Posted on 05/22/2006 3:13:25 AM PDT by beaversmom
"I think Alexandra did what was exactly right for her.I just had my darling daughter in September, she was not planned but wanted very bad.We also have a son that will be 13 this month. I feel that my children make me whole(complete)--Anonymous 8:38 PM on 05/21/2006
Yes anon, she did what was right for HER.
Second comment:
I was so relieved to read this post! I'm glad someone else did this too! I've been ridiculed so much for CHOOSING to be a SINGLE mom, (IVF at 23). I've used the same bank, same donor three times and I'm currently pregnant with twin girl (baby 3&4). As far as I'm concerned I don't need Mr.Right my two little men are all I need and atleast I can bribe them to make them happy, lol. Who even said there's a Mr.Right for everyone and who says you'll even find him? I think women have the right to become a mother whenever they want regardless of having a man in their life.--Mommy to Liam, Jailyn, Rinoa, Marleanna! 1:55 AM on 05/22/2006 Mommy to Liam, Jailyn, Rinoa, Marleanna!
I think the title is misleading--it should say a single woman's decision to go it alone not a single mom.
Ping
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/21/magazine/21food.html?_r=1&oref=login
Recipes for Disaster
Romanticizing a bad idea, the social and economic ramifications are enormous. It's difficult enough in a two parent family.
Unless the Mother is independently wealthy the costs economically may place her and the child on welfare.
It isn't fair to the child either but a woman having a child because of her biological clock or because she wants to be complete or whatever selfish reasons she chooses is not right.
Whatever happened to marriage and a family unit?
What does recipes, food have to do with this except to state indirectly it's a recipe for disaster?
Unemployed Juan was her best hope. At least he could have stayed home with the kid.
What ever happened to the notion that children need two parents for a reason, and not just insemination? Don't little boys need daddys so they can learn how to be men?
Her children will be at a disadvantage. And someday in the future, they may not be pleased when learning how they were conceived. The woman is selfish.
(Flame suit on)
What a self-absorbed twit!
She reads the NY Times Sunday Magazine. She will find recipes for disaster besides her own
There's half the problem.
I don't know how ugly she is, though she admits she's fat. She's a professor at Sarah Lawrence, one of the most liberal colleges in the US (which is redundant) so you know she's no beauty. It's tough to find an educated, upper-middle-class liberal man who is going to fall in love with a heavy woman(though he may continue loving her if he meets her when she's attractive and she loses her looks later).
She did something truly selfish. (She'll probably have enough money to raise the child in fine form, but the little girl will have little enough contact with her working mother and have no father.) I feel sorry for her, though. I feel sorry for both of them. The idea of going through life with no husband and no children when you want both desperately is very sad. I can understand her temptation. Being a liberal, she doesn't realize how crucial a daddy is to a child.
Ahhhh thanks for clearing that up for me cause I didn't "get it" at first.
Actually I had a more coherent post but it got lost so I posted the bare bones
She forgot the most important rule
"They all get prettier at closing time."
Funny she picked a blue eyed Scandanavian to be artificially bred with after picking Juan to do it the natural way.
"He isn't coming.
I am absolutely on my own."
"I'm going to be alone,..."
"Eventually I understood. I am absolutely on my own...for now."
Why didn't she just get a pet? Having a child to feed your need for company is just wrong.
"Unemployed Juan was her best hope. At least he could have stayed home with the kid."
- Apparently, she gave up on Juan as a potential father when she found that he didn't want children right away. This is a crock because women who desperately want a child before they grow too old will either convince a partner who truly loves them to grant their wish or become pregnant anyway and claim it was all an accident.
No, I fear that Juan didn't measure up as either a provider and/or he came from the bottom of the gene pool.
I suspect the Juan story was inserted to show that she is not a lesbian and that we should feel sorry for her because she tried, she really, really tried to have a child the old fashioned way.
It wouldn't surprise me in the least that after a few years the true turkey baster story will be dropped in favor of one involving a wild night of passion with a local Nordic male while on a trip to Oslo.
After all, it makes a much more romantic story than one in which she has to refer the kid to the kitchen drawer to see daddy.
The picture at the top of the page is apparently her and her fatherless daughter. Oops. sorry, the father is a container that sat in her mother's living room for seven days that watched TV with Mom. A relationship she can proudly look back upon, I'm sure. (ack!)
Psycho-lib mom gives kid idiot name ping.
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