Posted on 01/15/2006 4:55:00 AM PST by Excuse_My_Bellicosity
I hesitate to join this smoldering flame-fest, but...
Your comment reflects the typical idea these days, but it seems like a recipe for divorce to me. What do you do when your significant other gets fat? Or bald? Or wrinkly? Physical attraction is temporary. If that's what keeps your significant other with you, then you can expect him to upgrade eventually (if he can afford to).
Nobody on this thread has mentioned arranged marriages yet, but they're solid evidence that impulse-pairings are not the only way to go.
So you are all against interracial dating??? hmmmm...just couldn't see how some white women could find a big black guy like Denzel Washington, Clarence Thomas, Seal etc....flat, wide noses, burr headed etc ....yukkkk
ohhh....let's start the crawdaddin'......Who could ever like a little asian women..., lithe figure,flat faces , yellow skin and slanty eyes...yukkkkk.....
That's it...people only date or have any relations with people that look just like themselves....let's narrow the options for everyone!!!
Of course we weren't a mail order bride get together either. We knew each other almost three years, and dated for 2, before we were married. (I lived in the Philippines 5 1/2 years)
It ain't the country, it's the woman.
Where did she say that? I must have missed it.
No...my point is....that if someone came on this thread and couldn't understand why a white woman would be attracted to a black guy...there would be folks come out of the woodwork and call them on it...that's all.
Personally...I don't care if people have a preference or don't give a hoot....but i never would question what someone thinks may be appealing or not appealing....who cares?
I do..........but I use a splatter guard. ;^)
Ah, gotcha. Fair point.
That's your best bet, Drew.
With all due respect, I don't think that is the fix for the ladies profiled in this book.
How did you get physical attraction exclusively out of phantomworker's comment: I personally prefer to be attracted to and in love with my significant other.???
If you LOVE someone and their physical appearance fades with age (as it does for all of us unless we go the fakey plastic surgery route) you can still be ATTRACTED to them.
Somehow, I suspect there are all kinds of women Freepers who didn't notice that at all.
Because he heard it would really P!ss you off...didn't your mamma teach you to ask politely?
Um, what does "attracted to" generally mean? Oh, that's right--physical attraction. And what about "in love with"? That phrase isn't at all ambiguous, and it doesn't refer to a deep and selfless devotion. For example, the phrase can never be used to describe one's love for one's children, parents or fellow man.
The originator of the comment can set me straight, of course, but the only reasonable interpretation of "attracted to and in love with" is that it refers to physical attraction and romantic love. Both of which are temporary.
I don't see it as a flame-fest in any way, do you?
So you are in favor of arranged marriages?
Impulse-pairing is an interesting way to put it. But I think what we were talking about was the talking and agreeing before the marriage. Maybe that is why arranged marriages do work, although I have never known any personally. I just always thought there should be love and respect in a marriage. Attraction is often the first step toward building love, imho.
Your reply makes no sense....
Arasina. Thank you!
(I'm usually attracted to the ugly ones anyway. ;) LOL!)
Why do you think they are temporary? True love can last a life time.
It's all temporary. People who stay married need a dependent friend.
I disagree that being attracted to someone refers only to physical attraction. I'm attracted to intelligence, sense of humor, compassion/understanding, shared tastes, etc. Those are lasting attributes and supercede 'romantic' love.
Also, as far as physical attraction: Whereas at twenty I would've been physically attracted to a guy, say, with lots of hair on his head...that certainly isn't the case some 30 years later, especially if he has the qualities to which I'm attracted. Unnuhstan? :o)
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