Posted on 07/07/2009 12:41:27 PM PDT by marthemaria
Dear Heavenly Father,
We’re so thankful for the loving parents you give us who care for and comfort us. Thank you for that blessing in our lives.
Father, we lift up to you, marthemaria, who is burdened with overwhelming grief that threatens to overpower her. Father, we ask that you would pour out a spirit of peace upon marthemaria and that you would send her an abundance of comfort and support at the exact moments when she needs them because only you know when marthemaria is most troubled. Speak to her during those times, Father. Let her know the power of your love and mercy. Give her the peace that is beyond all human comprehension. When she is struggling, help her to be still and know that you are Lord. Teach her to put that overwhelming burden of grief at your feet.
Father, use this time in her life to draw her ever closer to you. Show her that your love can take away the pain and emptiness that she feels and replace it with beautiful, sweet memories to hold as a treasure in this life. Right now, Father, memories of her mother bring mostly pain and sorrow. We know that isn’t what you want for her. Release her from the feelings of anger and helplessness. Empower her with your joy. Strengthen her with your love. Enable her to remember her mother with joy in her heart and a smile on her face.
Father, all things are possible through you. Yes, even this will pass. We ask all these things in the name of our Lord Christ Jesus. Amen.
BTTT
Job 12:10 ~ “In His hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of all mankind.”
Beyond that I cannot go for reasons why some are taken and others are left. May this extraordinarily painful journey in the loss of your beloved mother eventually bring you to the place where you begin to feel the warm sunshine on your tear-stained face.
“You are not forgotten, loved one ... nor will you ever be. As long as life and memory last, I will remember thee.”
PRAYERS FOR THE LORD’S LOVING COMFORT FOR YOU.
I may say to those of you also who have been bereaved—if you believe in providence you may grieve; but your grief must not be excessive. I remember at a funeral of a friend hearing a pretty parable which I have told before, and will tell again. There was much weeping on account of the loss of a loved one, and the minister put it thus. He said, “Suppose you are a gardener employed by another; it is not your garden, but you are called upon to tend it, and you have your wages paid you. You have taken great care with a certain number of roses; you have trained them up, and there they are, blooming in their beauty. You pride yourself upon them. You come one morning into the garden, and you find that the best rose has been taken away. You are angry: you go to your fellow-servants, and charge them with having taken the rose. They will declare that they had nothing at all to do with it; and one says, “I saw the master walking here this morning; I think he took it.” Is the gardener angry then? No, at once he says, “I am happy that my rose should have been so fair as to attract the attention of the master. It is his own: he hath taken it; let him do what seemeth him good.”
C.H. SPURGEON
GRACE TO YOU!
Prayers!
It’s OK to grieve.
It’s OK to visit her resting place.
It’s OK to miss her.
My mom and dad passed and I miss them both every single day even as an adult.
You will ALWAYS and FOREVER miss your mom and that’s OK too.
One day though...you will think of your mom and instead of being depressed and so sad ... you will remember her with a smile and all of a sudden your heart will be happy and light and you will begin to think about all the fun, happy, crazy times you shared together. What you begin doing and thinking about after that one day discovery... will help you accept and live with your loss in a much better and healthier frame of mind. :)
Your grief and loss will NEVER go away nor should it. You will just begin to live with it in a much more comfortable manner. Your mom will be happy knowing you have moved on with your life as she wants you too.
Just remember...we will all meet up once again with our loved ones when the time is right. She will be waiting for you with open arms and it will be a joyous reunion like mine will be when it is our time. But...until that time...we have to move on, work hard or study hard and be the very best person you can be doing everything you do in honor of your mom. That’s how you can help yourself along the way.
Be strong, keep busy, and enjoy the happy memories you have of all the wonderful times you shared. You will be fine. :)
It’s OK to grieve.
It’s OK to visit her resting place.
It’s OK to miss her.
My mom and dad passed and I miss them both every single day even as an adult.
You will ALWAYS and FOREVER miss your mom and that’s OK too.
One day though...you will think of your mom and instead of being depressed and so sad ... you will remember her with a smile and all of a sudden your heart will be happy and light and you will begin to think about all the fun, happy, crazy times you shared together. What you begin doing and thinking about after that one day discovery... will help you accept and live with your loss in a much better and healthier frame of mind. :)
Your grief and loss will NEVER go away nor should it. You will just begin to live with it in a much more comfortable manner. Your mom will be happy knowing you have moved on with your life as she wants you too.
