Sex talk on campus: Columnists don't shy away from explicit advice

Knight Ridder ^ | Thursday, Sep 23, 2004 | DANA HULL

[RightWingAtheist]

The notion that the university is bastion of free love and promiscuity is a total lie. I couldn't get a girlfriend in univeristy, not because I was shy, but because every single woman I met already had a boyfriend. And when I got to grad school, they were all married. They literaly got married before they were old enough to drink. Did they serve tang instead of champagne at the reception?

[cjshapi]

An "if you drink Windex after sex you won't get pregnant" ping.

[RightWingAtheist]

I'm going to try to remember all those double-etendres the next time I'm adding keywords to a Mark Morford posting.

[theFIRMbss]

>I find it hilarious that 20-somethings are giving sex advice. Wisdom comes from experience.

Hell, I'm 44
and I wouldn't be able
to write a helpful

bumper sticker on
sex, let alone pass along
an advice column . . .

[Darksheare]

I didn't say that the place was a bastion of free love.
I said that the message sent out was 'x' where 'x' is defined by the philosophies espoused by those in control of the campus.
Please reread it again.

[Area Freeper]

Actually using any of them in a Keyword search will no doubt retrieve one of his columns. Too bad Sari's a chick. Seems like she could have found a soulmate.

[RightWingAtheist]

I know, I read it throughly. I just had a rant strike me at the moment I read it.

The double standards are legend. The Womyn's Center at my undergrad institution was responsible for instituing a sexual harrassment code where looking at someone for a prolonged period of time could get you expelled. Meanwhile, they also sponsored Sex Fairs where condoms were handed out for free.

[hopespringseternal]

. "Last semester, a female student in one of my courses asked if it was true that drinking Windex after sex meant you would not get pregnant."

Well, some people will always be idiots no matter how much advice you dole out to them.

Parents and churches, though, make a huge mistake when they try to punt the issue by telling kids sex is always dirty, nasty, sinful or leave them with that impression by refusing to ever talk about it. That works fine up until puberty, then it just isn't plausible to the rational mind that God gave us such an immense drive for something that is intrinsically sinful.

Then when the dam finally breaks, parents and churches lose all credibility for convincing young people to control their sex drives.

[Darksheare]

AH, now I understand.
*slaps forehead*

I was on the receiving end once of the "you're sexually harassing me" bit at a college once.
I was the poor sap stupid enough to be polite and hold the door open for some young ladies.
The majority of women older than me by as little as two years say they enjoy it when the door is held open for them.
Women my age (29 now) and younger sometimes politely say "I have it" and others will go off ranting about how they "don't need any man" and other similar statements.

It's pretty disorienting to experience.
And agreed, the double standards are completely out beyond Pluto in their shameless boldness and stridency.

[Area Freeper]

I find that if you just smile at them and say something like "Whatever you say jiggles," they usually turn bright red and are too infuriated to respond. Works for me.

[Darksheare]

LOL!!
I'd get mugged for that.
Most of the female population around this area is taller than I.

[adam_az]

and others will go off ranting about how they "don't need any man"

Just tell them, "sorry, I thought you were a guy in drag. It won't happen again!"

[Area Freeper]

BTW, you really need to click on the link in post 18.

[Darksheare]

Already did..
She sounds like someone I once knew.
And that makes it even worse to read since I have this friend's voice in mind while reading that.
*wincing*

Only thing is, my friend wasn't serious about that subject, she merely deadpanned such statements and waited for the reaction.

[Darksheare]

LOL!
I'm gonna get maced!
I am SO gonna get maced!

[dennisw]

The ABCs of how to be a soulless slut from someone who already is.

[Junior]

True, but it does make things clearer.

[Mr. Jeeves]

I couldn't get a girlfriend in univeristy, not because I was shy, but because every single woman I met already had a boyfriend.

Women often use men they don't really like as "placeholders" until Mr. Right comes along. And many times these placeholders aren't even real - she's just testing to see if you are interested enough (or man enough) to overcome the potential obstacle.

Next time one tries the "I have a boyfriend" line, reply, "Good, he can make us breakfast tomorrow morning." It's surprising how often the "boyfriend" turns out not to really exist after all. ;)

[cjshapi]

You got me. I can't be clever after the earlier email I received and passed on. My brain is still in a fog with terrible mental images of that man at the beach.

[NYCVirago]

While critics worry that the columns reinforce stereotypes that college students are promiscuous, others argue that the trend toward "abstinence-only" campaigns in high schools means that many students arrive on campus starved for information because they've had little to no sex education.

Yeah, that's it. These kids today don't ever hear about sex from tv or music or movies or songs or the internet or their friends. They're just totally naive on these things.