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Woman in power is powerless when it comes to meeting men
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| September 17, 2005
| Amy Alkon
Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
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To: VegasBaby
Easy, it's all in management style.I understand your contention. I'm married to a professional manager with much the same style.
That being said, and please don't take this as an insult, you know your vulnerability to ambitious rivals is also a function of how high a profile your job has.
I really don't see much evidence one can attain a truly "powerful" position on nice.
Now tell me, why would someone choose that over a beautiful, intelligent, sweet, secure woman...
I really couldn't say, but I don't think you can really say, either. You don't have half the equation, but you are presuming to calculate the answer.
As for how a man could prove you incorrect, well that gets into characteristics you call "powerful."
I submit that one way to prove you wrong would be by having a disinterested woman acknowlege a characteristic you call "powerful" is actually "being a shrew."
661
posted on
09/17/2005 2:56:51 PM PDT
by
papertyger
("ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge" ... Charles Darwin)
To: HitmanNY
***It's not always about worrying what others think. It's entirely possible he found her Reference Group alienating, that colored his perception of her, and he rejected her.***
Regerence Group? Explain.
To: summer
HitmamNY = HitmanNY
I am thinking I should have been friends with you back when I lived in NY! :)
663
posted on
09/17/2005 2:57:19 PM PDT
by
summer
To: HitmanNY
HitmamNY = HitmanNY
I am thinking I should have been friends with you back when I lived in NY! :)
664
posted on
09/17/2005 2:57:36 PM PDT
by
summer
To: apackof2
Ya know that is just so hard to believe but I know that there is some truth to it It's called "social proof". By wearing a wedding ring, a man instantly demonstrates that at least one woman thought he was marriage material - he's probably not a serial killer or a complete loser. And a whole lot of women will think nothing of trying to take that proven commodity for themselves.
665
posted on
09/17/2005 2:58:56 PM PDT
by
Mr. Jeeves
("Violence never settles anything." Genghis Khan, 1162-1227)
To: frankjr
I am sending you the bill for my emergency Laser eye surgery.
At least post a warning that you are about to unleash the hounds of Hades and that one should have their nuclear blast shields handy!.
666
posted on
09/17/2005 3:02:15 PM PDT
by
Delta Dawn
(The whole truth.)
To: papertyger; VegasBaby
having a disinterested woman acknowlege a characteristic you call "powerful"
Now, here's a thought -- though I don't know if it's pertinent to your discussion, as I have not read the entire thread -- some women are actually not into "power" at all, contrary to popular belief. However, some men -- who are real visionaries are also extremely powerful, in addition to being visionary.
But, to some women -- the visionaries -- those are two very different attributes (1-power and 2- vision).
And, "power" in and of itself is actually not a necessary (nor appealing) component at all for some visionary woman (such as the one who may be standing on line in my previous post at the Dept of Buildings with a rolled up poster paper).
Well, if that makes sense to anyone else, good. If not, never mind! :)
667
posted on
09/17/2005 3:03:20 PM PDT
by
summer
To: MadIvan
I know I know. You'll find someone :D
668
posted on
09/17/2005 3:04:08 PM PDT
by
Alkhin
(http://awanderingconfluence.com/blog)
To: FOG724
We laugh about it now because we can't remember what the fight was about. But I wouldn't trade a single moment of it for anything, when I'm with her it's always an adventure and always exciting.
669
posted on
09/17/2005 3:04:11 PM PDT
by
fella
(Discontent is the want of self-reliance; it is infirmity of will -<I>Emerson</I>)
To: LaineyDee
Hey, your supposed to be studying!
Me too! But this is more fun
670
posted on
09/17/2005 3:05:08 PM PDT
by
apackof2
(Never underestimate the power of a fuzzy friend!)
To: summer
Yea, I have great comic delivery I humbly admit. And I have a nice smile and they know immediately that it's a joke and they tend to laugh a lot. Never had a slap from that joke.
I actually use variations on it all the time. My personal favorite was at a DMV in Los Angeles about two years ago. I accompanied my friend who had some business there and we were finally called up and an older black woman tended to his issue. Somehow my friend made reference to something unflattering in his driving record and said 'hey, I'm honest!' I jumped in with, "Well, I'm a liar and a coward. If I wasn't I'd never have any dates."
The old woman laughed so hard that he coworkers asked her what was so funny! She chided me and said "I know you, you're a nice man who does whatever your woman says!" :-)
To: Alkhin
I know I know. You'll find someone :DI hear that quite often. You'll forgive me if I'm mildly impatient for some results.
Regards, Ivan
672
posted on
09/17/2005 3:06:31 PM PDT
by
MadIvan
(You underestimate the power of the Dark Side - http://www.sithorder.com/)
To: apackof2
Hey, your supposed to be studying! I know, I know... I have "study block" today. I did get my markers out... the books opened and my study sheets out. Does that count? *giggle*
673
posted on
09/17/2005 3:07:49 PM PDT
by
LaineyDee
(Don't mess with Texas wimmen!)
To: papertyger
***I really couldn't say, but I don't think you can really say, either. You don't have half the equation, but you are presuming to calculate the answer.***
Fair enough, however, as I said, this scenario is not just exclusive to the one example.
***As for how a man could prove you incorrect, well that gets into characteristics you call "powerful."
I submit that one way to prove you wrong would be by having a disinterested woman acknowlege a characteristic you call "powerful" is actually "being a shrew."***
Sounds like you are implying that's what I am. LOL!!! Actually there are times I wish I did have that in me.
To: Age of Reason
You know, you really have a point there. I think it is partly animal instinct, and yes we are the highest on the food chain and all.
I should not be saying this, but I have never heard any serious discussion about it and am curious.
Has anybody besides me ever (especially you wimmonfolk) been so physically attracted to a member of the other sex that he SMELLS good?
I'm serious, just standing a few feet away and it is almost a magnet.
No I am not talking about BO or other nasty stuff. Just a chemical reaction I guess.
675
posted on
09/17/2005 3:09:46 PM PDT
by
girlangler
(I'd rather be fishing)
To: VegasBaby
Sure. I didn't come up with the term, other folks have. I teach peak performance and mind sciences so I am familiar with it and related concepts.
Basically, a person's Reference Group is the people a person hangs around the most with. They end up validating and conveying a certain kind of world view. It's just human nature.
Individuals tend to conform to another individual's influence in order to realize a reward or avoid punishment [the benefits of being in a 'clique' at a large company, for example], and/or more likely conform to another's influence for the purpose of enhancing or supporting his self-concept by associating or disassociating himself with positive or negative Reference Groups ["The Cool Kids" in the 11th grade, for example].
To: teldon30
Such women seem to attract either A)total low life losers or B)wusses with low self image.
Their loss.
To: summer
To: girlangler
Has anybody besides me ever (especially you wimmonfolk) been so physically attracted to a member of the other sex that he SMELLS good?Oh girrrrrrrrrrrrl......when I stop laughing.......maybe I can answer you! rofl!!!!!!!!
679
posted on
09/17/2005 3:14:50 PM PDT
by
LaineyDee
(Don't mess with Texas wimmen!)
To: LaineyDee
Darlin.....I KNOW what the biblical position is.... which is why I told you MY experiences. Don't get your skivvies in a wad....I was yanking your chain! *chuckle*I'm sorry :o(
Of course your milage varies.
680
posted on
09/17/2005 3:17:11 PM PDT
by
papertyger
("ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge" ... Charles Darwin)
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