Posted on 05/16/2023 1:20:14 PM PDT by ChicagoConservative27
the ONLY financial sacrifice I have ever made, or will EVER make, is affording an extra body on my Payroll. If the adult child wants something, I’ll let them work for the money... never will I just cut them a check.
Yes, it is.
But the expectations are higher. We didn’t have A/C, cable/internet, a new SUV, $6 coffee, and eating out 6 meals a week. Any run down house that could be worked on in stages over a decade to make it our own was considered great.
Not saying some of these things aren’t necessary. But the expectations for kids/couples starting out today seem to be much greater than we were willing to accept.
There’s a very fine line between helping your kids out and giving them hand outs. In general its best to let them struggle a little now and then so as to build confidence to handle life’s challenges on their own. Watching your kids grow into responsible adults is a very satisfying and rewarding thing, and ultimately a sign of parental success.
Ha!! We Homeschooled our kids....at a “sacrifice”...But it was the best thing we did for them.
From $44,000 to $800,000 in 23 years?
Wow!
Where are you located ?
FROM “PARTICIPATION TROPHIES” to draining parents retirement accounts.
Glad I am as old as I am.
Nor make paper airplanes.
I think you have a good point, however, that all depends how well family members get along with each other.
I would never want to live with certain members of my family.
Why? Because some don’t share my values. Some are loudmouth opinionated blowhards, who handle money and other issues completely differently that I do. There would be endless conflict living with some of them.
Our parents never helped us financially. We have spent tens of thousands of dollars helping our parents.
I would’ve been a bag lady before even thinking of asking them for money.
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