Posted on 07/07/2009 12:41:27 PM PDT by marthemaria
I still have my grandmothers number in my cellphone. I just can’t bring myself to delete it. Praying for the Lord to help you with your grief.
One day at a time, one foot in front of the other. That is how you get through it. There is no other way. My Mom passed at age 46 in 1979 I still miss her.
There is a great book called Motherless Daughters - it might help to read that.
My Mom was in tremendous pain from cancer and emphysema, so I think of her no longer being in pain. I think of her in heaven and in joy. I think of her being reunited with all of her 'gone befores' of relatives and friends. I think of her enjoying everything that her illness denied to her at the end. I, finally, think of her faith and how she is in the eternal sunshine of Our Lord and Savior.
Having said this, PLEASE let me warn you on the danger of depression - it is DEADLY! If you are a singleton at home, DO NOT wall yourself up. Even if you only go to the mall and sit, go to where other people are around you! Second, FORCE YOURSELF to be happy for even a short time EACH DAY! FORCE yourself to smile, practice it in a mirror and WEAR IT OUTSIDE! Your friends will KNOW you are GRIEVING but will credit you for being stronger for it. If you have any religion - USE IT, that is a PRIME REASON for it to exist.
If you do find yourself unable to resist the 'black dog' of depression, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!! Depression is a MEDICAL CONDITION and there are medications to help you. GOD BLESS YOU!
My deepest condolences for your loss. I can only tell you from experience I’ve learned you don’t have to let go to function with daily events. I can still remember her while functioning each day. It doesn’t have to be an either or proposition. I hope that helps some for what it is worth.
Prayer BUMP
Prayers to you during this difficult time.
It would be truly sad if you didn't grieve at all.
God Bless you and your family.
I have a video with her in it, where she is talking to us. It's strange, but no one in my family is able to look at it since she died.
I think the pain of seeing her again would be too much to bare. Maybe one day..
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Hang in there. I lost my mum suddenly 2 yrs ago. Yes, she is gone, but in many ways, now closer than ever.
Memories will never die, remember always the good times and hold them close. Your mom is part of you, hold her in your heart and share your good times with her. Love knows no borders.
Cling to something else that you love.
Don’t isolate yourself. Time heals somewhat.
From too much love of living,
From hope and fear set free,
We thank with brief thanksgiving,
Whatever gods may be
That no life lives forever,
That dead men rise up never,
That even the weariest river
Winds somewhere safe to sea.
— Swinburne
I lost my Dad in 2003, and I still find myself drifting off to happy memories. The smell of his oily work shirt and Old Spice, his cup of hot coffee that seemed to always be in his hands, the roughness of his five-o’clock shadow, his size 12 shoes that looked like clown shoes on my small feet, the piggyback rides. But when exploring that gallery of my mind, I start to drift of to sadness, knowing my own little 7-year old boy will not get to know him. And how much I miss him myself.
But you know what gets me past those sad times, and I am having one right now as I write this, it is knowing Gods promise, that for ALL of who are Christians, this life is not the end, but just a small punctuation mark on the first page of a book yet to be written. I will see Dad again, I am certain, and the reunion will be beyond joyous. And he is not looking down with sadness, and your Mom is not looking down on you grieving? No. They are in Heaven, and its wonderfulness is beyond explanation, and they are so looking forward to the day they can welcome us Home. Yes, they are the ones who are Home.
I heard it said once that, - “as a Christian, the day I die will be the best day I’ve ever lived. But it won’t be the best I will ever live.”
Prayers to you my friend.
Prayers for you, hun.
Prayers for you in your grief and for all of you who have suffered the loss of a loving parent. You all are so very lucky! Many of us, myself included, have long ago lost parents not to death, but to the much more painful abandonment and mental disorder. My parents are both alive, but my father abandoned me and my mother is mentally ill and I cannot have a relationship with her. So, remember, in your grief, how incredibly blessed you were to have what you had. So many of us have never truly known love from a parent.
You have mail.
Prayers up.
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