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Being afraid of being yourself
Worldnetdaily ^ | January 31, 2004 | Rabbi Shmuley Boteach

Posted on 02/01/2004 9:23:56 AM PST by StilettoRaksha

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1 posted on 02/01/2004 9:23:57 AM PST by StilettoRaksha
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2 posted on 02/01/2004 9:33:54 AM PST by Rytwyng
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To: StilettoRaksha
This seems to be saying to me that some people cannot rise above what happened to them in grade school. Now that is pitiful. Where is their inner compass? To thine own self be true is more than just a motto, it is the backbone of being comfortable in your own skin, and liking who you are.
3 posted on 02/01/2004 9:35:44 AM PST by MissAmericanPie
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To: StilettoRaksha
"All our fears boil down to one simple thing: our fear that we're not special. We're afraid that we're replaceable, one of a crowd, that there's nothing unique about us."

It's not a fear, it's a fact. Anyone that disagrees with this, list three things that make you different from anyone else on the planet.

4 posted on 02/01/2004 9:44:43 AM PST by proust (Cthulhu for president! Why vote for the lesser of two evils?)
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To: MissAmericanPie
The most sincere critics of male behavior have often failed to see that men have clung to the macho image and remained violent and alienated not because these traits define masculinity, but rather, because they mask a shameful wound in men today which crosses all socio-economic, ethnic, and political boundaries.
5 posted on 02/01/2004 9:45:34 AM PST by wwcj
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To: StilettoRaksha
I was severely bullied in school. I never let it bother me because I knew I was smarter than the other kids were. Now that I'm an adult I have a harder time dealing with guys who won't go out with me for a whole host of 'guy reasons'. I hardly carry on a conversation with the average person because a lot of people DO laugh, mock, downright tear to shreds what I have to say. I have a handful of friends who wouldn't do that to me. I've never conformed to what 'society' or the people around me THINKS I should be. I find it much easier to live with myself being honest than to be everything to all people.
6 posted on 02/01/2004 9:49:48 AM PST by cyborg
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To: StilettoRaksha
Most men today have seen fathers and other men deal with anger in only two ways: either by stuffing it and withdrawing, or by lashing out violently--as the ineffective wimp, or the raging monster. Few have seen Dad express anger without being destructive--either outwardly, toward others, or inwardly, toward himself. Not wanting to be a wimp, the man is left with violence as his only apparent option when angry; if he renounces violence as well, he has literally no place in the world to go.
7 posted on 02/01/2004 9:52:12 AM PST by wwcj
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To: cyborg
Good for you. :)
8 posted on 02/01/2004 9:54:06 AM PST by StilettoRaksha (" Only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it")
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To: cyborg
We're not trapped in shame because we keep falling. We keep falling because we're trapped in shame.
9 posted on 02/01/2004 9:55:47 AM PST by wwcj
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You're right. Some folks may think 'shame' is psychobabble but those don't have a clue. Shame is a HUGE reason behind a lot of inaction/indecision/bad decisions,etc.
10 posted on 02/01/2004 9:59:39 AM PST by cyborg
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To: proust
Has anyone ever told you that you are profound? That never in Eternity was there you before, and never will there be again?

Discover that first, and answers 2 and 3 will follow in it's time....

11 posted on 02/01/2004 10:01:24 AM PST by JoJo Gunn (Gut and raze the NEA! ©)
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To: cyborg
Rejection has been harder for me than to just know I am smarter than those that dished it out. My own opinion of myself could never fill the need that I have for other humans. You're either a time bomb waiting to happen, extremely unfulfilled, or one that has gotten a lot of grace and mercy by being protected from God the Creator.
12 posted on 02/01/2004 10:03:48 AM PST by wwcj
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I wonder how much of this is passed down from father to son? My husband use to coach little league, we had a great little team that held together for several years, 32 consecutive wins, a hundred wins seven losses. If I may brag on my husband, he never allowed there to be a "star".

Everyone got a chance to play every position, he would not put a kid in harms way, if it was obvious a kid could get creamed in a postion he didn't put him through that. Every kid felt himself a vital part of the whole, every childs ego was stroked, we celebrated each childs birthday as a whole, skating parties, etc.

Some of the teams we played did not share this philosophy. The coach's son would be the pitcher, there was alot of Type A aggression being taught to their little players. It robbed the joy and the fun of the game from those kids and made baseball something they didn't really want to be a part of.

I saw one coaches son, the pitcher, break down in tears and refuse to play because of the life or death pressure put on him to perform. I really can't blame bullies for being bullies, if it's a learned behaviour.
13 posted on 02/01/2004 10:04:51 AM PST by MissAmericanPie
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To: wwcj
No I'm not a time bomb waiting to happen. I just had a half way decent family, and few nice friends and a nice dog.
14 posted on 02/01/2004 10:07:08 AM PST by cyborg
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To: MissAmericanPie
There could be a whole psychiatric specialty devoted to parents and their children in sports activities/stage moms,etc.
15 posted on 02/01/2004 10:09:38 AM PST by cyborg
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To: StilettoRaksha
That Rabbi is obviously a democrat or worse... if a democrat had any sense they would'nt even be a democrat...
16 posted on 02/01/2004 10:12:04 AM PST by hosepipe
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To: JoJo Gunn
It is not easy for a person to know how important they are, because the wounded person in his/her psyche tells themself it's safer not to know. That is, to know how important you are, you must remember and confess how important your own caregiver (the one responsible for your own nuturing) was to you. And that is like facing giants. It's not just changing your mind about your beliefs. It's having to deal with real pain.
17 posted on 02/01/2004 10:13:17 AM PST by wwcj
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To: Mr. Low Key
If God thinks I'm unique and worthy to breathe air that's good enough for me.
19 posted on 02/01/2004 10:16:20 AM PST by cyborg
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