Bully Your Way to Success: Study Proves Bullies Are Popular

FYI Living ^ | May 23, 2011 | Cory Birkett

[Rebelbase]

Both of my kids had parental approval to knock the snot of anyone bullying them and they knew if they bullied anyone they’d get the snot knocked of them either me or their mom.

Any parent who sides with schools and scolds a kid for defending themselves against a bully is doing a disservice to their child.

[SaraJohnson]

I don’t know anyone who loves bullies. But then again, I don’t hang in liberal circles.

[ransomnote]

I agree. I think in addition to the disparity in size/strength, viciousness gives a bully an unfair advantage over a ‘normal’ kid who has the capacity for empathy and, thankfully, lacks a predatory mindset. Even a child who is larger but not a vicious thug-in-training can be bested by a smaller, ambitious young thug. And children should not have to ‘become’ (act out aggression) as vicious as the bullies just to get through their day.

[hellbender]

Amen. I consider these large public schools as "youth ghettos," where kids learn the worst language and behavior present in the community. That's not the way human beings are supposed to be raised. Kids are naturally inclined to learn from and model themselves on adults. When adults are absent or abdicate responsibility, the situation can become hellish, almost like a prison, where a dominance order is established by violence or intimidation.

Human society is somewhat like that of wolves. Recent studies show that wolves in nature do not live in packs of unrelated individuals who battle for dominance; that's a myth based on studies of unrelated wolves in captivity. Real wolves live in family groups; the leader is the father, who is authoritarian but benevolent and is hardly ever challenged. That's how people lived for much of human history. Kids learned from their parents or other close relatives.

[x]

Maybe the "self-esteem" theory applies more to the bully's supporters and sycophants.

The bullies aren't insecure or lacking in a feeling of self-worth. They look like they have self-esteem to an excessive degree.

The kids who cheer the bully on or don't get involved may be the ones who are insecure and afraid.

[JmyBryan]

You and I are exactly on the same page.

[Spudx7]

She has had many and we do our very best to discipline her and train her up in the fear and admonition of the Lord. When I say she would be one of the mean girls I do mean would, not is.

It is because she is rarely left with other children without one of her parents nearby that we are able to watch for certain behaviors and nip them in the bud.

What I didn't make clear is that school settings lead to this “sorting out” and are harmful to both those being picked on and those who are doing the bullying. It is a parent's responsibility to cultivate a respect for others by training their children and being honest about their little darling's sinful nature.

[Jack Hydrazine]

You sound like great parents! Keep up the great work!

[Little Ray]

Nope.
That’s why I have told my kids that, if they fight in self defense, I’ll back them up all the way. They might get punished, but not by me...

[NoControllingLegalAuthority]

Bullies are sociopaths. They have no conscience. Treating others as pawns is part of their manipulative behavior. These individuals do not have self-esteem problems. They believe themselves to be the center of the universe and society's laws and rules are for the suckers....their victims.

Their only goal in life is winning. They will do anything to win and even act against their own self-interest to force their will upon others.

Various studies have shown they represent about 4% of the general population. They are responsible for most of the world's interpersonal misery and they actually have a brain scan different from normal human beings.

If these individuals were quickly identified and physically isolated, the world would be a demonstrably better place.

They cannot be "cured" as they see absolutely nothing wrong with themselves. They do not have normal emotions and cannot feel love or guilt as would a normal human with a conscience.

They are not necessarily violent criminals but are a scourge upon the human population because of their complete absence of connection to the basic social contract most humans respect and follow.

[Spudx7]

Thanks!

[DarkWaters]

You know, he looks a little bit like Jeff Dunham’s Akmed (sp?) the dead terrorist in that picture.

[bvw]

Mayor Bloomberg (left) character from BeetleJuice movie (right)

[yefragetuwrabrumuy]

There is an educational theory that to my knowledge has never been intentionally tried.

If you look at a wolf pack, its puppies continually vie for position until a hierarchy has been established. But calling it a hierarchy is something of a human construct, because while there are alpha and beta, all the way to omega wolves, once wolves have found their place in the pack, they perform a *specialized* purpose for that role. And even the omega dog purpose is important to the pack as a whole.

So instead of trying to push all children to all be “alphas”, what would happen if they were not just permitted to establish their own pecking order, but facilitated in establishing their role among their peers?