Posted on 08/08/2004 1:12:56 PM PDT by SoloGlobalExplorer
Notice how lucrative it is for the parasite class too.
OH divorce is 'wonderfull' and typical. This is the cost free result of our sex in the city culture.
I know someone whose husband kicked over his six figure salary and went to work as what essentially is a janitor. The wife had an oppertunity to double her salary and provide a better environment for the children. She offered to find him another equal job if he would relocate with them. He refused and and the children continue stuck in a less than good environment. He has no attachments in the area...just plain bitter and mean.
Constitutional right to travel? That must be right after the separation of church and state amendment.
Oh my gosh, Dr. Laura would have a field day with this one! It's her biggest pet peeve and everyday people call her with this same exact situation. What should the mother in case one do: HAVE HER NEW HUSBAND FIND A JOB IN NEW YORK. When he married her he also agreed to the terms of the divorce. It's just too bad. The child is the one who suffers.
My husband and I are currently fighting one of these cases here in Illinois. We are trying to keep his 15 yr old daughter here. Her mother moved to Florida a few months ago and wants to move her there also... the mom's reason for moving? She wants her other two kids to be close to their father....her ex-husband. We should find out by the end of this month.
But of course. All the rules are made to benefit them. Just try and represent yourself in a family law matter. Hell, just try and navigate through probate court. Don't EVER trust a lawyer that someone else found for you. Child Support, people's assets/inheritance...the courts/government has found ways to skim as much money off people as possible.
Radical reforms need to be enacted in all areas of law, where the goal is to suck the average citizen dry.
I'm in a quandry too, and I'm selfish and mean. I want to stay here where I grew up, (in CA...but Reagan Country :)) and my husband wants to move back to PA. His 12 year old daughter is there with his wife. We should move back there to be near her as she is getting pretty boy crazy. My 16 year old has not seen her dad in seven months and looks upon a move in the middle of high school a great adventure. I wish I were as open as she was. My other daughter is deaf and there are much better schools on the east than the west for her situation. There are way more positives to moving than negatives. We will know this week what the job situation is and if my 16 year old still likes the area after she visits again.
I wish you luck with your situation. Your husband is great for fighting this.
Thanks...and good luck to you also. Wow, we are just waiting for the courts...but you have some major, possible life changing decisions to make. I'll say some prayers for you and your family!
Are you familiar with Glenn Sacks? He's actively involved with this issue. He has a radio program, and a newsletter, among other things. Dr. Laura is on board with this issue.
Check out this site:
http:/www.mensnewsdaily.com
I hope I got that address right. You can access Roger's columns, Glenn's radio show, and some other very good articles.
Anybody still wonder why men don't call back, after finding out a woman has minor children? Unless there's absolutely NO dad involved, it can be quite complicated. Even then, a man is going to get that "You're not my father," look from his stepkids, unless he arrives on the scene VERY early in their lives.
OR very late. When I married my stepkids were in High School. They were great to me from day one and I love them like they're my own.
I am one of those who could benefit, financially, from moving. The area where I live with my two kids doesn't have many jobs available.
I have been looking for 2 1/2 years for a FT Permanent job with benefits.
My ex moved 12 hours away.
He has only chosen to see the kids once in almost 3 years.
He has only called them 4 times in 3 years.
But I still have to petition the courts before I can move, and before I can petition the courts, I have to have a ligitimate reason to do so. Like...a job waiting for me. Then the courts can take several weeks to several months to make the decision on whether I can move. What company is going to hire me and then be willing to wait that long before I can start work?
It's a mess. And just for the record...he was the one who ended the marriage. He ran off with the kids one day while I was at school (post secondary classes). Took me three weeks to find the kids! No calls, no letters, nothing to let me know the kids were still alive!
You're very lucky, I'm just waiting out the final couple of weeks until my stepdaughter leaves to go to college out of state. It started out OK, but she resents an awful lot about the changes that have happened since I moved in here a year and a half ago. She just never got used to the idea of a male authority figure in the household, or anyone who lives differently from her mother and grandmother (who has different tastes and preferences in food, music, or TV).
She's got a rude awakening coming when she gets to college, but at least it will be her peers delivering the lesson.
well, in all fairness, we weren't the custodial parents. I give his ex-wife alot of credit for bringing them up and well as she did.
Gotta defend the city, here -- divorce rates are highest in the South and Southwest and lowest in the Northeast. A lot has to do with early marriages; it's a rare couple of 21-year-olds who are smart enough to know what they're getting into signing up a 36-month-lease on a new truck, to say the least of a life-long commitment like marriage.
I have lived in both, and currently have lived seven years in NYC. It is a shaq and shag culture here. Sorry.
The sleeze rate is much higher here..
The one time I saw this issue come up, the Judge told the ex-husband that he couldn't keep his ex-wife from moving, but that the Judge would award him primary physical custody if she did. Ex-husband, now with a bachelor pad in the city and a 27-year-old girlfriend, starts to hem and haw. Judge then lets the wife move out to Seattle and take the kids. Ex-husband now spends $2,000 a month to fly his kids out for weekends...
" Don't EVER trust a lawyer that someone else found for you. Child Support, people's assets/inheritance...the courts/government has found ways to skim as much money off people as possible"
It's worse that that. Attorneys are paid to represent you, not educate you. If you want to play bitter spouse they'll (a majority of them) accomodate you to the tune of their cut off of your last asset.
A friend's exwife has blown through 2 attorneys and $16,000-20,000 of her cut of the assets in legal fees because she is too stupid to realize she can't hurt her ex husband(kids dad) but she keeps trying.
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