Posted on 05/31/2016 1:19:52 PM PDT by TigerClaws
Do I have to talk about "SAFE SPACES", CHALKINGS", "HOOK UPS", and the fact that kids no longer even know what a "date" is.....well into their 30s ?
SPOT ON !
If they weren't progressing toward independence, we'd help them make a plan to do so (with boot to the backside as needed), but they seem like they are on track. If we can smooth the path to success, we will.
My brother is still with my parents.
He works 60 hours a week. Helps them out immensely because my mom is retired and dad has to still work to make ends meet.
He’s bright, just had to come of age in an era where all of his peers are expected to go to scam school (college), but he would have been better off going to a trade school.
Considering my parents live in a dodgy area at times, I’m personally glad he is there to look after them.
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funny : )
I’ve got three in the demographic. Two are completely on their own. One is just getting by but determined to make it. The third is in college. He’s home for the summer. His job has him working for a couple weeks near his campus so he’s going to crash with some of his roommates who are taking summer classes.
Helicopter parent payback.
And he’s going to school for Engineering, not some sort of liberal Freak studies nonsense. When he gets out, he’s paying back the college loans I gave him.
I’ve been trying to get through to my 18yr old that if he expects to live under my roof he must still comply with my rules. But those rules are pretty simple; if he wants to eat the food I buy, have his laundry done, watch TV, have internet access, etc., he has to do farm chores when he is not at work.
He has 2 part-time jobs and will graduate this Friday. But his last paycheck (about $100) he spent it all on fast food in 3 days! Before that we found his stash of cookies and chips in his room, while the whole time he was mooching our snacks! We bought him a 93 Fork pickup in great shape and had some minor engine repairs done on it for him and he was all excited but when I told him he had to pay for the insurance to drive it he clammed right up and said he would keep riding his bike!
So we cut him off if he is going to blow his hard earned money like that. We haven’t let him eat watch TV, or done his laundry for him in over a week. I asked him why he ate like a horse when I had to pay for it but can get by on little or nothing if he has to pay (been 5 days since we fed him). He works at a pizza shop and brings home a couple of pies that he has been milking all this time.
failure to launch.
It sounds pretty late to have to teach him all he needs to learn but at least you’re trying — many parents don’t. Good luck
Thanks. Glad u like. And Even a 6 year old can keep his room reasonably clean, make his bed, and help out the family by doing a few reasonable chores around the house
Great move cutting him off; I hope that wakes him up.
My family has always had certain age appropriate chores for children to do and now so does my grandson, who MUST do them here, when they visit. LOL...there's just NO getting around doing chores, as far as I'm concerned.
I do think that 6 is a bit young to make his or her own bed, though; 10 is a better age for that.
Lazy, incapable of taking care of themselves ADULTS, is one of the parts of the downfall of society.
Exactly right. Employers prefer foreign workers because many of them still Do the f-—Ing jobs —— they don’t loll around preening themselves or watchjng porno or playing games like too many American hires do. And they show up reliably too Generalities are always unfair to some who dont fit them, of course. But just ask employers and you’ll get quite an earful about problems with many of our American young folks these days. Entitlement philosophy? Just plain lazy? Certainly they got some awfully poor parenting that’s for sure
I think age 6 can make his bed. Age 10 he can make it right. Still does them good at six to make their beds ( and after all they don’t really need to be made up professionally perfect anyway, ha!) imho it’s still very good lesson - like picking up their toys
“My husband and I left our parents to cling to one another. I’m pretty happy with that arrangement.”
I’m sure your parents were too !
:-)
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Turned 18 in navy boot camp.
My dad wanted me out after high school. “Go fend for yourself boy!”
Everything I have I’ve earned myself. Can’t say that about most of the people I’ve grown up with.
My parents are gone, G-d rest their souls.
They would not believe some of the stuff happening in the culture these days.
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