Posted on 04/08/2014 10:45:52 AM PDT by Sub-Driver
i think it is more than that... even in marriages where the kids are adopted--not biologically from either spouse--if the wife cheats, she is not likely to be forgiven... if the husband cheats, he is likely to be forgiven... EVEN IF he impregnates his adulterous lover...
hahahahahahahaha!!!
what???? MANY women do this? MANY women have children with men other than their husbands for this reason?
"shoooo...."
My answer was a little glib. I honestly don’t know any women that put up with a cheating husband. I don’t think my wife would forgive me and I know I wouldn’t forgive myself.
It may be cultural, I grew up with Italians, there were always rumors of philandering husbands but I don’t know the truth of the matter.
I occasionally see what you are talking about on TV but that means I’m on the wrong channel.
Despite birth control, surveys in the UK using genetic testing, revealed that a a shockingly large percentage of the children of married couples had someone as the father other than the man their mother was married to.
This percentage held close to true in both lower and upper classes surveyed.
His inner man warned him about her, but he instead was made to feel guilty about his own feelings of jealousy whenever she showed signs of dressing provocatively or of welcoming attention from other men. "Oh, he just wants to be my friend" Yeah, right. As Charlie Chaplin said when asked if he could every be just friends with a woman, "Only after."
In short, the guy got himself into that fix by listening to how the world is supposed to work--and not how it actually works, which his own inborn emotions were telling him and he was repressing from some sense of artificial guilt.
And if he is that mistrustful of the fidelity and sexuality of all women, then he has a real problem and doesn’t need to be married at all-he needs to be in therapy.
The opposite is true: those men who repress their healthy and common sense feelings of jealousy, instilled in them through a million years of evolution, are the ones who should have their heads examined.
I will never marry. Women are treachery.
I married up. A far better person than I.
What you are describing is not a healthy attitude for a man or a woman-suspicion and jealousy without reason is immature and shows low self esteem. This is not 10,000 BC-evolution has precluded the need for men to go into jealous rages and fight over mates, or for women to tempt the choice men into their huts for sex-it is not exactly civilized adult behavior...
Mistrustful men and women make poor husbands and wives- they are also more prone to domestic violence-and that provocative dress welcoming other men stuff is a favorite excuse of abusive men. Any smart woman would not give the time of day to a man who had a problem with her clothes, so long as they were appropriate to the occasion-that man is a bomb waiting to go off, and he has no respect for women-he thinks they are all whores.
Adults who marry a partner with beliefs like their own, with the mutual interests and respect are not assured of a forever marriage, but it definitely has a better chance of success. Many middle aged men are attracted to much younger women, no matter how fine things are-mine was. There are no guarantees in life or love.
My best friends have always been male-and platonic-it is not that unusual-all men aren’t just panting to nail the nearest female. MrT5’s best friend was female-I never thought he was sleeping with her any more than he thought I did that with mine. My friends are men, and I work with men-I’m single now, but I still would never think of taking one on for anything else-that is the same kind of dumb as what McAllister and his staffer did...
When a woman is not wise enough to realize certain things about the men they encounter in their lives, and when society encourages them to believe such fairytales, then that is a woman not to be trusted.
Not because she plans to have an affair, but because she’s vulnerable to putting herself into a situation where human nature will cause her to have one.
And this is 10,000 BC as far as our brains and bodies are concerned.
I myself have had one old friend who is a woman, whom I’ve never slept with.
In good measure because I never found her attractive.
Men and women have very different brains. Many men know that they might eventually “get some” if they pretend to be friends with a woman. It’s a technique that many men, especially men who are losers, use.
Abelard—of Heloise and Abelard—plotted to have Heloise’s uncle appoint him her tutor so as to be in her presence long enough for her to pass from student to lover.
The speed with which it happened surprised him.
I found it interesting that this technique was is so old it was being employed a thousand years ago.
There’s something in our brains that increases the chance of romantic entanglement when two members of the opposite sex spend a lot of time together, such as two coworkers.
It’s even more likely if the two “friends” experience some great danger together.
When I meet a girl and I learn that she has one or more male “friends,” and I also get the impression that she would consider me irrationally jealous should I object, then I just move on until I find a woman with some common sense.
Here: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/
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