child. An innocent child who has been hit between the eyes because of the sins of the mother. Not fair to that girl! If it were me, I'd do it out of love, simply because I would still consider the child to be mine. But again, compassion and selfless love are a foreign concept these days.

[PistolPaknMama]

But women's groups and child advocates are alarmed by a trend that they say could harm children.

This is the most assinine statement. The TREND is women who trick men into marriage or pass off children as someone else's. The poor men are the victims as well as the children.

A friend of mine was tricked into marrying a woman who already had 3 children and was getting hefty child support. She immediately got pregnant and left 3 mos. after the baby was born, getting a divorce and $8,000 more a year in child support. She wrote in her diary that she never loved the man and only wanted the child support check. This woman has never held a meaningful job and has lived primarily off other men and the children she had with them. Supposedly its a trick she learned from her best friend, who did the same thing. The lesson is that professional men can pay more "welfare" than the government does.

[BuddhaBoy]

A married woman offering sex to someone other than her husband IS a true skank.

[marajade]

I don't listen to Dr. Laura... but I agree with her premises for a valid reason for a divorce... My mother should have divorced my father just for the reason alone that he was abusive towards his children...

[BuddhaBoy]

We can have a discussion on abortion on a hundred other threads, I choose not to go into it further on this one.

[Ben Bolt]

Child advocates are social engineering special interest groups who rarely have a families best interest in mind not to mention that they are likely tied in some way to courts who continue to rule against the father .

I suppose I could celebrate my victimhood here but I dont see the value in doing so . So I was starved as a kid , big deal . Suck it up and get on with life .

Nothing worthy in nailing the man in any case when he is not the father of the child , the pain of the child be damned .

[JMJ333]

Yes, helpless. The child cannot do ANYTHING in this situation but watch her life crumble. And do you care? Hell no. Well, that is your opinion to have, but I think its cruel and self-serving.

Is the mother wrong and deceitful? Yes. Does that mean the man should end responsibility to a human being he has raised as his own for 14 years? Not if he has a heart.

Have a good day.

[Desdemona]

But again, compassion and selfless love are a foreign concept these days.

Very true. I can't believe some of the things I've seen on this thread. I have relatives who raised nieces, nephews, grandchildren, other people's children of no blood relation...that's just the way we are. And, God willing, that's the way we'll always be.

[marajade]

Your the one who brought up the abortion issue, not me.

[Post Toasties]

You know, I never thought of myself as a potential welfare agency.

[BuddhaBoy]

Well said.

[BuddhaBoy]

As a comment. Dont be so touchy.

[Fred Mertz]

Where can I sign up for the "He-man-women-haters Club"?

[marajade]

"Suck it up and get on with life ."

Well I hope that I have as well as my sister but we are the lucky ones... There is some truth that some cannot and is why we are even dicussing this article at all...

[Post Toasties]

Without deception, right? Huuuuuge difference there, I'd say. Makes all the difference.

[JMJ333]

And, God willing, that's the way we'll always be.

Me too. Understanding the concept of dying to self is a blessing. =)

[marajade]

I wasn't being touchy... I was responding to a comment in which you originated...

[BuddhaBoy]

And the problem with your argument is that it leaves out human decency toward the child.

Human decency is a choice, not a mandate. If you would like to assume support for someone else's children, I am sure no one will try to stop you.

[marajade]

"I can't believe some of the things I've seen on this thread."

Me neither...