The Marriage Strike

ifeminists.com / Fox News ^ | August 12, 2003 | Wendy McElroy

[Cogadh na Sith]

On that, we totally agree.

[familyop]

"I don't get the divorces, I don't get the unwed mothering, I don't get the unwed fathering."

Laws, especially a few laws passed during the Clinton
Administration, make getting married or cohabiting
actually dangerous for men (e.g., the VAWA, Child
Support Act,...). Accusations alone (no evidence,
no credible testimony) can imprison them.

The opposition doesn't know it, yet, but feminism is
through. It's over--all of it.

[familyop]

Hey, and thanks for posting the piece. Keeping reading
http://mensnewsdaily.com

...especially over the next few weeks.

[Siamese Princess]

If he just doesn't marry her, he can see the kid pretty much whenever he wants..

Most unmarried fathers have little or no interest in their offspring and, as a rule, won't or can't pay child support. The majority of divorced fathers do pay child support, especially if they regularly see their kids.

[Rudder]

The "purpose" of sex is to serve as an impediment to reproduction.

[Lazamataz]

Why are men reluctant to marry? The Rutgers report — admittedly based on a small sample — found ten prevalent reasons. The first three:

— They can get sex without marriage;

— Thy can enjoy "a wife" through cohabitation; and,

— They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

— They had a really bad experience last time. Although the good times were excellent, they were too short and too easily discarded by the partner.

I won't be marrying again. Marriage implies trust and I absolutely will never EVER trust anyone to be there.

[Lazamataz]

We have been through the wringer together in years gone by and toughed it out.

That would be the key to success. Since I didn't and won't find a woman like that, I think I'll just remain single thankyoovurramuch.

[Spok]

The feminists have told women that it is the ultimate expression of their liberation to be used, abused and discarded by men. The sexual revolution was a dream come true for horny, shallow men (ok ladies, don't tell me I'm being redundant). Gloria Steinem has done more damage to women than Hugh Hefner could in ten lifetimes.
I read a list once of the ten secrets of happiness, and secret number one said that 99% of a person's happiness is determined by whom they marry-it's certainly been true for me. (25 years with wife #1)

[CA Conservative]

What about having them in the control of an unwed single mom makes it more possible for this "loving" guy to see his kids than having them in a divorced arrangement?

It doesn't make it more possible. It also doesn't make it less possible. Visitation and custody is determined based on parentage and "best interests of the child" in both cases. Previous marriage or non-marriage does not affect that.

Single moms move, btw.

So do divorced moms.