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Myths of Infidelity
Psychology Today ^ | May/Jun 1993 (reviewed Feb 10, 2006 | Psychology Today Staff

Posted on 02/16/2006 1:47:37 PM PST by klossg

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Though infidelity is a grave sin, there is potential to regain fidelity and love. Marriage is part of our call by God to something higher. Look to the Theology of the Body for assistance to improve your marriage and sex life!
1 posted on 02/16/2006 1:47:40 PM PST by klossg
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2 posted on 02/16/2006 1:48:09 PM PST by klossg (GK - God is good!)
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To: klossg

I heard a comedian say once:

Men are as loyal as their options.

I think that is true for most part.

Maybe if you have a really hot wife, and she is really great in bed, and gets horny on regular basis, and tries different things, then maybe you have no interest in looking elsewhere......

Don't think majority of men have it that way...

JMO.


3 posted on 02/16/2006 1:53:37 PM PST by The_Republican
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To: klossg

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4 posted on 02/16/2006 2:02:43 PM PST by paradoxical
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To: The_Republican

Maybe if you have a really hot wife, and she is really great in bed, and gets horny on regular basis, and tries different things, then maybe you have no interest in looking elsewhere

This is a chicken and egg thing. If you know how to treat your woman in the bedroom, she will probably be all the above.

IMHO.

parsy, who is still a virgin.


5 posted on 02/16/2006 2:07:30 PM PST by parsifal ("Knock and ye shall receive!" (The Bible, somewhere.))
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To: The_Republican

We have a cat that adores my husband. He sleeps cuddled up next to him every night, and when my husband pets another cat he gets jealous.

It's a natural desire to have fidelity when you are emotionally committed to someone. Face it, the press is wrong!

And with all his affairs I notice that ole Heff has nobody around in his old age that loves him, so how much better did it make his defunct marriages?


6 posted on 02/16/2006 2:08:39 PM PST by Beowulf9
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To: The_Republican
Yes. I agree with you.

Marriage is a place where the man should learn from the woman and the woman from the man. If neither side learns, then it is just to put up with each other to gain advantages. And that sounds like use to me. And no human being should be used.

Marriage is a call to love another. It is a peak into heaven and the eternal banquet with the lamb. If a man accepts his wanderings as part of his fallen nature, then the graces provided through Christ's redemption are not being maximized. He calls us to love one another as he has loved us. St. Paul asks us to love as Christ loves the Church ... offering himself on the cross ... giving himself completely for her.

This is impossible on our own. But we have Christ's grace and his promises. We are called by Christ to something much higher. Hear and heed the call. Pray and communicate with your wife. Learn from her. Give yourself entirely even when she asks you to stretch out your hands for her. When tempted, call on Christ to untwist your fallen nature. To use the energy to see the beauty of a tempting woman as a sign that she is a child of God, never to be used as a thing for anyone's gratification. Through Christ's grace and prayer it is possible to redeem and untwist your sins. Only through Christ.

God bless you - look to the Theology of the Body.
7 posted on 02/16/2006 2:11:10 PM PST by klossg (GK - God is good!)
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1. Love is not a feeling. It is the way you treat someone.

2. Most people cheat because of ego, not sexual desire. They want to prove they are still attractive to the opposite sex.

3. I'm sure they're out there, but I've never known of a marriage that fully survived an affair.

4. If your partner wants to be with you, they'll be with you. If they don't, you can't watch them close enough.

5. If you don't want your wife to cheat, the first thing you do is find a woman that doesn't want to cheat. Second, never let her forget she's the most important thing in your life.

6. If your actions make your wife or husband think they're worthless, or that they're ugly, they're far more likely to cheat. They do it because they want to prove to themselves that they're still attractive. It also makes them low-hanging fruit for people looking for a quick roll in the hay.

7. Some people just don't want to be faithful. Don't marry them. If he/she cheated on you when you were dating, they'll cheat on you after you're married.

8 posted on 02/16/2006 2:15:20 PM PST by Richard Kimball
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To: The_Republican

I don't think that's true. Men are as loyal as their word.


9 posted on 02/16/2006 2:17:50 PM PST by Richard Kimball
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To: klossg

Monogamy is not only not natural but relatively new in the scheme of things. It is so UNnatural that most have to struggle to maintain it. Being madly in love with one's spouse generally makes it easier.


10 posted on 02/16/2006 2:21:11 PM PST by justshutupandtakeit (Public Enemy #1, the RATmedia.)
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To: klossg

The physician who told his wife that she had a bad smell, what a creep he was! I would have told him I smelled that same bad smell and it came from his upper lip!


11 posted on 02/16/2006 2:30:06 PM PST by Ditter
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To: klossg
After betrayal, no matter if stay together, the marriage to a lesser or greater extent, is forever emotionally irreparable.
12 posted on 02/16/2006 2:35:35 PM PST by Ursus arctos horribilis
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To: TexasGreg; GarySpFc

Ping, read later


13 posted on 02/16/2006 2:37:22 PM PST by GarySpFc (de oppresso liber)
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To: klossg

*shrugs* I have no intention of getting married, or even dating anyone seriously, so I guess it's moot as far as I go. As long as my bendy-straw does not enter another guy's Kool-Aid, there should be little to no problems.


14 posted on 02/16/2006 2:56:05 PM PST by Gordongekko909 (I know. Let's cut his WHOLE BODY off.)
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To: klossg

I don't get it. How do you regain trust? If the person has broken their word once, what proves they won't break their word again? Continuing a marriage after infidelity just seems like it will inevitably lead to continuous emotional blackmail. Stable? Maybe. But not what I'd call happiness.


15 posted on 02/16/2006 9:26:46 PM PST by billybudd
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To: ChesterCheetah

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18 posted on 08/15/2006 9:18:02 AM PDT by EX52D (Life is a stage, and we are merely players...)
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20 posted on 08/15/2006 9:22:07 AM PDT by Maximus of Texas (On my signal, pull my finger.)
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