Posted on 06/26/2004 6:54:34 PM PDT by BluegrassScholar
bump.
I am a middle class lady living in a very affluent area of town. It is true about the women. I see so many women here whose husbands work themselves 12-15 hours a day to pay the mortgage on their million dollar homes, hire nannies, send the kids to expensive private schools, buy their wives enormous diamonds and yet their wives still aren't happy. They complain their husbands aren't home enough, yet if they cut their hours these women complain that their husbands are home too much and are interfering in their lives. It's sooo sad. I love and respect my husband who works hard so that I may stay home and raise our children. The hours are long and our home is small, but we are happy. My husband and kids are my priority but for many women it is indeed the latest sale at Nieman Marcus. Sometimes it's embarrassing to be a woman.
Been there, done that, still fighting BUMP!!
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Although this article goes into it a bit, most people still think that fathers are the major child abusers. In reality, fathers are the least likely people to abuse their children.
Is there a fatherhood crisis? Dunno. I raised my son alone since his father (my ex) decided to go his separate way. He chose to have nothing to do with my son and me. Gotta give the a**hole credit though--he did send child support regularly.
Yet, further in the article it states that: "Some 40% of the nation's children and 60% of African American children live in homes without their fathers."
There is big discrepancy in these numbers.
In the largest federally funded study ever undertaken on the subject, Arizona State University psychologist Sanford Braver demonstrated that few married fathers voluntarily leave their children. Braver found that overwhelmingly it is mothers, not fathers, who are walking away from marriages. Moreover, most of these women do so not with legal grounds such as abuse or adultery but for reasons such as “not feeling loved or appreciated.”
Hmmmm, can't say I blame him...
And as they say "you don't know the whole story."
Sometimes I think there's a Parenthood crisis...
This is a chilling read. Been through one divorce (no fault). What they say about judged imputing income is true and a nightmare for men everywhere.
Prove it or stick that one where the sun don't shine ma'am.
In a culture (leftwing) which is increasingly encouraging women to not see marriage as a union; but more as a "business partnership", women are thereby rendering their children as merely unproductive results of a bad partnership. These children are then left to fend for their own amid psychologists, child custody courts, "school" counselors who all champion the notion that children are suffering "self-esteem issues". An overwhelming amount of researchers and politicians and journalists haven't a "clue" as to why?
Feminists have used the "charge" stats, from all I've read of serious, well-respected papers and journalists -- to further the claim the fathers are "abusers". And they use these numbers; not the corrected ones.
And for the fathers so falsely charged who cannot AFFORD to hire lawyers to rebut the falsehoods, there is no assistance.
Additionally, it has only been in recent years that adult female upon young male molestations has even been permitted, legally and culturally, to be "implied" or "suggested" as "rape". "Rape" as defined by all legal terms has explicit meanings: Penis penetration of vagina in non-consensual females. This is also why, legally, homosexual rape of a man would not be called "rape". In many courts, the original definition yet remains.
Only recently is any attention being paid to the matter of adult females sexually preying on young males.
Things to think about when considering stats on who "rapes" children more often -- males or females.
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