AIDS Fears Grow for Black Women

NY Times ^ | April 5, 2004 | LINDA VILLAROSA

[Capriole]

This whole discussion is as sad as it is hilarious.

Here is a black man saying that he dates white women because too many black women are displaying drama and attitude, while the white men on this forum say that they despise white women and want to date Asians and Latinas because the white women are full of drama and attitude. So who are the Asian men are going to date, Antarcticans?

I do believe that half the problems in the world would be solved if (a) single mothers did not so often spoil their little boys, who grow up to be problem men, and (b) every woman was required by law to study Dr. Laura's book, which is a font of wisdom. If a woman puts into operation the stuff that's in that book and her man is not happy, he's a crazy loser and she should move on to someone sane. Then she would have a happy stable marriage and her sons would grow up with fathers in the house so they would not be spoiled and we would not hav enother generation of unmarriageable problem boy/men. That is not a racial issue but a social issue of enormous import for this nation.

[AppyPappy]

Although this may not be typical, I was protesting at the White House when I was confronted by a black couple who told me that everyone commits adultery. When I stated that I had never even so much as kissed another woman after I married, they refused to believe it. They could not even comprehend fidelity.

I thought it was an anomoly until the Clinton Scandal heated up. Then came Jesse Jackson's baby. And suddenly, people in the black community were all saying "Everyone does it".

[Warrior Nurse]

You are so right the feminazis and their ilk have gone on to emasculate me. Remember when the standard answer for a little boy growing up was that I wanted to be a police or fireman or soldier. Are we hearing that response now? We have gone full circle now the women that wanted the brass ring went out and got it but at what cost? When men act like men they get their testicles chopped off and put in a lock box.

This is what is happening when you take the natural aggressiveness of boys and try to feminize them. Bring back dodge ball and cops and robbers. You married women out here know how to keep your husbands happy. No need to go into detail.

[Sister_T]

*smh*

How hard is it to just NOT HAVE SEX?? I don't get it. I mean, you need food, you need water, you DON'T NEED sex! As a black woman, I'm saddened by this rise in AIDS in my community by this means. And some wish to blame these men's lack of honesty on "homophobia" in the Black community. Yeah, sure, whatever. It's getting to the point where I will have to tell my daughter when she gets older (she's fifteen) to carry a health questionnaire to give to any man who is interested in her! Sad! Really sad!

[Xenalyte]

"This is a big change and may be a defining moment," Dr. Leone added. "I don't mean to sound like Chicken Little, but if we don't react to this very quickly and aggressively, it'll be like the 80's all over again. Instead of gay white men, though, we'll be dealing with large numbers of young black men and their female partners."

Ah, the '80s . . . wasn't that when the big AIDS epidemic didn't happen?

[Sister_T]

Hmm, you are handsome. And your conservatism wouldn't scare me. And you're a military man too. Some pluses.

But since I'm already married to a Black man who isn't scared of the "drama and attitude" I may have, oh well. And, given your statements about black women, even if I weren't married it doesn't sound like I'd stand a chance anyway.

C'est la vie!

[thathamiltonwoman]

Most of the good guys are already married because girls like me snathched them up in college but you are correct.It is time for black women to start looking farther afield.