Just remember...we will all meet up once again with our loved ones when the time is right. She will be waiting for you with open arms and it will be a joyous reunion like mine will be when it is our time. But...until that time...we have to move on, work hard or study hard and be the very best person you can be doing everything you do in honor of your mom. That’s how you can help yourself along the way.
Be strong, keep busy, and enjoy the happy memories you have of all the wonderful times you shared. You will be fine. :)
You never get over it.
You do get used to it
Lost my mom on November 6, 1985 & right now I’m sitting here crying because I know your pain. I still miss my mother more than I can ever express. It really will get better. Eventually.
Prayers going your way!!
Gathering Flowers for the Master’s Bouquet
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WP_JZ8SJBw
Heard this on the way to my Mom’s funeral.
You’re not being selfish at all. The passing of a loved one is one of the most difficult things we face as human beings. Each of us has our own way of dealing with it, and you’ll probably find yourself having thoughts and doing things that will have you questioning your sanity.
There will come a day when you realize it’s time to allow yourself to move to the next step - honoring your mother by sharing all the things she taught you and living a good life.
If you need some help in the meantime, there are online bereavement groups available where you can read and share stories and assure yourself that you’re not crazy.
It is my sincere wish that you find peace and understanding.
Thanks.
I am better know. Even though I still hurt.
Dear Fellow Freeper, I have just today (July 12th) seen your request. I wish I had seen it sooner.
I have 3 cousins who lost both their parents since last December. First was my aunt who was 63, and died without any signs of trouble in her bed. That was a huge shock to all who knew her. Then in April, her husband ran his car into a train and died at 64.
Their 3 kids are in shock. The kids are young adults. Losing parents is so indescribably disturbing. It is your very bedrock being pulled out from beneath your feet.
I have thought about how it would be for me to lose one or both of my parents. Dad is 73 and tough as nails, Mom will soon be 70 but to me looks 50. They are both active on their farm and work like they always have and eat Mom’s good cooking. I know I will fall apart when they leave this world. Dad has been the rock of the family, Mom the softie who soothes all life’s problems.
I’ve had so many relatives die young lately, it is scary to think who is next. My 54 year old uncle died of cancer 2 years ago. He was so full of life and fun, and cancer took him in less than 2 years time. He was exactly 10 years older than me. My 91 year old grama defies the odds and is outliving her own children. God works in mysterious ways we don’t understand.
One scripture that I found helpful when confronted with the deaths of loved ones is 2 Corinthians 5:8 “Sorrow not as them who have no hope, for we know that to be absent from the body is to be present with The Lord.”
That’s all I could tell my 3 cousins at their father’s funeral. Not much consolation to 3 orphans. I also led those of us there in “The Lord’s Prayer”. The poor kids had no prepared service for their Dad, so we winged it. They are all Christians, but even so, they are struggling with the loss of both parents in a few months time.
Your grief will take a long time to subside. The tears are all heaven sent, and made of pure love for your Mom. Each tear is precious to Jesus. Don’t feel bad for grieving, and how long it takes to get through that process is up to you and God. Each tear is an expression of love. And you know that, (Psalm 34:18) “The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.”
Your Mom is seen in Proverbs 31:30-31 “Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruits of her hands and let her own works praise her in The Gates.”
Matthew 26:13 “What this woman has done will also be told as a memorial to her.”
And we know your Mom is in a wonderful place...
Psalm 33:17 “Your eyes will see the King in His beauty and the highland of Heaven far away.”
Wishing you peace, TheConservativeParty
Well said. I hope he sees your post.
Prayers for you and your Mom. I know how you feel. My Mom has been gone for 10 years now and I still miss her. I go by and visit her and my Dad’s grave’s every time I’m in my hometown.
Just checking in..... How are you doing?
That’s great, glad to hear it. Hang in there, it won’t get “better” but it does start to get a little easier, after a while.
I’m a priest. One thing I can guarantee is that you do not need to worry what your priest is going to think. The main thing he is going to think/feel is happiness and gratitutde that you trusted him (and God) with your feelings and difficulties. There should be time between Masses on Sunday to hear a quick confession, and you can talk more later.
Have you realized yet that your mother still watches over you? She gave you the idea to write your letter to these people so that they could help you.
She is still with you.
Look around...she is everywhere that you are.
Marthamaria, your mom is still with you. As you go through life you will find her in your own spirit. This isn’t just a notion, trust me. A good mother is never far away from her child. Be patient.
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