Posted on 11/29/2001 3:05:45 PM PST by GrayBox
Serial monogamy, as Fred uses the term, means dating only one girl at a time. You don't sleep with another woman until your current bed-playmate breaks up with you, is what he's talking about.
Yes, but then you need to look at the happiness level of never married men. There are all sorts of studies that prove that marriage is very conducive to overall well-being. I think the real problem is that too many Americans (men and women) are selfish.
Sounds like serial polygamy to me. Regular polygamy would allow you to sleep with (or, strictly speaking, be married to) more than one woman at the same time. Sleeping with only one woman at a time, but doing it with several different women, would be the "serial" way of doing polygamy.
Serial monogamy just sounds like a contradiction in terms to me. If anything, it means getting married, over and over again, to the same woman. And I guess it's been known to happen...
I have to say that if I wasn't unemployed, I'd be pretty happy right now. There are some women whose company I do enjoy, but I've seen all too many overemotional whack jobs who behave exactly like Fred describes. For the male, the downside risk of marriage in America is tremendous.
Exactly, he'll be a catch for a younger woman, and he'll trade in his old, tired one who helped him get where he is, for a new one half his age who'll get treated like a princess. Mr. Pre-med becomes chief surgeon-who-fools-around while the wife-who-doesn't-look-like-a-co-ed-anymore serves him with divorce papers and gets the house, the kids, child support, and hefty alimony because she worked two jobs to support them both while he was in med school, worked for free in his office while he was starting up his practice, networked and hosted receptions to make him look good and covered for him at his kids' baseball games and dance recitals because he was called away on emergencies, and also because he was so macho he didn't want her to "work" (because he was going to "take care of her" forever), so any marketable job skills she had 20 years ago have long since become obsolete and will not be able to support herself and her kids without going on welfare unless she socks it to him in the divorce settlement.
This guy Fred is full of absolute horsesh** if he doesn't think there's not two sides to this man-woman thing. A woman could write the feminine version of the same scenario. He sounds bitter, and my example was supposed to sound just as bitter as his. He also sounds like a failure with women. I'm not bitter; I'm happily married--but then I didn't marry "charm" or a pretty face, I married a real man.
I'm sorry -- I'm really not trying to be obtuse (as if anybody ever tries to be obtuse, they just are, and that may be me in this case), but it just seems to me that as soon as you start talking about more than one woman, serially or otherwise, you're no longer in "monogamy territory".
Oh, well, I suppose this horse has been beaten to death, several times (serial horse beating is probably illegal in this, and 27 other states!), by now.
In other words, it's time to bring on the next horse... ;-)
I'm sorry -- I'm really not trying to be obtuse (as if anybody ever tries to be obtuse, they just are, and that may be me in this case), but it just seems to me that as soon as you start talking about more than one woman, serially or otherwise, you're no longer in "monogamy territory".
Oh, well, I suppose this horse has been beaten to death, several times (serial horse beating is probably illegal in this, and 27 other states!), by now.
In other words, it's time to bring on the next horse... ;-)
Next stop: Butuan City.
What does this mean...you are traveling there..?
Fred repeated a zillion times in his article that the feminists had a point. So he does think there are two sides to this 'man-woman thing,' and consequently he's not full of hosesh**.
Next stop: Butuan City.
What does this mean...you are traveling there..?
LOL, well, there are some of us good men left, but I see your point. Yes, I am going to Asugan Del Norte.
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